Abanye abakuboni nantoni na "ixhaphaza" ekuziphatheni kwayo nayiphi na into ekhethekileyo, kodwa abantu abakujikelezileyo bahlala bexhala, behlazo kunye nokucaciswa kobudlelwane, iingxoxo kwiitoni eziphezulu zibangela iingxaki ezininzi kwaye zonakalisa isimo sengqondo . Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba iimpawu zomdlalo wakho azilimazi abanye kuphela, kodwa, ngaphezu kwakho konke, ngokwakho, cinga ngendlela yokuhlaziya kunye nokulinganisela.
Ukufunda ukuhlalisa
Akukho zixazululo ezingenakuthenjwa, ngoko ke, ukuba uthe wagqiba ukuletha uxolo kunye nokuvisisana ebomini bakho kwaye ungaphenduli kuwo onke amazwi kunye nokuqhuma kweemvakalelo, thabatha iingcebiso ezingayi kukukunceda ukuba uqonde indlela yokuhlaziywa, kodwa ukuba ufumane umphumo wangempela:
- Okokuqala kufuneka ufune ukuba ngubani okanye ngubani obangela ukucaphuka kwakho kunye nokugquma komsindo, kwaye uhlalutye ukuba ngaba uvavanyo olushushu lubonisa ukuba luyimfuneko.
- Ukuba kunokwenzeka, zama ukudibana ngokungabonakali kangangoko kunokwenzeka nabantu abakhupha ngaphandle. Ukuba oku akunakwenzeka, kodwa unenkxalabo malunga nendlela yokuzola kunye nokuzinqanda, xubana nabo kuphela kwimibandela ethile kunye neengxaki, ungangeni kwimibhikano emide, ungazami ukubonisa ubungqina bakho.
- Yeka ukuchitha iimbilini zakho xa ulindele ukuthutha, kwaye uyeke ixesha elide, xa umgca wesitolo uhamba ngokuthe ngcembe, nakwezinye iimeko zemihla ngemihla, ongenakuzichaphazela. Ekubeni ungeke ukwazi ukukhawuleza umsebenzi we-cashier, kodwa ufuna ukuqonda indlela yokwenza uxolo kwaye ungakhathazeki ngento ethile, jonga ujikeleze kwaye uqonde ukuba ngenxa yokuba ukhathazekile kwaye ukhangele ixesha elide, ibhasi ayiyi kuza msinya- yamkele imeko njengoko kunjalo.
- Ukuze uzinqabise, uthathe i-arsenal yobulumko baseTshayina: "Ukuba ingxaki ingasombulula, oko akufanelekanga, ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuyixazulula, ngoko ke akufuneki ukukhathazeka."
- Kodwa indlela yokuba nomusa nokuzola xa kukho ezininzi izikhalazo ezungeze? Funda ukugxininisa inyaniso ngokubaluleka, kwaye ngokukhawuleza kuya kucacisa ukuba iikota ezintathu zokuxhalaba kwakho zingenanto, akukho nto ebalulekileyo ayikho nto okanye ayikho mpe mbelelo enkulu ebomini bakho. Kwaye ukuba kunjalo, ke ungakhathazeki kwaye ube nesimo sokwesaba.