Ukungena kwixesha elilodwa lobudlelwane obusondeleyo kumhla luqhelekileyo kwindawo. Ukwabelana ngesondo ngexesha elilodwa lifunwa phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini. Kwaye isizathu salokhu asikho into ecacileyo kwaye asifuni iimfuno ezikhethekileyo-sonke siyizinto eziphilayo kwaye sonke siqhutywa yinkxwa yenkanuko, kodwa bambalwa kakhulu abantu abazama ukunyamekela uxanduva kwaye kaninzi kwiimeko ezinjalo, bavula isondo esinye okanye ezimbini.
Ukuthandana ngocansi ngethuba lithile kwenzeka kakhulu kuba amaqabane ayaqonda ukuba ubudlelwane babo abuyi kudibaniswa nanko ke ngoko baya kumntu onjalo ukuze bazinikezele. Yaye ngesondo ngexesha lenzeke xa omnye wesibini esithemba ukuba ngale ndlela uza kuba nako ukugcina umlingane wakhe okanye ukuba abe nobuhlobo obusondeleyo nalo.
Kodwa abaqhelana nabo bavame ukuphela kusasa olulandelayo kwaye kukho iingcaciso ezininzi:
Isini esingalunganga
Ngamanye amaxesha kukho into ekhanga abantu - kunye nemilinganiselo emihle, kwaye ibonakala ihle, kwaye ihlakaniphile, kodwa ngokukhawuleza xa ifika kubuhlobo obusondeleyo, ngoko ukukhangeka kwakho njengokuba iqabane lezesondo liyabhubha. Ekuqaleni unakho ukuvumelana ngesondo ngelixa lesibini, kodwa kwakhona xa ufumana esinye isizathu.
Uyakuqonda ekugqibeleni ukuba oku akusiyo nje iqabane lakho. Kuyinto engathandeki ukuxelela iqabane lakho kutheni enganelisekanga. Njengomthetho, ekugqibeleni uya kuthi: "Siyakukubiza!" Okanye into enje kwaye uthathe umhlalaphantsi ngaphandle kokumnika inombolo yakho yefowuni. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, oku kuyenyathelo elifanelekileyo - ngaba kukho na ukuqonda okungekho nto ukuqhuba umntu kwiinkomfa.
Akuyona into embi kakhulu ukugqiba ubudlelwane, ungayifumanga okwamanje, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu - ukuwugqiba phambi kokuba ungene kwiindawo zobuxoki.
Iingxaki zabantu
Emva kwendima yokuqala emnandi yosuku lwakho, ube neengxoxo ezintle, kwaye phantse ukuthandana omnye nomnye ekubonweni kokuqala, ngokukhawuleza uye kwi-dessert ebizwa ngokuthi "isondo". Kodwa ngokukhawuleza iqabane lakho luneengxaki ezithile zomzimba.
Umbuzo apha uvela kwi-psychology yesintu, okanye kunokuba uzikhukhumele. Emva koko, indoda eyahluleka ukubonakalisa yena kunye nomlingane wayo ukuba uyindoda yangempela ebhedeni, ngokuqinisekileyo iya kuphephela umntu oye wahlupheka naye.
Isiphumo esifanayo sinokwenzeka ukuba yonke inkqubo isifikile ngokukhawuleza kakhulu kwaye inelisekile, kuphela indoda ehleliyo, "ukulibala" malunga neqabane lakhe.
Umntu ovela kweso sibini akahambisani nobuhlobo
Ukwabelana ngesondo ngesinye isikhathi, ngokuqhelekileyo, ukhethwa ngabantu abanoyikayo ukuthatha uxanduva, olufunekayo ngobudlelwane bothando, okanye ungacwangcisi ukuba ube nemiboniswano emide.
Kungenzeka ukuba umntu onjalo uya kukuxelela ukuba akanalo ixesha elaneleyo ngoku into ebalulekileyo, ukuba uxakeke ngomsebenzi, njl njl.
Kodwa, kunjalo, kuyisisulu esingathandekiyo, kuba wonke umntu uyazi ukuba kwiindlela ezimbalwa zokunqoba ubunzima beengxaki kunye neengxaki zilula kunokuba ngumntu onesizungu.
Kodwa, kubalulekile ukugxininisa ukuba ukungafuni ukuqala ubudlelwane obude kwixesha elilodwa lobomi liqhelekileyo kwaye lendalo.
Ngesondo ngohlobo
Ukwabelana ngesondo omnye nomnye ngokuqhelekileyo unokucetywa, okanye ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye kuya kwenzeka nokuba unomntu osisigxina lomlingani wesini kunye nomhlobo wakho.
Isizathu esibalulekileyo sokuba kwenzeke ngesondo esinjalo kukuchaphazela umthamo omkhulu wobutywala obangela ukukhukula ngokukhawuleza kwenkanuko, imfuno yokuxhasa umhlobo (uncedo oluthile) okanye isivumelwano esivumelwaneni sabangane ababini, ngenxa yoko babonwabile kwaye banandipha ngaphandle kokuzibophelela.
Sexual Alcoholic
Ayikho imfihlo ukuba i-dose efanelekileyo yotywala ikhubaza ingqondo kwaye ifake ingqondo. Kukho uhlobo oluthile lwesondo ngokulinganayo ngokulinganayo kubasetyhini kunye namadoda. Nangona kunjalo, impendulo kuphela kule nto ingahluka.
Njengomthetho, kusasa emva kwesiganeko uzama ukulibala iindwendwe zobusuku bokugqibela okanye nje ungazikhumbuli. Futhi ungakulibali ukuba xa ukhetha ngesondo ngexesha, ke ukhethe ngokukhethekileyo ukhetho lomlingane, inhlonipho kwaye uzithande wena nomzimba wakho, kwaye ungalibali ngokukhuselwa ekukhulelweni okungafunekiyo kunye nee-STD.