Mhlawumbi, abaninzi abasetyhini bethu bahlala becinga ukuba bangasindisa njani intsapho. Ngaphezu koko, indlela yokugcina, kwaye eyona nto ibalulekileyo, unokukwazi ukugcina uxolo kwintsapho. Emva koko, kwindlela yokuphila, kunokuvela iingxaki ezahlukeneyo: zombini kunye nezinto eziphathekayo. Ukuba uyazisombulula kunye, unokuphepha iingxabano, ngokuqinisekileyo kwiimeko ezinjalo ziya kuba zingekho.
Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukunquma ukuba kubalulekile kwaye kuyimfuneko ukugcina intsapho yonke? Ingaba kukho isizathu esilungileyo sale nto? Ukulinganisa zonke izinto ezixhamlayo kunye neengxaki. Zama ukubheka imeko ngokungathi ungumbonisi ongaphandle. Ngaba unqwenela ubomi obunjalo bentsapho, umzekelo, udade wakho? Kodwa musa ukulibala ukuba kwihlabathi lethu lezimvo ngokuqinisekileyo alikho. Emva kokutshatyalaliswa, kuya kuba nzima ukwakha kwakhona.
Omnye ufuna ukugcina intsapho yabantwana babo kakuhle. Kwaye oku kuyaqondakala. Kunzima kumntwana omncinci ukuba adlulisele ulwazi malunga nokuba kutheni uyise akafiki rhoqo. Kwaye ukuba akakho konke ebomini bentsana? Ukucinga ngendlela yokugcina intsapho kunye nokukhetha umtshato, qwalasela indlela ochaza ngayo umntwana wakho ukuba abazali ababahlali kunye. Yenza ngendlela enoba nayiphi na imeko i-psyche ayithintekiyo. Yaye ukuba awufumani naluphi na ukhetho, ungayilondoloza njani intsapho, kwaye bhetele ucinge ngeenkcukacha zengxoxo ngaphambili.
Iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokugcina intsapho, awufumani kuphela kwizihlobo zakho kunye nabahlobo bakho, kodwa ufumaneke kwiincwadi ezifanelekileyo. Akusoloko kunokwenzeka ukuxazulula yonke into yakho - into eyona nto ayiyiyoyiki ukwenza, kwaye uzama ukuqonda ukuba kuyafaneleka ukugcina intsapho.
Ngokuqhelekileyo kuvela ukuba abatshatileyo banamathela kakhulu kumgaqo wokuba umntu uyifumana, kwaye umfazi ungumgcini wendlu. Ewe, kufanelekile. Akukho mfuneko yokuba ungene kuyo. Ukuhlukana okunzulu kunokubangela ukungahambisani okukhulu. Kule meko, isiluleko malunga nendlela yokugcina intsapho, ebonakalayo ekuphumuleni kwesakhelo esisiseko, ifanelekileyo. Kuba akukho namnye uya kuba yiindaba zokuthi umfazi angasebenza, enze ukuba ayenze. Kwakhona, unokubandakanya umyeni wakho ekuphekeni, umzekelo, ukuqala ngeeholide. Kwaye akuthethi ukuba kufuneka aime onke amaxesha kwisitofu, evuselela isobho. Yonke inxulumene. Umgca wokugqibela kukuba, okokuqala, xa upheka, kuya kuba nethuba lokufumana ixesha lokubambisana, kwaye, okwesibini, kunokuthi, njengendlela efanelekileyo yokugcina intsapho kunye nokuqinisa ubudlelwane.
Ungasindisa njani intsapho emva kokugwenxa?
Okubaluleke nakakhulu umbuzo wendlela yokugcina intsapho emva kokugwenxa? Kwakhona nendlela yokugcina ubudlelwane obuqhelekileyo kwintsapho, ukuba umntu ukhetha omnye umfazi? Emva koko, akusiyo wonke umntu oza kuqiqatha kule mizuzu ukuqonda izizathu zenzeke. Ukongezelela, ngaba kufanelekile ukugcina intsapho ngenxa yomntwana emva kokuva intlungu ebuyeni bomyeni wakhe? Ukuze kulandeleke kungekho zihlazo kwicala lomlingane, kuyimfuneko ukulibala ngokupheleleyo konke okwenzekileyo, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzama ukuxolela.
Kubalulekile ukumemela kwingxoxo engathethekiyo ukuqonda isimo sakhe sengqondo kwimeko. Emva kwakho konke, ngokwakho, awuyi kufezekiswa kakhulu. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, oku kufuneka kube sisigqibo esifanayo. Zama ukufumana ulungelelaniso oluya kuhambelana namacala omabini - mhlawumbi oku akusiyo kuphela ukuphela kobudlelwane bakho. Emva kokuqonda izizathu onokuzikhethela zona: indlela yokugcina intsapho kwaye emva kokungcatsha komyeni wakhe. Into eyona nto ayikukugawula ehlombe, nokuqiqa ngokucokisekileyo, ukulahla zonke iimvakalelo.
Ungakusindisa njani intsapho kwaye kutheni? Ingcebiso yesazi sengqondo inokukunceda apha. Ngethamsanqa ngexesha lethu, amaziko amaninzi anika olu luncedo lwengqondo. Kodwa musa ukuya kwinqanaba lokuqala, kuba isazi sezengqondo sinokuxhomekeke kwindlela yokuphuhlisa ubomi bakho bentsapho.