Njani ukufumana uluntu?

Iwashi ikhathaza ekhitshini, kwaye amanzi ompompo ahla, amazwi kunye nesandi sezimoto ziyavalelwa ngaphandle kwewindow, kwaye ilizwi elilodwa linye liva kuphela kwiTV. Phantse ngoko kunokwenzeka ukudweba umhlaba ojikelezeyo wedwa. Uvakalelwa kukuba wonke umntu ongekho kwiintlungu zakho, uhlala exakeke kwiindaba zakhe kwaye ihlabathi alikho na onokubelana ngazo iingxaki, ngokuqinisekileyo, ubuncinane kanye ngexesha lokuphila wonke umntu. Kodwa abanye abantu eli lizwe liza kwaye liphantse linyamalale. Kwaye umntu uhlala iminyaka okanye mhlawumbi angadluliselwa ebomini. Kutheni umntu evakalelwa enesizungu kunye nendlela yokufunda ukuba yedwa? Le mibuzo sele idala ingxelo. Kodwa ukuba uyayiqonda, kweli lizwe akukho nto iyingozi. Kuye kunokwenzeka ukuba uphile, ukuba ayikuphazamisi, okanye ukuyilahlekisa, ukuba ayizange ibaleke.

Kutheni ufuna udityanelwe?

Kwizengqondo, urhulumente apho umntu uzizwa elunxwemeni ulwahlula ngeentlobo ezimbini:

1. Intlalo. Ibonakaliswa kulawo maxesha xa kungekho mntu ukubiza okanye ukubiza umnxeba, abahlobo baye bashiya kwizixeko ezahlukileyo, abahlobo abaninzi banemindeni, kwaye umsebenzi ukhona kwindawo ethile ehlathini okanye ngomlindi.
2. Ekhoyo. Umntu unokuba nohlobo oluninzi lwabahlobo, yena ngokwakhe unako ukukwazi ukuba ngumphefumlo wenkampani kunye nomntu osalinde ixesha elide. Kodwa konke oku kubonakala kubonakala. Ngaphandle kwenjabulo, umntu ohlambayo ufumana isohlwayo ngokupheleleyo kwaye ukuqonda ukuba umntu ongokoqobo wayengabonakali kwaye akaze akrokrele ukuba uyintoni na. Umoya onjalo unokuhlala ixesha elide, kuba abantu abafuni ukuzithengela ukuba banelisekile, oko kuthetha ukuba uza kuphinda aphumelele kubantu ukuze banqamle amava angaphakathi.

Ngoku makhe sijonge kwicala lefilosofi yombuzo. Abantu abaninzi, ngokokuqala ngcamango bacinga ngendlela yokuhlala bodwa, benze inkathazo yangempela kwiimeko zabo. Nangona kunjalo, kukufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba umntu wazalwa yedwa, kwaye ngaphambi kokungenelela ngokufanelekileyo nehlabathi langaphandle, kufuneka ufumane ukuvumelana nawe. Amafilosofi onke ngamaxesha aphindaphindiwe ngokunyaniseka njengenxalenye yokuba kunye nokusetyenziswa kwendalo. Nangona kunjalo, umntu wamhlanje uyindalo exhomekeka kakhulu kuluntu. Kwaye ngaphantsi kwedyokhwe yedwa, njengomthetho, abo bangakulungele, abafuni, okanye abaqapheli abanye abantu abazungezile. Nabani na ocinga malunga nendlela yokulahla iimvakalelo zodwa, eneneni, akenzi nto ukuyeka ukuba yedwa. Akaqapheli ngezibonelelo abantu abanokuzizisayo, baxhaphaza abanye kwaye balindele izinto ezimbi kuphela ukusuka kwicala labo. Uninzi lwamandla abantu abanjalo lujoliswe ekuveleni ububele bomntu kunye namava angaphakathi. Isiphumo solu sengqondo kubomi kunye nehlabathi lixakeka, ukunganakwa kunye nokunciphisa amaninzi. Enyanisweni, umntu ngokuziphatha kwakhe uxoshe abanye ngaphandle kwakhe, aze aphinde azisole ukuba akukho mntu ufune. Kodwa kukho ezinye izizathu ezininzi kunye neentlobo zobuntu bomntu. Banezinto ezifanayo kuphela: ukuhlala ngaphandle koluntu akunakucinganiswa kwaye kubangele ukwethuka.

Indlela yokuphelisa ukwethuka kobulolo?

"Kuyinto ehlekisayo ukuba isishukumisela njani ngokukhawuleza, kwisithukuthezi se-hubbub kunye nesidlo, ukwesaba ukuhlala kwakhona kwintlango yehlabathi lethu." Le quatrain ixhala malunga nawo wonke umntu. Ukwesaba ukuba yedwa, ngaphandle kwesibini, ngaphandle kwezalamane, ngaphandle kwenkxaso - kungumzekelo wesimo sokulondolozwa kwendoda yanamhlanje. Kwaye ngenxa yokuthanda kunye nomlingiswa, wonke umntu ulungelelanisa nale ntliziyo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Omnye, elandela amagama ka-Omar Khayyam, ukhetha ukuba "angenaye nawuphi na umntu". Kwaye umntu kunye nekampani elityhakisayo kwi-alley sele sele evuya. Ubungqina obuninzi obwenzayo ebomini babo abantu bazinikela kuphela ngenxa yokwesaba ukuhlala ngaphandle kokuxhaswa, inkxaso kunye noqhagamshelwano. Kodwa ke, ukuba le ntliziyo ingenakubekezeleka, unokuyeka njani ukwesaba ukungabi nedwa?

Kulula. Ukususela ekunqobeni ukulondeka, okokuqala kuvelwe ngokwemvelo njengendawo yendalo yomntu, kungekhona wonke umntu ophumelelayo, kubalulekile ukujonga le ngxaki ukusuka kwelinye icala. Kwangexesha elide abantu baphoqelelwe ukuba baqulunqe ngomsebenzi. Kwaye ngoku, abazali banamhlanje basusela kwiminyaka emincinci bazama ukulayisha umhla wabantwana babo ngeembalo ezihlukeneyo, amacandelo, njl. ukwenzela ukuba abanalo ixesha "zonke iintlobo ezingenangqondo." Kwaye bambalwa abantu kulo mzuzu ukhumbula ukuba kubalulekile ukuba umntu ahlale yedwa kunye naye kunye nengcinga yakhe yonke imihla. Abantu bayesaba ukuyeka baze bacinge ngabo kunye nehlabathi labo elingaphakathi. Emva koko, yonke into abaya kuyo iya kuvuleka njengentendelezo yesandla sakho. Ukucinga malunga nendlela yokuphila kwedwa, kufuneka uzibuze ngokukhawuleza umbuzo wesibini - ngaba ufanele ukhathazeke? Mhlawumbi kungcono ukuzibuza ukuba ungonwabela njani ukuhlala wodwa? Kulo mbandela kuya kubakho ubuncinci inyaniso. Ukuze ungakhathazeki ngale mvakalelo, kuyafaneleka ukuba ukhumbule ukuba ukwahlukana kwihlabathi langaphandle kwaye ukufihla kwaye ufune kwisigoboliso sakho akusayi kubakho ukubonakala kwabantu abasondeleyo nabamkelekileyo ebomini. Ukwenza oku, kusekuyimfuneko ukutshabalalisa ingcamango yokuba uyingqayizivele kwaye uhambe ekukhangekeni kokuvisisana, kungekhona kuphela kwilizwe lakho langaphakathi, kodwa nakwiimeko zangaphandle. Kwaye kuya kufuneka kubekho "unesizungu", mhlawumbi unako ukushisa kwakho.