Wonke umfazi ufuna ukuba ingxaki yokungathembeki kweqabane alizange lichaphazele intsapho yakhe. Nangona kunjalo, akukho mntu ukhuselekile kwimeko xa indoda iqala ubudlelwane kwicala. Ezi zinokubambisa ixesha elifutshane okanye ukuthetha ngokungaqhelekanga, okanye ubudlelwane bexesha elide elifihla kwabanye. Umthandi ohlala njalo unobungozi kuba unokutshabalalisa umtshato okanye unokubeletha umntwana ongekho mthethweni kumntu, ngaloo ndlela unamathele kuye. Umfazi kaninzi akanako ukuqonda ukuba kutheni indoda ingumfazi wexesha lonke, uzama ukuqonda iimpazamo zakhe kwaye enze ngokuchanekileyo. Khawucinge ngezinto ezenziwa ngabafundi beengqondo kwiimeko.
Icebiso lengqondo: kuthekani ukuba indoda inomfazi ongunaphakade?
- Isizathu sokungcatsha, njengomthetho, ukungoneleliseki ngobomi bentsapho. Khangela emva kwexesha elidlulileyo uze uzame ukuqonda ukuba yintoni ingxaki. Ukususela nini le nkathazo yaqala ngobudlelwane bakho?
- Musa ukwenza imizobo yesikhwele kunye neentlanzi. Ngaphezu koko, akuyimfuneko ukuphosa izinto eziphosakeleyo ngefestile efanelekileyo. Le meko ingaba yingozi kakhulu, kwaye yada idlule emehlweni omyeni wakhe nabanye abantu abangenakulinganiswa. Kwaye ixhoba kulo mzekelo liya kuba ngumyeni.
- Ukuba umtshato ugqiba ixesha elide, umfazi kufuneka azibukele ngaphandle. Mhlawumbi wayeka ukuzibukela waza waba yindoda yakhe. Xa ibhinqa liphinde likhange, umvuzo uya kuhlawulwa kuye, kwaye isicatshulwa somnikazi sivusa kuloo ndoda. Ucinga ngokuziphatha kwakhe, ukwesaba,
ukuba umfazi wakhe unokufumana enye. - Ukuqonda nokuxolela ukungcatsha komntu akakwaziyo kuwo onke amabhinqa. Okokuqala, kufuneka uqonde iimvakalelo zakho - ufuna ukuhlala nalo mntu, ukhulise abantwana kunye naye kwaye wabelane ngobomi. Ukuba ugqiba ukugcina intsapho, kufuneka ucacise kumlingane wakho ukuba le yithuba elidlulileyo kwaye akayi kuba nelungelo lokuxolela.
- Izibalo zibonisa ukuba kwiimeko zokungcatsha komntu, yena ngokwakhe usuka kwintsapho ukuya kwindlovukazi ishiya kakhulu. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ngumfazi okhohlisayo onika umtshato. Ukuba kukho umnqweno wokugcina umtshato, akudingeki ukuba utshele nabani na okwenzekayo kwaye akufanele ubandakanye abantwana kuwo. Kubalulekile ukuqonda izizathu zokungathembeki kwaye uxubushe yonke into kunye neqabane lakho ukuze wenze isigqibo esifanelekileyo.