Ulwalamano olubi nomamazala aluqhelekanga kwiintsapho ezincinci, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha umkhwekazi ukhononda ngokuba nomamazala. Kuthekani ukuba awunalo ubudlelwane "nomama wesibini"? Yintoni endiyenzayo kulo mzekelo: ukubeka umama-mkhwenkwe endaweni yam kwaye uzame ukumisa ubudlelwane naye kwizikhokelo zakho okanye ukuza nendlela yokulahla ukuthatha inxaxheba koomama-mkhwenkwe ebomini kwintsapho yakho?
Kuthekani ukuba umamazala wayifumana?
Ukuba umama-mkhwenkwe uyakuchukumisa ukungenakwenzeka "kweengcebiso ezixabisekileyo", kukho umnqweno ongenakunqwenelekayo wokufumana indlela yokuziphindezela kumamazala. Kodwa cinga malunga nokuba kulungile ukwenza, mhlawumbi kungekho into embi kakhulu, kwaye kukho indlela yokwenza abahlobo kunye noninazala. Emva koko, usengumama wesithandwa sakho, kwaye ekubeni ekwazi ukuphakamisa umntu olungileyo, mhlawumbi unento enokuyithanda? Ngokuqhelekileyo umkhwekazi akayithandi umalokazana wakhe ngokuba unomona kuye unyana wakhe, kuba uxhalabele ngomntwana wakhe, kwaye akukho nto engeyoyonto kule ndawo. Zama ukukuqonda, xelela umkhwe wakho ukuba uyamthanda unyana wakhe ngaphantsi. Zama ukuphulaphula icebiso lakhe, yenza umntu amnandi, kodwa unokukwenza oko ufuna.
Ungayikhupha njani impembelelo koomamazala?
Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba iingxaki nomama-mkhwenkwe akayeki, unqabe ukudibanisa kwaye zonke iinzame zakho zokuxolelana ziyabonakala ngeze. Yintoni enokuyenza xa uphinda uphinda uhlaziye intombi zakho "zithiyile umkhwekazi" kwaye ucinge ukuba ungayichitha njani intsapho yakhe? Beka umama-mkhwenkwe wakho usele ndawo, ngokwaneleyo ukuphazamisa ubomi bakho! Yaye yintoni ongayenza ukuba umama-mkhwe wakho uphelele.
- Uninazala unqwenela ukuza kuwe ngaphandle kwesixwayiso, ebiza esuka kwisikhululo kunye nesicelo sokudibana? Ungacingi ukuba uthathe inxaxheba kule nto, makhe umyeni ngokwakhe uhlangane nonina, kwaye wenze lakho ishishini. Ngaba bekucetywayo ukudibana nabahlobo okanye ukuya kwi-salon yobuhle? Musa ukuyikhansela naluphi na umzekelo, bonise umkhwekazi ukuba ukufika kwakhe kufuneka kuvunyelwane kwangaphambili, kungekho namarha avulekileyo omlindeleyo.
- Ngaba unyokokazi wakho uzibheka njengendoda ehamba phambili ebomini bakhe? Ukutshabalalisa iimpawu zakhe, yenza njalo phantsi kokunyamekela impilo yakhe eyigugu. Buza indlela evakalelwa ngayo kwaye achaze ukuba ubonakala enzima.
- Umama-mkhwenkwe uyakuthanda ukutya okumnandi kwaye uhlala enika imiyalelo yokunyusa njani unyana wakhe? Xa ufika, pheka imifuno ephekiweyo kunye nabo bonke ngaphandle kwexesha kunye neenkxaso ezinjengenyama yokugcoba okanye intlanzi. Ukuyiguqula phantsi kokunyamekela impilo yengane yakhe - unenkxalabo yokugcoba kungekudala. Kodwa ngenxa yintanda, oku kutya kuza kuba yintsapho yonke.
- Uninazala ufuna ukupheka into ethile? Akunakuze uvumeleke, zonke iimveliso kunye nezitya ziyakususwa kwiindawo ezivelele. Yaye ngokuphendula kwisicelo soomama-mkhwenkwe ukumnika oko kuyimfuneko, phendula "kakuhle, ungubani, Mama, kutheni uzikhathaza."
- Ukuba uyazi malunga nokufika koomama kwangaphambili, qalisa ukulungiswa ekhishini, kwindawo yokuhlambela okanye yangasese. Tshela umyeni wakhe ukuba unqwenela ukuba unyokokazi wakho abone ukuba konke kulungile kwaye kucocekile ekhaya lakho. Into ephambili akuyikuba nexesha lokugqiba ukulungiswa komama-mkhwenkwe, nangona unomnyango wendlu yangasese ususwe, ikhitshi ihlanganiswe ngamaphephandaba, kunye neebhetri (umgangatho, iindonga) kunye nepeyinti epholileyo.
- Makenzeke "ngaphambi kokufika komkhwekazi" - i-TV iya kuphula kwaye zonke iintlanethi ziya kuba zifikeleleke. Kwaye abantwana banako ngexesha lokufumana umkhwekazi wabo kwiindwendwe zakho ziza kudlala ngokuhlwa
kunye nabafana bommelwane okanye abe kwigumbi lokufundela kwicandelo okanye kumgudu. - Masize ubusuku ubuthathwe ngokugqithiseleyo, oya kuthulisa phantsi kweengcango zendlu kamamazala, uhlabelele ilizwi elidakayo.
- Xa umama-mkhwenkwe ekugqibeleni ugqiba ukushiya indlu yakho, akudingeki ukuba umbone, umyeni wakhe makenze njalo. Yaye uya kuzikhusela kwi-malaise yakho engalindelekanga.
- Ukuhlawula ngokukhethekileyo umyeni wakhe - unokucaphukiswa yinto eyenzekayo. Ngoko ke, ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngeli xesha, mqinisekise ngothando lwakho, yibani nomnene naye. Ukuba zonke izikhalazo zomama-mkhwenkwe azifumananga impendulo kwintliziyo yakhe enyibilikiweyo kwi-caresses yakho.