Ngeenyanga ezi-6-7 umntwana uqala ukufumana isigaba sokuphuhliswa, apho izazi zeengqondo zibiza "ixesha lokutya abantu abangaziwa", okanye "ukuxhalaba kweenyanga ezi-7". Kule minyaka, umntwana uqala ukucacisa ngokucacileyo abantu "bangaphandle" kwaye abonise ukunganeliseki ngobuso babo. Emva kweeveki ezimbalwa ezedlulileyo, umntwana ovuyayo kwaye ovulekileyo kunye nomntwana ophezu komntu wonke uqala ukwesaba abantu abangaziwayo, ukukhala kunye nokumemeza xa umntu ongekho ngaphandle ezama ukumthatha ezandleni zakhe okanye nje xa umntu engazange afike.
Oku kuyona nto ibalulekileyo kwintlalo yengqondo, yengqondo kunye nentlalo. Le yinyathelo yokuqala ekuqondeni umntwana ukuba ubukho bomntu obhathaleleyo kuthetha ukuthintela kuye.
Kuyathakazelisa ukuba, njengoko izazi zengqondo zifunyenwe kwiphando, ukuba ukwesaba abantu abangaziwayo kubonakalisa ngokuxhomekeke kwimpawu zengqondo zomama (izazi zeengqondo zibiza imigangatho, okanye izalathisi zentlalo). Oko kukuthi, umntwana ukhawuleza athabathe aze afunde indlela abavakalelwa ngayo ngayo umama ngokubonakala kwalo okanye loo mntu. Ukubeka nje, ukuba unomdla ngokunyanisekileyo ukuhlangabezana nomhlobo wakho omdala oza kukutyelela, ngoko umntwana wakho, ekubona ukuba unina uyavuya kwaye uyazola, akayi kuba nexhala lokuba khona kwakhe. Kwaye, ngokuthe tye, ukuba utyelelo lomntu linikela kuwe, abazali, ukuxhalaba kunye nokuphazamiseka, omncinci uya kubamba ngokukhawuleza aze aqale ukubonisa uxhalabo ngendlela azi ngayo-ngokukhala nokukhala.
Ixesha loloyiko lwabantu abangaziwayo lingapheli de kube sekupheleni konyaka wesibini wobomi bomntwana.
Umntwana nabangaphandle - indlela yokufundisa umntwana ukuba angesabi?
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, inyaniso yokuba umntwana, eqala kwiinyanga ezintandathu, uloyiko lwabantu abangaziwa - oku kuqhelekileyo kwaye kuyimvelo. Kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngeli xesha elibucayi elifunekayo ukuba ufunde ngokuthe ngcembe umntwana ukuba axhumane nabangaphandle. Kwixesha elizayo liza kunceda unqamle ukulungelelanisa kwi-kindergarten, ngoko-esikolweni, njl njl.
Indlela yokufundisa umntwana ukuba angesabi ngabantu abangaziwa?
- ngamaxesha amthabatha umntwana kunye neendawo apho kukho khona abantu: uye kumntwana usana, tyelela umsebenzi wakho kunye okanye uhambe nje kwisitoreji ndawonye (ngaphandle kwezihlandlo zezifo ezithintekayo!);
- umntwana oqale ukuya enkulisa, apho abanye abantwana bedlala khona;
- ukuhamba nebhokhwe ukutyelela abahlobo abanabantwana abancinci, ukuba bafumane ekhaya;
- Jonga iimpendulo zakho zomzwelo, udlulisele kumntwana isimo sengqondo esihle nesimo esihle;
- kunika umntwana ithuba lokuba athile kumntu othile: sondela, ungavumeli ukuba uthathe umntwana ngokukhawuleza, ngokunciphisa umgama.