Abantu abahamba phambili emva kwabo italente eyamangalisa, ngoko abaphandi abahlukahlukeneyo bawuhlola ngenzondelelo. Kuza kubekho, kukho iimbono ezininzi eziza kuchaza into enjalo, into entsha iyinto ehlukileyo esekelwe kwimvakalelo yabantu. Ekubonweni kokuqala, ukucinga ukuba kubonakala kungenangqiqo, kodwa ekuhloliseni okufutshane, ukubonakala ngokwaneleyo kuyacaca.
Inkolelo yemoya yobunkokheli
Kwixesha elide kwakukholelwa ukuba i-IQ yomntu ephakamileyo, intle kwaye iphumelele eyenza le ncwadana ibaluleke kakhulu kumphathi wekhwalithi. Kodwa ngokukhawuleza baqala ukuphawula ukuba akukona kakhulu lo mlinganiso kwaye unyanzelekile, ngokuqhelekileyo iinkokeli zatshitshiswa kunye nabanikazi bexabiso eliqhelekileyo. Ngoko kwakukho isidingo sokuphuhlisa indlela entsha, eyabangela ingcamango engqondweni yezobunkokeli, okubhekiselele ekusebenziseni kuphela izakhono zokuhlalutya ukufezekisa iinjongo zabo. Ukulinganisa amandla omntu kule nkqubo, isalathisi esitsha saqulunqwa-ingqiqo engqondweni yenkokeli, ebonisa ukuba uyakwazi ukuqonda iimvakalelo zabanye abantu kwaye ubakhokele. Okokuthi, akuyena umntu ophila ngokuthanda kweentliziyo, kodwa umntu owaziyo ukuwalawula ngokufanelekileyo. Ngako oko, izinto ezibalulekileyo zezo ngqiqo zi:
- ukuzithiba;
- zmpatiya;
- ukuqaphela;
- ukukwazi ukuthonya abanye.
Konke oku kwenza ubulumko bengqondo (EQ) iqabane elihlala lihlala lenkcubeko ngezizathu ezinjalo:
- Ngomgangatho walo ophezulu kulula ukufumana indlela yokuphuma kwimeko engxaki ngaphandle kwemibango engadingekile.
- I-EQ ephakamileyo iqinisekisa ukuba lula ukuseka ukuqhagamshelana nabantu, yingakho bekulungele ukuya kumntu onjalo.
Kuyathakazelisa ukuba inkolelo yengqondo yobunkokeli ichaza ubugcisa bokwenene bokulawula abantu, ukukwazi ukuvavanya imeko nganye kwaye ukhethe indlela yokuziphatha nganye. Ingabalwa ngobuntu benkokeli, okanye inokuthi ilandelwe izimo zesikhashana. Ienkokeli zemoya ziguquguqukayo, ngoko kulula ukuba zitshintshe iindlela zabo, zizitshintshe njengamakhadi kwindawo yazo ukuze zithole ukulungelelaniswa kwazo.