Ukuqonda ngokuqhelekileyo yingqiqo ephosakeleyo, leyo, ekuthethwa ngayo, imele ibe yinto efanayo, kodwa, njengoko ivela rhoqo, iyahluka kwiinkalo ezininzi. Ngamanye amaxesha kukho ukuvakalelwa kukuba ukuqonda ngengqondo yintlobo yesiganeko, apho abaninzi abathandekayo bethu bathanda ukukhala:
- "Wenza okuphambene nomqondo oqhelekileyo!"
- "Oku kuphikisana nomqondo oqhelekileyo!"
- "Akukho nto! Ulungile-njalo! "
Zingaphi izihlandlo esizive ngayo ezi binzana ezivela kumama kunye nabazali bethu, kubathandekayo bethu kunye nabaphathi emsebenzini. Bahlala besitsho oku ngenxa yokuba ezinye zezenzo zethu "azifanelanga" kumzekelo wazo wehlabathi. Oko, ngokubanzi, kuyaqondakala, kuba abantu banamava ahlukileyo ahlukeneyo, izizukulwana kunye nokukhuliswa.
Ngokwemfundiso, ukuqonda ngokubanzi kukudibanisa kweembono kunye nokuphendula kwihlabathi elikujikelezile. Nguye lowo, ngokusemthethweni, ophantsi kokuziphatha komntu. Olu luhlobo oluthile lwesimo sengqondo kwizinto ezenzekayo kwihlabathi, ezinye izakhono nezimpumelelo zezizukulwana ezipheleleyo zabantu, amaxesha kunye nembono apho babenokubambisana ngayo kwaye ngenxa yoko-bamkela le ndlela yokucinga-ilungelo kunye nelungileyo. Ukuqonda ngokuqhelekileyo kubophelela kakhulu abantu kwizithethe.
Ukuqonda ngokubanzi kwihlabathi lanamhlanje
Abafilosofi baye bachaza igama elithi "ingqiqo", njengento into eyenziwa ngumntu, uyamkela ngokunyanisekileyo inyaniso. Idluliselwa kwisizukulwana kwisizukulwana, ukusuka kumzali ukuya kumntwana. Olu bulumko bulumko kunye nokuqonda.
Nangona kunjalo, kuyafaneleka ukuvuma ukuba ngeli xesha lethu uluntu lisebenzisa le ntetho kunokuba ligxininise ukungabikho kwezenzo zale mntu okanye lowo mntu. Ukungabi nantoni kunabo. Ukuqonda ngokuqhelekileyo luhlobo "lomkhulu umzalwana", i-antipode yeemvakalelo, ukunyanzelisa, ukuziphatha, kunye namaxesha athile, kwanokuba yi-adventurism. Ukwenza ngokuchasene nomqondo oqhelekileyo kuthetha ukuzenza uncharacteristic, kubantu abaninzi, izenzo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo eli binzana livakala kubantu "abengalona kweli hlabathi," oko kukuthi, abantu abenzileyo, okanye kwidilesi yolutsha. Ngokuqhelekileyo asebenzi ngendlela engqiqo kunye nolwazi oluqhelekileyo lithetha. "Ukuphambukiswa" okunjalo kwimigangatho eyamkelekileyo kunye nemigangatho yenza ukuba kube lula ukucinga, ukuvelisa izinto ezintsha, ukulungisa nokudala.
Mhlawumbi, ekuqaleni-ukuxhomekeka kwengqiqo-ngokuqinisekileyo isibambiso sokuphuhliswa komntu ngamnye kunye nolwazi olufanelekileyo. Ngokugqithiseleyo ukulahlekelwa kwakhe - unokwenzeka ukuba "unamathela" kwimeko ethile engathandekiyo: ukubuyela ekhaya kwintombazana emva kwexesha nangommandla omnyama - ungenalo ingqiqo; ukuqhuba ishishini (umsebenzi, ukufundisisa), ungenzi nto omele uyiyenze - ayikho into engqiqweni. Zombini ezi zinto ziza kubakhokelela kwimiphumo ethile. Umbuzo kuphela: ngaba le miphumo oyifunayo?
Kodwa ungakholelwa ukuba ngokukhawuleza akuyeke ukwenza oko ukulangazelela kwaye ufuna. Ukholo lokulondolozwa luphakathi kwethu kwaye aluyi kuvumela ukuba sizibulale. Ukuba umntu uyayiqonda ingqiqo yindlela yokuthatha isigqibo esifanelekileyo esekelwe kwimeko enikwe umntu, ukwenza ukucinga okulungileyo, okuza kusekelwe ekucingeni okucetywayo kunye namava aqokelelelwe kwiminyaka. Ethetha ngento yokuba umntu unalo mgangatho wokucinga, sithetha ukuba umntu unako ukumelana nokubandlulula, ukwesaba nokukhohlisa. Ukuba amava akhe akwanele ukuhlalutya yonke idatha kunye nokwenza ikhethelo. Kwaye olu khetho luya kuba yintlukwano phakathi kwabantu kunye nehlabathi.