Ukulawula abantu ubugcisa bokwenene kunye nesayensi eyinkimbinkimbi. Ukugxila abantu, baxhobe ukuba benze oko ufuna ukukuqondisa "kumzila" wabo, kufuneka ufunde ezinye iindlela zokushukumisa umntu. Kukho ubuchule obuninzi bokufundisa ukuba ungaphantsi kwabantu okanye uhlakulele ukukwazi ukulawula abantu ngaphakathi kwakho, kodwa siya kuqwalasela ngokufanelekileyo.
Indlela yokufunda indlela yokuphatha abantu?
Ukuqonda indlela yokuphatha abantu, kufuneka ube nolwazi lweengqondo zengqondo, ukwazi "ukufumanisa" iimpawu zomntu ngamnye, iimpawu zakhe. Nangona kunjalo, ubugcisa bokulawula abantu akufuneki nje kuphela ukufundiswa kweengxelo, kodwa kunye nokusebenza, ukwenzela ukuba uphumelele kumntu, kubalulekile ukuba ufunde iindlela eziphambili zempembelelo kunye nokuziqhelanisa rhoqo, uhloniphe ubuchule bakho bokuxhaphaza abantu. Ngoko, makhe sibuyele kwiindlela eziphambili kakhulu, sisebenzisa oko ungayithobela umntu:
- Isibheno ngamagama . Ukubiza umntu ngegama, ubonisa ukuba uyamhlonela, ugxininise ukubaluleka kwakhe, ngoko ke ufumane indawo yakhe.
- Flattery . Kubonakala ngathi oku akunzima kuwo onke, ukunconywa okunye, amagama amahle, njl. Nangona kunjalo, akusiyo yonke into elula, ukuba umntu uvakalelwa kukungathembeki, ngokukhawuleza udala iimvakalelo ezimbi. Ukuchukumisa abantu, kufuneka ukwazi ukuba yintoni na onokuyenza, ngokubhekiselele kubo, njl njl. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba uncwina umntu onesidima esiphezulu, unokukwazi ukufezekisa indawo yakhe kwaye ube nemvakalelo emihle, kwaye ukuba ngaba usebenzisa indlela enxulumene nomntu onzima, mhlawumbi uya kuhlolisisa ukuncoma kwakho, njengento yokugculela ngokwalo kwaye kuya kuba nzima ukuba ulungiselele wona kwaye uzuze ukuzithemba.
- Ukuphulaphulisa ukuphulaphula . Xa uthetha nomntu, ungamphazamisi nantoni na, nangona ukuba umbono wakhe uhambelana neyakho kwaye awuvumelani noluvo lwakhe. Mamela umnxibelelwano, makhe athethe, uze ubonise intlonipho yakho, ugxininise ukubaluleka kwembono yakhe. Emva kokuphela kokugqiba kwakhe ukuthetha ngentetho yakhe, umnxibelelwano wakho uya kuqala ukukuphulaphula, nangona ukuba uluvo lwakhe luhambelana neyakho.
- Jonga kakuhle . Funda ukujonga abantu ngqo emehlweni, kungekhona nje kuphela, kodwa njengokungathi ukugqithisa umntu. Kufuneka ubonise isikhundla sakho, ukuzithemba, ukuzimisela nokunyamezela. Umbono onjalo kwinqanaba elincinci liza kubangela ukuba umntu athobe, engafuni ukuphikisana nomntu onamandla.
- Hypnosis . Abantu abaninzi banomdla wendlela yokulawula umntu ngamandla okucinga, le ndlela isekelwe kulo. Ugqugquzela iingcamango zakho, ugxininise ukuthanda kwakho, uphumelele kwisicatshulwa somntu. Nangona kunjalo, oogqirha kuphela abasebenzisa i-hypnosis, abantu abangazi ukuba kukuphi ukuzama ukuzama, kuba kuyingozi.
- U mbulelo . Ukuba ubuze umntu ukuba enze into, emva kokuba uzaliswe umsebenzi, qiniseka ukumbulela, ngoko uya kumbonisa umntu ukubaluleka kwakhe kwaye kubangele intlonelo kwidilesi yakhe.
Izicelo zakho ziya kuqhubeka zizaliseka, kwaye ngokukhawuleza. - Yithi cha . Uninzi lwabantu alukwazi ukuba "ngqo. Abaninzi abahlali behlazileyo, abaninzi banamahloni, abanye bayakoyika ukukhubeka, njl njl. Ukuba ufunda ukuthi "hayi" ngokuqinile, abantu abazungezile baya kuziva ukuba umntu onamandla, onesibindi kunye nodidi, ongazifuni ukuphikisana nayo yonke into.
Njengoko ufunde namhlanje ubuchwephesha obufihlakeleyo bokuphatha abantu, zama ngoku ngoku, kwaye mhlawumbi uya kulawula ukuba ube yinkokheli.