Ukuqala kwenkwenkwe yenkwenkwezi kuba luvavanyo olunzulu kwintsapho yonke. Abazali bayamangalisa malunga nokuba umntwana wabo othandekayo nomntwana othobelekileyo uye wahamba, kwaye umntwana wezolo, egxininiswe yimvunguvungu ye-hormone, iba yinto enobungangamsha, engabonakaliyo, enobudlova kwaye ecasulayo. Uguquko lwemoya luba ngabahlobo bakhe abahlala behlala behlala naye, kunzima kakhulu ukunxibelelana nabanye.
Kodwa ubunzima bokuthintana akuyona nto ebona bubi kakhulu, ngakumbi ngakumbi xa umntwana osishumi elivisayo ecinezelekile. Kwaye kuyimfuneko ukuhlukanisa ukudandatheka ngenxa yeso simo esibi. Iyakwazi ukugeleza kwimo yekliniki kwaye ichaphazele kakhulu imeko, impilo kunye nobomi bomntu: i-adolescents kwiimeko ezixinzelelekileyo ziyakwazi ukuvela kwezifo ezingapheliyo, kunye nokuxilisa, utywala kunye neempembelelo zokuzibulala .
Ukudakumba kwentsha kuhluke kakhulu kumntu omdala, ngoko kunokuba nzima ukuba abanye bayichaze kwaye, ngenxa yoko, banikele ulutsha lwabo uncedo. Uphawu oluphambili lokudandatheka kubantu abadala, njengommiselo, ukunganakwa kunye nomdla wokungakhathaleli kwihlabathi elibangqongileyo. Iintsholongwane, ngokuchaseneyo, zihlala ziphazamiseka kwaye zicaphukisa, nto leyo iyanzima kakhulu ukuxilongwa.
Izibonakaliso zokudakumba kwiintsholongwane
- ukudabuka, ukudandatheka;
- umva wedwa kunye nokungaqondi;
- ukucaphuka ngokudibene nomsindo - kwaye ukuphendula okunjalo akunakwaneleyo kwiziganeko ezenzekayo kwaye zithatha ukwanda;
- ukungabikho komphakathi, ukuzodwa ngokuzithandela, ukwenqaba ukuthetha nabanye;
- ukungabi nentswelo - kuqala ukwenza imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla, ngoko-ukuzonwabisa kunye nobomi ngokubanzi;
- ukukhathala rhoqo;
- iintlungu ezingekho phantsi;
- ukuphazamiseka kokulala nokutya;
- ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo, ukungakwazi ukugxininisa nantoni na.
Indlela yokujamelana nokudandatheka kwabaselula?
Ukunyanzeliswa, okwenene, ukuba awuyibizi ngokukrakra, ngokukodwa, ukukhathala kunye nokuxhalabisa, oku kukuxilongwa kwekliniki kwaye ukuphuma kuyo ngokwakho akunakwenzeka njalo, ngakumbi ukuba iyakhupha kwaye ifake iifom ezinzima. Into yokuqala into yokuba intombazana idinga ukuxinezeleka kukuba uncedo lwabazali, kungakhathaliseki ukuba baqhankqalaza njani kwaye abazange bayiphike le nyaniso.
Iingcebiso ezimbalwa zokukunceda ufumane uqhagamshelwano kwaye unike uncedo olufanelekileyo ngexesha elivisayo:
- Ukubonelela ngenkxaso-mali - makume umntwana azi ukuba uhlala ekulungele ukukunceda nokuphulaphula. Kodwa musa ukumiselwa kwaye musa ukubuza imibuzo emininzi - abatsha abasecaleni bayakukhanyela ukulawula kunye ne-hyperope.
- Kha thazeka malunga nelizwe ngokukhawuleza, kodwa ngokuqhubekayo. Bhengeza inkxalabo yakho malunga nomntwana womntwana kunye nokuzimisela ukunceda nokuxhasa kwimeko enzima. Gweba izahlulelo, ukuvavanya, kunye nokuziphatha kakuhle kunye nokugqithisa - umntwana akayi kudibanisa kwaye uya kuba engaphezulu.
- Thatha zonke iimvakalelo kunye nesimo somntwana ngokukodwa - ungayigculeli kwaye uyibize ubububi bamava akhe. Khumbula ukuba umntu omdala ubonakala engumncinci omncinci, ukuba umntwana osemtsha angaguquke ngokwenene.
- Qinisekisa umntwana osweleyo ukudibana neengcali. Ukudakumba okude kudinga i-psychotherapy, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kulungiswe unyango. Mhlawumbi, izifundo zeqela kunye namalungu entsapho zifuneka, kufuneka ulungele oku.
- Kwinkqubo yokonyango, yiba nesicathulo kunye nesigulane, fi kelela kwingundoqo, zama ukufumana ulwazi oluninzi malunga nale nto kunye neyeza layo.
- Zama ukunceda umntwana utshintshe imimandla kunye nemisebenzi eyahlukeneyo-khuthaza ezemidlalo, ezonwabo ezisebenzayo, iintlobo ezininzi zokuzilibazisa.