Enyanisweni, ngokuqhelekileyo kukho iimeko ezikwenza ucinge ngako, kodwa ungayiqonda njani ukuba umntu uguqula. Ewe, unokubandezeleka ngokuthula, ulinde oko kuza kuphelisa. Unokuziphatha ngokungafaniyo: ukulungiselela indawo, ukummangalela, kwaye uvumeleke ukuba azigwebe kwaye anikezele ukuba unetyala. Kodwa, kwaye ngokukhawuleza akayi kubeka ityala, kwaye awukwazi nje ukutshabalalisa ubudlelwane kunye nentanda yakho, kodwa unokulahlekelwa ngonaphakade. Yintoni enokuyenza kule meko, kuba isityholo sinzima kakhulu.
Ukuba uhlushwa ngumbuzo wendlela yokuqonda ukuba lo mfana ukhohlisa kuwe, fumana ukuba isayensi yeengqondo ithi ntoni ngale nto.
Indlela yokuchonga ulwahlulo lwamadoda?
Ukujongana nale ngxaki, sebenzisa ukuqwalaselwa kwabafundi beengqondo:
- Okumangalisa kukuba, umntu oguqula aze amkhohlise intombi yakhe, uba ngumona ongenangqiqo kwaye uyakrokra, mhlawumbi ukhokelwa ngumsebenzi wakhe. Unokwenza izicwangciso zobukhwele malunga nobudlelwane bakho kunye nabo osebenza naye, ofunda nabo, nabamelwane, nangona ixesha elithile lingazange libone nantoni ekhethekileyo kuyo. Ukongezelela, unokufuna ingxelo ngcaciso emininzi yokungabikho kwakho, kuyo yonke i-SMS-ku efikile kwifowuni, kuyo yonke ifowuni, ekwenza ulungelelaniso olungapheliyo. Ngamafutshane, yenza ngokusemgangathweni: indlela efanelekileyo yokukhusela kukuhlaselwa.
- Impendulo yombuzo wokuqonda indlela umntu utshintsha ngayo kwaye uyakhohlisa uya kufumaneka xa enyuka kakhulu, ngokukhawuleza ukuba uthatha ifowuni yakhe ezandleni zakhe, ngexesha elifanayo, ngokukhawuleza, unokuqala ukuthumela imiyalezo evela kuye okanye iifowuni , ngoko awuyi kubona okanye uyayiva.
- Kwimibuzo yokuba izinto zisebenza njani, ziphendulela i-monosyllabically kwaye ngokungafuni, kwaye xa zilibalekile, kwenzeka ntoni ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ngoko umbuzo: "Kutheni?" Ekuphenduleni, uqala ukuba neentloni kunye nokumemeza.
- Naluphi na umbuzo wakho ongenamacala obangela ukucaphukisa kunye nobudlova.
- Ukuba awuhlali ndawonye, kodwa udibana kuphela, kwaye inkwenkwe yakho iyanqaba ukudibana, ngokuba "ityhile", "ukuvuka kusasa", "into ongayifuniyo," njl. kaninzi, ngoko umbuzo wokuqonda ukuba umntu utshintshile, uyazimila ngokwawo: aze akhohlise kwaye atshintshe.
Ukuba akukho nto efana nolwalamano lwakho, ngokoyiko lwakho kunye nokwesaba akupheli ndawo, ulahlekile.