Ngoku ukuhlangabezana nomgangatho onjalo kubameli bezesondo ezifanelekileyo, njengobulumko bowesifazane ekusebenzelaneni nendoda, awukwazi ukuhlala uhlala. Amantombazana amaninzi adibanisa lo mkhwa kunye nokukwazi ukusebenzisa, ukukhohlisa nokufezekisa okufunwayo ngabantu abakhohlisayo kunye nokuhlambalaza. Nangona kunjalo, abayonwabi.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yinto enhle, inqwenelekayo nengqiqo loo nto ibhinqa, ukuba umntu akanakuziva ecaleni kwakhe, ekugqibeleni uya kuqala ukukhangela okufunayo kwenye. Ngoko ke, ukwenzela ukuba sakhe ubuhlobo obuqinileyo kunye nendoda ethandekayo kwaye ujabule, umntu kufuneka aqonde ukuba ubulumko bentombi kwaye kutheni le mfanelo ixabiswa kakhulu phakathi kwesondo esomeleleyo.
Uluphi ubulumko bowesifazane ekusebenzelaneni nendoda?
Kubasetyhini, amadoda, okokuqala, xabisa imeko kunye neemvakalelo abazifumanayo xa besondele. Ukuqonda, ukunyamekela kunye nokukwazi ukuxhasa ngexesha elibunzima yizo iimpawu abaninzi abangenalo.
Umntu ngamnye uneempazamo zakhe kwaye wonke umntu uyaphutha. Naliphi na ummeli wesilisa uya kuxabisa kwisithandwa sakhe sengqondo esithandekayo malunga nale mpazamo. Ewe, apha sixoxa ngezi mpazamo ezingahlaziyiyo isithunzi sakhe.
Ubulumko bowesifazana bukho ekukwazi ukwakha nokuphucula ubudlelwane obuqinileyo, apho kungekho ndawo yokukhohliswa nohanahaniso. Emva kokudala imeko ekhethekileyo yoxolo ecaleni kwintanda ethandekayo, umfazi wezinto zonke uya kuhlala esithandwa nguye. Kwaye oko akuthethi ukuba kufuneka uvumele iqabane lakho lingabi nongqondo kwaye usebenzise isimo sengqondo esihle. Ngokuzihlonipha nokuzihlonela, ubulumko bentombi bubonakaliswa.
Indlela yokufunda ubulumko bentombi?
Uninzi lwazo zonke, ubulumko bentombi buyafumaneka kwiimeko eziphambene. Ukungavumelani kunye nokuphikisana kubangelwa naluphi na ubudlelwane. Nangona kunjalo, zikhula zibe yinto enkulu okanye kungenjalo, kuxhomekeke kakhulu kumfazi. Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukufunda ukulawula iimvakalelo , ukuhlalutya imeko kunye nokuziphatha. Ngako oko, ukukhusela okanye ukulungisa iingxabano ukuze ungazitshitshisi, okanye isidima kunye nekratshi lamadoda abo.