Ngaphandle kwewindow yithuba apho abafazi banamalungelo alinganayo namadoda, xa bephishekela ukuchuma kwezinto eziphathekayo abathile abafazi bayakhohlwa ngobuntombi, ubunjani babo bumnene. Ukuze ube ngumfazi oyinyani ulungiselelwe wonke umntu, kodwa oko kuya kwenziwa yintoni kwaye nokuba oko kuxhomekeke kwizenzo zomntu ngokwakhe. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula into ephambili: ukuchasene nokunyaniseka kwakho, umntu unako ukulimaza, bangaphi abanye, kodwa wena.
Indlela yokuba ngumfazi oyinyaniso: imithetho eyisiseko
Wonke umfazi ohloniphayo akaze akwazi ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo zakhe ezinobundlobongela ebantwini, ukuguqula indlela yokuziphatha kwimpawu zobuthathaka kunye nokugula.
Ngokuphathelele izihloko zengxoxo, kubalulekile ukugqithisa abo bahambelana neengxoxo zobomi bomntu, ukuhleka. Ukuthetha ngokungafaniyo akusiyo isigqibo samantombazana ahloniphekileyo. Ewe, ukuba ufuna ukwabelana nomntu onzima, thetha ngolwalamano lwakho, uthando lweemeko, kwakhona, kufuneka ucinge malunga namaxesha angama-10 ukuba ufuna ukuxelela ukuba kungcono ukuwabelana ngedayari.
Imithetho yale ntombazana ithi ayiyi kuba yinto enqwenelekayo ukuba ube neyona ngcamango yakho, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba akufanele uthathe omnye womnxibelelwano wakho. Ukuze ube ngumhlobo obalulekileyo, kufuneka ufunde ukuphulaphula.
Nangona xa zijikelezwe zizihlobo zakhe, akukhuthazwa ukuba ulibale ngokulima nokuziphatha, ngoko ke abo banqwenela olunye usuku ukuba bavuswe kumntu okwangoku wobuntombi, ububele, ububele, abe ngumfazi, kufuneka alandele isigama sabo. Ngoko, "ukusa ekuseni", "mbulela" kunye namanye amagama aya kwamkelwa ngenyameko nayiphi na imeko.
Umntu ngamnye unemisebenzi yakhe yokuzilibazisa. Ukuba kukho elinye kwigumbi elenza izenzo zalo zikwazi ukuphuma kuye, akukho mfuneko ukuba enze ingxelo. Udinga nje ukumxelela ngale nto ngaphandle kokusebenzisa umbala weemvakalelo.
Abafazi bamabhinqa baziphatha njani kwiindawo zoluntu?
Omnye kufuneka abe ngumntu. Kubalulekile ukuphathwa ngokuhlonipha kungekhona kuphela kwiindawo ezikuyo, kodwa nakwimeko yemvelo, ngoko ke akukho mbuzo wokusabalalisa indlala kwiindawo ezingenakujoliswa kuyo. Ukutshaya ? Lo mkhuba kufuneka ulibale ngokupheleleyo. Iphikisana nesitayela, kwaye ibonakalisa impilo yintombi yangempela.
Ukuba isondo esifanelekileyo sihamba nendoda yakhe, uvumelekile ukuba ancede athathe isikhwama esinzima kunye nezinye izinto ezinamandla, kunye nekhwama, isambulela, ibhatyi kufuneka ihlupheke ukuba ithwale.