Uthando kunye nethemba lihamba ngesandla, lenze, lusekele kwaye luzalisane. Ukunyaniseka kwintsebenziswano kuhambelana ngqo nokulahlekelwa kweemvakalelo kunye nentlonipho kumlingane. Ewe, akukho mntu ukhuselekile kwizenzo ezingalunganga kunye nezenzo zokukhawuleza.
Namhlanje siza kuqhelana neengcebiso ezihlukeneyo, sifunde indlela yokubuyisela ukuzithemba kwamadoda, indlela yokuziphatha emva kokunyaniseka kunye nokokufanele kugwenywe. Emva koko, ukuthembela kumntu kuthetha ukubeka ithemba elithile kuye, kumnika ithuba lokuba noxanduva lwexesha elizayo kunye nelikhoyo.
Indlela yokubuyisela ukuzithemba emva kokugwenxa?
Kuya kuba ngcono xa iqabane lakho lifumanisa ngenguqu ukusuka kuwe kwaye ngokukhawuleza emva kokusebenza. Uya kufuneka usebenze kanzima ukuze akwazi ukukuthemba emva kokuba ekunike ithuba lesibini. Ukuba iingxoxo ezinzulu kunye nokuphelelwa lithemba kwakho akunakunceda, chukumisa isiqingatha sakho sesibini ukuya kumkhangeli wengqondo yengqondo.
Musa ukwenza iziboniso zokuphelelwa lithemba kunye nabahlaziyi abangenakuxhomekeka. Oku kuya kuphucula imeko kuphela, kwandisa ubungakanani bokungaqondi. Kubalulekile ukuhlala uxolo, ukuhlalutya okwenzekayo ngokusemgangathweni, ukufumana ingcambu yengxaki eyayikukhupha
uhlanga. Musa ukuzibandakanya kwi-self-flagellation uze uziqhube kwi-cage.
Musa ukuxoxa ngazo zonke iinkcukacha zezinto ezenzekile, kuba kuya kuba nzima ukubuyisela ithemba kwibudlelwane emva koko. Yenza iqabane lakho liyazi ukuba awufuni ukulikhumbula, kwaye uyaziqonda ngokupheleleyo ngokupheleleyo ityala lakho.
Ukuba kunokwenzeka, ungathethi ngokungcatsha kubahlobo okanye kubazali. Uxinzelelo oluvela kwicala labo, iingcebiso ezininzi kunye neembono ezihlukeneyo ziza kunzima kakhulu imeko. Gcina ukuzithiba kunye nokuzithemba, akudingeki ukuba uthathe inkunkuma kwindlu.
Ukuba usenakufumana ukudibanisa kunye nawe okanye kunye nomthandayo, cingisisa malunga nophuhliso oluqhubekayo lwakho nolwalamano. Ngaba iimvakalelo zetyala zikuvumela ukuba uqhubeke ujikeleze? Mhlawumbi le lixesha lobomi obutsha bobabini ihafu?
Musa ukudibanisa iqabane lakho nangayiphi indlela. Ewe, utata olungileyo uloyiko lokulahlekelwa yintsapho kunye nabantwana, kodwa awuyi kunyangwa ngcono. Kule meko, iqabane lingavumelana nemimiselo yakho kwaye uhlale usondele, kubonakala sengathi uvala amehlo akhe kwixesha elidlulileyo. Kodwa konke oku kuza kutshatyalaliswa kungekudala okanye kamva kuthintela elizayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo awufuni ukuzincama komntu obathandayo, ekugqibeleni, uya kuba novuyo.
Kwaye enye into endifuna ukuyifumanisa ingakumbi nolwalamano olusenyongweni kunye nomthandi osandul 'utsha. Ukuba ufuna ukugcina ikamva kunye nesiqingatha sakho, ungenzi phantsi bonke oonxibelelwano, iintlanganiso kunye neengxoxo nomntu obangele ukungathembeki. Ukuba ngaba ngumphathi, sekuyisikhathi sokuyeka. Ukuba umlingane - umphumo ufana. Inombolo yefowuni, iifayile ezidibeneyo kunye neengxoxo malunga nazo kufuneka zilibaleke ukuze kulungiswe ukuthembela okuxabisekileyo okungeke ulungele kanye.
Ingongoma yokugqibela yobudlelwane bakho inokuhlambalazwa ngumntu othandekayo kwizenzo. Okokuqala, kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba awuyi kuprintwa. Mhlawumbi kukufanele ukuxoxa ngamaphuzu obomi bakho,
Enye indlela yokubuyisela yonke into kwindawo, okanye yenza ukuba ubuhlobo bube bhetele kunaphambili - qala yonke into ukususela ekuqaleni. Ukuba iqabane lixolela wena, unqanda ukubandayo kwaye unyanzelekile, thandana naye kwakhona. Mthabathe kwindawo odibana nayo, khumbula ndawonye zonke izihlandlo ezikubophayo, jonga kwiirekhodi ezindala kunye neefoto, zithande kakhulu. Kwakhona, ekuqaleni uza kufuneka ukhangelelanise kwaye wenze iimvume ukuze loo mntu ungenalo umhlaba ukucinga ngokunyaniseka kwakho nothando lwakho.