Kwimimandla yanamhlanje, unokuhlangabezana nombolo enkulu yabasetyhini abakholelwa ukuba banesithsaba se-celibacy. Leli gama ukuba abameli bezesondo abalungileyo bachaza iingxaki ebomini babo. Ngaphambi kokubeka "ukuxilongwa" okunjalo kubalulekile ukufumanisa oko kuthetha ukuthini le ngcamango.
Ithini isithsaba sokunyaniseka?
Ngokuqhelekileyo, eli binzana libizwa ngokuba ukungakwazi kwamabhinqa ukuziva ukukhwabanisa ngokwesondo, nto leyo eyona nto ingathintela ukwakha ubudlelwane. Isithsaba singadalwa kuphela ngumlindi oqinileyo kwaye sibonakala ngathi "idome" elithile linokugqithiswa ngumntu. Kungenakwenzeka ngokwenyama ukuziva ukuba isithsaba se-celibacy sikhona kuba asibopheli ukunyakaza kwindlela nayiphi na kwaye ayibonakali. Impembelelo ephezulu yenziwa kwinqanaba lezamandla, okanye kunoko ukukhutshwa kwe-chakra yesondo kunye nentliziyo kwenzeka. Kwezinye iimeko, amanye amaziko ombane angavalwa, okwenza kube lula ingxaki. Omnye unokuthetha into enye: isithsaba se-celibacy siyinto engavamile, kwaye ingxaki yoluleko lwabasetyhini abaninzi ihluke ngokupheleleyo.
Ukuqonda isihloko, oku kuthetha isithsaba se-celibacy, kuyafaneleka ukuqwalasela umbuzo othi ngubani onokumisela. Unako ukukwazi ukulimaza, ngoko ke, isini sesini, kuphela oomatsalane abamnyama, abangekho baninzi. Xa isiqalekiso senziwe, kungekhona nje umntu ohluphekayo, kodwa uhlanga lwakhe lonke. Ngokwezibalo, ukuba iingqondo zithetha ngantoni, ngexesha leminyaka yabo yokusebenza phakathi kwabathengi abaninzi, kuphela abantu abambalwa abanesithsaba se-celibacy. Oku kulufanelekile ukucatshangelwa, kuba amaninzi amaninzi kunye nabathakathi bahlala bebeka "ukuxilongwa" okunjalo ukuze bafumane imali kwaye akukho nto.
Indlela yokunquma ukuzaliswa kohlobo lokuzalwa?
Qinisekisa ukuba ngaba le ngxaki ingaba ngumlingo wangempela kunye neengqondo. Nangona kukho indlela yokwenza ngokwakho. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukuba kukho isithsaba kubonakala kumgca womtshato, ophezu kwentendelezo phantsi komnwe omncinci. Kufanelekile ukuba sicinge ukuba lo mgca ubonisa ubudlelwane obuthandanayo, kwaye awunobunyano obhalisiweyo. Ukuba akukho mgca kwizandla zombini, ngoko umntu unokufumana isithsaba se-celibacy. Ubu bungqina bobukho bayo buyi-Mercury - umgca ojikeleza isiseko somnwe omncinci. Ngokuqhelekileyo amasundu anjalo "uphawu" lubizwa ngokuba ngumjikelo womhlolokazi.
Ukususwa kwesithsaba se-celibacy
Kukho indlela yendalo yonke eya kunceda ukukrazula umonakalo ohlukeneyo kwedwa. Ukuze wenze umkhosi, kufuneka uthenge amabhandlela angama-4 ebandleni. Omnye wabo wabeka phambi kwe "icon" yowesilisa, engakwesokhohlo kwangena. Elinye ngaphambi kokuba "insikazi", ekunene. Faka ikhandlela lesithathu phambi kwe icon yeSt. UNicho Sinnerner, kwaye ukususa isithsaba sobuqili ebandleni, yithetha la mazwi:
"Mkhonzi omkhulu kaThixo, ndinike, umkhonzi kaThixo (igama), uncedo lwakho nokhuselo lwakho."
Ziqhekeze kwaye nisongeni nitsho ngeengxaki ezikhoyo. Emva koko faka ikhandlela lesine kwindawo nayiphi indawo kwimpilo yabathandana bakho kwaye uthi 4 amaxesha.
"Ngegama likaYise, loNyana, loMoya oyiNgcwele." Ndi, (igama lakho),
Emva kokuthenga ikhandlela. Inani labo kufuneka lifanane nenani lamadoda abahlulekile ukwakha ubudlelwane . Ukuba baphila, bawabeke ukuba baphumule, kwaye xa befile, ngoko ke impilo. Xa ushiya ibandla, sebenzisa iimali ezininzi njengoko ufuna ukuzibuza. Ukomeleza umphumo we-rite, ungavuma okanye uthathe inxaxheba. Emva kwesithethe, kubalulekile ukwenza umgangatho wobomi obubhetele kwiinyanga ezizayo.
Ukuqala ngobomi ngobuso obucocekileyo, kucetyiswa ukuba uqhagamshelane nomqondweni wezengqondo onokukuncedisa ukuqonda ingxaki, kholelwa kuwe kwaye unike amandla ubuhlobo obutsha.