Ngelishwa, kwanokuba abantu abanomdla kakhulu abanokugwenywa nokunyaniseka. Ngoko ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ukwazi ukuphendula ngokufanelekileyo nangokufanelekileyo ukuhlambalaza.
Ngaba uqikelele ukuba uphendule ukuhlambalaza?
- Abaninzi banomdla kwimpendulo yombuzo wendlela yokuphendula ngokufanelekileyo kwaye ngobuqili ukuhlambalaza, kwaye oku kuchanekileyo, ukuhlaziya kunokusombulula imeko yongquzulwano kunye nokuzola. Kungenxa yokuba abantu abavame ukuhlambalaza kungekhona ngenxa yokungabikho kokukhuliswa kwabo, bafuna ukukwenza. Abantu abanjalo bayakuvuyela ukubona umsindo womnxibelelwano, kuba uvuyo lokufumana umntu ngaphandle kwabo. Ngoko ke, ukuba uyayazi indlela ekhohlakeleyo ngayo ukuphendula ukuhlambalaza, yenza oko, umoni uya kuphosa ukuziphatha okunjalo kwi-stupor. Emva kwakho konke, ukuba uhleka ukuhlaselwa kwakhe, ngoko awufuni ukucaphuka. Umntu oqhwabayo uya kuqonda ukuba akayi kufumana oko ufuna kwaye uya kukhangela ixhoba elitsha.
- Qinisekisa ukuba uqwalasele inqanaba lomntu othetha naye-umntu ongeyena ongenalucalulo akayi kuqonda izivakalisi ezinzima. Ihlazi elingaphantsi kwebhanti kunye nezivakalisi ezilula - kunjalo. Kodwa ingqondo (okanye ukuzicingela), loo ndlela yokunxibelelana iya kuba yithuba elitsha lokuhlambalaza.
- Ngendlela efanelekileyo ukuphendula njani ukuhlambalaza? Zama ukuqonda isizathu sokuba umntu enze oku. Izinsuku ezimbi zenzeke kuwo wonke umntu, mhlawumbi, ukuphawula okubukhali kubangelwa ukuhluleka emsebenzini. Kule meko, inqaku elithi "usuku olubi" luya kukwanela. Umntu onelanelekileyo uya kuqinisekisa oku, kwaye uxolise kuwe ngenxa yobunzima. Kodwa ukuba ujongene ne "troll" yangempela, umbuzo onjalo uya kubangela ukuba uhlalutye olukhulu.
- Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuba uphendule njani ukuhlambalaza, yenza ngokuthobeka. Ukuba umntu uphukise ngokungacwangciswanga, kuya kukunceda ukuphula umhlaba. Kwaye ukuba ujongene nobuqhetseba obungcali, ngokobupolitika bakho buza kumbonisa ukuba apha akayi kudla ukutya.
Yintoni endingayithetha ngayo ukuhlambalaza?
- Awufuni ukuthetha kunye ne "troll"? Musa ukwenza oku, cwaka. Kwaye ukuhlaselwa kwakhe "Uthetha ntoni, akukho nto yokuthetha?", Unako ukuphendula rhoqo. Ngokomzekelo, mxelele ukuba unokwazi ukuthetha kakhulu, kodwa unesaba ukuba ingqondo yakhe ayikwazi ukuqonda isitatimenti sakho.
- Ngaba wenze into engabonakaliyo malunga nokubonakala? Ndixelele ukuba babekhawuleza ukusebenza kwaye babengenaso ixesha lokujonga kwisibuko. Kwaye ke, emva kokujonga i-interlocutor ngamehlo, ngokuvuya uthi "O, ndiyabona, awuthandi ukukhangela kwisibuko."
- Ngaba uxelwa ukuba unxibe iimpahla ezincinci? Phendula "iqhawe" elikulo mzobo kunye nezigubhu eziphambukayo ziya kubonakala njengengubo yokuhlwa.
- Ngaba ungekho ngokucacileyo ukubonisa ukungakwazi? Buza ukuba ufundise yonke into kwaye ungakulibali ukuqaphela ukuba le nto iya kuba yimeko ebalulekileyo, kuba umfundi uyazi ootitshala abaninzi.
- Ngaba umsebenzi wakho ugxekwa? Phonsa ukugxeka entanyeni, kodwa ungagxothi, kodwa uwanga, udibanise kwaye umbulele. Ngenxa yokumangaliswa, yitsho ukuba ukuba akayithandi umsebenzi wakho, ngoko ke bonke abanye baya kuvuya.
- Ukuphikiswa kungaphendulwa ngenye indlela. Buza ukuba i-brat ineziphakamiso ezithile zokulungisa umsebenzi. UHam uya kukhanda kwaye, ngeempumlo zakhe, ahambe, azicabange ukuba ngumphathi wale meko. Umntu onelanelekileyo, nokuba uthethe ngokukhawuleza, uya kuzama ukulungelelanisa umbono wakhe ngokuphakamisa iindlela zokulungisa.
Indlela yokufunda ukuphendula ngokuchanekileyo ukuhlambalaza?
Asiyena sonke esazi indlela yokufumana impendulo efanelekileyo kwincoko. Oku, ukusuka kude noxinzelelo, sicinga ukuba singakwazi njani ngoku ngokufanelekileyo kwaye siphendule ngokuhle ukuhlambalaza, kodwa umzuzu sele ulahlekile. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Funda kwiimpazamo zakho.
- Ngaba uyazi ukuba abantu bavame ukusebenzisa imifanekiso yamaphethini entetho yabo? "I-Trolls" ithanda ukuyenza. Ngoko ke, ukuze uphelelwe umoya ngexesha elizayo, njengeentlanzi eziselunxwemeni, qeqesha kwangaphambili. Yenza uluhlu lwezona ziqhelo eziqhelekileyo uze uze nezimpendulo ezifanelekileyo kubo.
- Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abakwazi ukuphendula ngokunyaniseka ngenxa yokholo lwabo nokungaqiniseki. Lahla ezi mpawu, ukuqeqesha phambi kwesibuko ukuzithoba kokuziqhenya kwaye emva koko iinqwelwana ziya kukudlulela.
Inhlanhla ekusebenzelaneni nabantu abanobuqili kunye nabantu abangenangqungquthela endleleni!