Phantse wonke umntu ebomini bakhe abe noluntu xa umcinga ongaqhelekanga ufika engqondweni, emva kwexesha elithile, ngenxa yezizathu ezingaziwa kuye, uqala ukugxininisa kuwo kwaye xa ufuna ukuphazamisa kuyo, oko kukuchaphazela ngakumbi umntu. Ukuba iingcamango zibi, ngoko ziguqulwa zibe nguloyiko olushushu. Ngokwenene, abantu abangama-3% abanenkxalabo yokuba iingcamango zabo ezinzulu zikhula zibe yiloyiko.
Emva kwexesha, abanye abantu bazimela ngokuzimeleyo ngeendlela ezizodwa eziza kunceda ukunciphisa imeko yabo. Kwaye, oku kuthiwa yimiqathango, kuba yinto ebalulekileyo kubo, oku kungaholela ekuveleni kwe-neurosis ye-compulsive states. Umoya obangelwayo ukwesaba, njengomgaqo, ukhula kumntu onobucayi, oko kuthi, ngokufuna kakhulu. Kukholelwa ukuba iimfuno eziphezulu azenzayo ngokwakhe ziyamkhuthaza, ekubonakaleni kokuqala kweengcamango ezibonakala zingenakwenzeka kwaye ziyikrokrele, ukuqala ukuzikhusela.
Ukwesaba ngumntu ongafuni ukungena kwiimeko ezithile ezingamlimaza. Ngokuxhomekeke kwisilinganiselo sokutya kunye nesimo esiphezulu, ukuxhamla komntu kuxhomekeke. Kwezinye iimeko, oku kunokukhokelela ekunciphiseni kwamandla, kwabanye - ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo.
Nasi umzekelo wezinye iinkxalabo ezithintekayo, ezibizwa ngokuba yi-phobias:
- Uloyiko lokufa lokuqhayisa. Imiba edla ngokubangela ukuba le phobia ixhomekeke kwisigaba seminyaka apho umntu. Ngako-ke, uphando lubonisa ukuba kukho izigaba ezine zokubonakalisa ukwesaba ukufa: phakathi kweminyaka emi-4 ukuya kwe-6, 10 ukuya kwe-12, iminyaka eyi-17 ukuya kwe-24 kunye neminyaka engama-35 ukuya kwe-55. Kuphawulwe ukuba abantu asebekhulile abahluphekanga ngenxa yokwesaba okukhulu kokufa.
- Ulwalamano. Phantse abantu abangama-13% bafumana ubunzima obunokwesaba ukuthetha koluntu. Isizathu soloyiko ngokuqhelekileyo ukuzithoba, ukufumaneka kwezakhono ezinxibelelwano ezincinci.
Indlela yokulahla ukwesaba okukhulu?
- Ngaphambi kwamehlo akho, gcina umfanekiso wokwesaba kwakho. Yamkele yonke imizwa,
oya kuba nakho xa ucinga ngalo. Khangela uloyiko lwakho emehlweni. - Ngaba uqeqesho lwezemidlalo. Batshisa ngaphezu kwe-adrenaline, ngenxa yokuba ubuchopho bakho bubangela ukwesaba okukhulu.
- Zivumene nazo zonke zakho iinkonzo kunye neengxaki. Ziqaphele njengento yonke. Ungesabi ukubonakaliswa kwakho. Hlalani ngokuvisisana nokuqonda kwakho kwaye ngokoyiko luya kubakho.
Musa ukulibala ukuba ubomi bufutshane kakhulu ukuba ungabesabisa ngazo zonke iintlobo zeengcamango. Jabulela wonke umzuzu kwaye uhlakulele umkhwa wokunwa ngobunono.