Ngubani oya kumelana nelokuba uthando luhle? Ingxaki kukuba ngamanye amaxesha lo mvakalelo omangalisayo udidekile kunye nokuxhomekeka-izinto, iimvakalelo okanye zesondo. Le meko ibangela ukubandezeleka okukhulu kwaye kuyinkxalabo ofuna ukuyichitha.
Ukuxhomekeka kwezesondo kwiqabane
Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba ubudlelwane buyeke ukuza okanye abuzange buzise nantoni na uvuyo, kodwa akukho mandla okuwayeka. Kule meko, kukho uxhomekeke ebuhlungu kumlingane, okusoloko kunzima kakhulu ukunqoba ngokuzimeleyo. Uninzi lwamaxesha amaninzi, ukuxhomekeka , kuquka ukulala ngokwesondo, kwenzeka kubasetyhini, amadoda axhomekeke kuncinci kwiqabane lawo. Le ngongoma apha ingqondo engaphantsi, amandla angaphantsi kwamadoda okudinga kakhulu umntu, ngenxa yokuqala (malunga neminyaka engama-3) aphule uxhumo lomama kunye nonina. Ukuba namava anjalo, kwaye kwakhona akhuliswa ngoloyiko lokukhula "njengendodana yinyama", amadoda anesishurensi ekungeneni ubudlelwane obubuhlungu kangaka.
Abasetyhini abanalo ikhefu, abaninzi bahlala besondelene nomama, sele beyakhele intsapho yabo. Ngoko ke, ukuxhomekeka ngokwesondo kwindoda kuvela kalula, ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka xa ukususela kwiminyaka yokuqala imifanekiso ecacileyo yendoda efanelekileyo, kwaye xa loo nto ivela ngokukhawuleza ebomini bobomi, umntu unokukwazi ukuthetha ngokuqala kokuqulunqwa kwesithintelo esibuhlungu. Kuyathakazelisa ukuba umzuzu we "hit hit" ungagqitywa kuphela ngu-subconscious, kanti ekubonakaliseni kwakhe umfazi uyaqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba le ndoda ayinaso ikamva, kodwa ayikwazi ukuphula le ntsebenziswano.
Kukwayikisayo ukuba xa "ukukhwela" kwenzeka kwinto ethile yentshiseko, umfazi ulahlekelwa ukujonga ngokufanelekileyo ngolu hlobo, uzimisele ukuthethelela nokuxolela zonke iimpazamo kunye neemposiso zintanda, nokuba novukelo. Kancinci, ukukwazi ukuhlola ngokucokisekileyo kulahleke ngokupheleleyo kwaye ibhinqa elade laphawula ubudlelwane obukhoyo njengesimo "ngesondo" luqala ukucwangcisa ixesha elizayo, ukucinga ukuba zonke iintsilelo zisesigxina, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo zilindele ulonwabo olukhulu. Kodwa iingxaki azifuni ukuphelisa, ubudlelwane buzisa intlungu kuphela, ukukhungatheka kunye nokukhathala konke okungekho amandla kumsebenzi, okanye bona. Kucacile ukuba ulwalamano olunjalo lubuhlungu, kwaye ukuxhomekeka kwezesondo kwiqabane kukufuna unyango. Kulungile ukuba kwixesha elide lolu hlobo kunzima kakhulu ukuphuma kuwo, kuphela oyingcali inokukunceda, ngubani oza kufumanisa zonke izizathu ezikhokelela kwimeko edidekayo, kwaye uya kubonisa iindlela zokuqhubela phambili ukutshintsha.
Unyango lwexhomekeke ekuxhasweni ngokwesondo
Ukuqhotyoshela okubuhlungu kunzima ukuxhamla ngezinto ezongezelelweyo, ezikunzima kakhulu ukuzichonga nokuzivuma oko. Ngokuqhelekileyo amaninzi amantombazana ayesaba ukuhlukana nobudlelwane kuba nje bazibona bengabonakali kwabanye abantu. Kuyinto enomdla ukuba awakhulumi ngokubaluleka kwabo, kodwa ngenxa yezizathu ezithile bayeke ukuthenga izambatho ezintsha, ukulungiswa kunye neenwele ezimnandi zibonwa ngokungadingekile, kwaye iintlanganiso kunye nabahlobo ngokuqhelekileyo ziyenzeka kanye ngonyaka. Emva koko imisebenzi esebenzayo iya kunceda, oku kukuthi, ukubiza abahlobo kwaye uphume kakuhle, uye kwintlanganiso. Makungatshintshi yonke into kanye, kodwa isinyathelo sokuqala siya kwenziwa.
Zama ukujonga ngeso sikhulu ukukhutshwa kwakho kwiimfumba ezibuhlungu. Unokukwenza ngokwengqondo, uveza ubungqina obunobunzima obunokubangela iingxaki zakho, kwaye unqunyulwe ngokukhawuleza, uchithe. Ungalibali ukuxelela konke okubuhlungu. Unokwenza umfanekiso wesitrato kunye neplastiki okanye uyidwebe ephepheni,
Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba awukwazi ukujamelana nawe ngokwakho, uye kumgqirha. Kungenxa yokuba izizathu ezikhokelela ekuziphatheni okunjalo, zingafihla ebuntwaneni obude. Kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo umntu, ebonakaliswe kwiimeko ezingaxakekanga, akakwazi ukuwujonga kwi-angle ehlukeneyo, ugqirha uya kunceda ukwenza.
Enye yeendlela zokurhoxisa umlutha yonyango lonyango. Ngoko ke, unganqikazi ukudibanisa nabahlobo kwintlekele, uxoxe nabo kwiifom, kuya kunceda ukujonga imeko leyo.