Wonke umntwana ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva angena kubambiswano lwabantwana kunye novuyo kunye nobunzima bezonxibelelwano kunye nolwalamano olwakha oluphuma apha. Iziganeko ezingqubuzanayo zingenakukhunjulwa, kwaye kwimeko yobudala kunye nokufunda esikolweni ukuba umntu akwazi ukufumana ukulungelelanisa okanye ukukhusela isikhundla sakhe ukwenzela ukuba akhe ukusebenzisana nabanye abantu.
Ngelishwa, okanye ngethamsanqa, akubona onke amalungu ebantwaneni abanobungane. Ngokuchasene noko, ukuba abantu abadala bazama ukufihla ukungathandeki kwabo oogxa, abamelwane kunye nabaqhelana nabo, ukulinganisa iimeko ezingafaniyo, ngoko ke abantwana baxabana ngokukhawuleza nangokugqithisileyo, ukuthetha ngomlomo kunye nokungathethi ngomlomo xa inkunzi iqhubhisa into engavumelekiyo ngeentonga zakhe, ibambe , uphonsa izinto eziye zajika phantsi kwengalo yakhe.
Ukulungiswa kweengxabano kubantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka emihlanu ubudala
Iingcali zengqondo zixhomekeke ngokuphathelele ukufundisa umntwana ukuba anike utshintsho. Kodwa ininzi ikholelwa ukuba umntwana oneminyaka engama-12 ubudala kunye nolwasemaphandleni akakwazi ukuhlukanisa phakathi kweengcinga "zokukhusela" kunye nokuhlaselwa ", aphendule ngokungafanelekileyo kwimeko evelele. Ingane inokwenza, umzekelo, ukuhlasela omnye umntwana kuphela ngenxa yokuba uye wangena waza wathatha umdlalo onqwenela phambili, okanye ukutshatyalaza ngamandla akhe onke. Umntwana omncinci akakwazi ukubala amandla akhe, ukuvavanya umchasi kunye namandla akhe. Ngaphezu koko, akakwazi ukubonelela ngemiphumo yesigqabi. Ngaloo ndlela, ukufundisa umntwana ukuba anike utshintsho, asibeka ingozi kumdlali wakhe kuphela, kodwa ngokwakhe, ngenxa yokuba intshaba inokuqina. Kungcono ukufundisa umntwana omncinci kwiimeko ezilukhuni ukufuna uncedo kumntu omdala osondeleyo, umzekelo, utitshala wontanga.
Ukusombulula iingxabano kubantwana besikolo samabanga aphakamileyo nabantwana baseprayimari
Xa uneminyaka engama-5, abantwana baqala ukwenza iinkcazo zokuziphatha ezisemgangathweni, ukulawulwa kweempawu zabo ngokwabo, ukuhlolwa kokuziphatha kwabantu abakujikelezile. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba aneminyaka engama-7, ukuhlolwa kwakhe kusekho kuxhomekeke kubantu abadala. Kulo nyaka, ugxininiso olukhethekileyo kufuneka lubekwe ekufundiseni umntwana ngokuchanekileyo ukukhusela, kwaye angayi kuhlasela. Ukongezelela, ukuba umntwana unelungelo ngokuzimeleyo , uhamba ngokuthe ngcembe kwinqanaba xa esombulula iingxaki ezininzi ezivela kuye, esebenzisa amava kunye nolwabazali. Kubalulekile ukuzisa umntwana kwiindlela zokuphendula ukungaqondi kakuhle, ukugxininisa ukukwazi ukuxoxisana.
Unokukunceda njani umntwana ukuba unengxaki?
Akunakwenzeka ukuba ungabandakanyi ukuvela kweemeko xa umntwana ephazamiseka kwiqela lezingane. Abazali abanomdla baya kuqaphela ukuba umntwana unenkathazo kwiimeko zakhe zokudandatheka, ukungafuni ukuya esikhungweni semfundo okanye ukungabi nabangane. Kwaye ukuba umntwana eza kwiimvumba kunye nemiqwenga, izinto zakhe "zilahlekile" okanye "ziphangiwe" kwaye imali ilahleka njalo, kwaye kufuneka kuthathwe amanyathelo okukhusela.
- Kubalulekile ukumemela umntwana kwingxoxo engenangqiqo, amthembise ukuba angenzi nto ngaphandle kokumxelela.
- Ukuba umntwana unengxaki ngenxa yokuba uhlukile kwinto evela koontanga bakhe, umzekelo, unina ubeka inkwenkwe eneminyaka eyisixhenxe e-pantyhose, kwaye uyayikhathaza ngenxa yoko, into enokungahambisani nayo kufuneka isuswe.
- Kubalulekile ukudala iimeko zokunxibelelana komntwana kunye noontanga ngaphandle kwesikolo, ukuvumela ukuba bameme abahlobo endlwini, baququze iiholide ezidibeneyo, njl njl.
- Kubalulekile ukukhuthaza ukuthatha inxaxheba komntwana ngokuqhelekileyo kwimisebenzi yamagumbi okufundela, kungenjalo uya kukhutshwa ngaphandle kwesaqalelwano soqhagamshelwano.
- Ootitshala kufuneka benziwe ngamanyathelo abo.
- Kubalulekile ukuphuhlisa umntwana ngokwenyama, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo ligxininisa ukuba imiba ephikisanayo ixazululwa kangcono ngamazwi.
Awukwazi ukukhusela ngokupheleleyo umntwana kwiinkxwaleko zehlabathi elijikelezile, kodwa unokumfundisa ukuba enze ngokufanelekileyo imeko evelayo kwaye isombulule iingxaki ngokukhawuleza.