Umbono wokuba "uqina" uquka uluhlu oluninzi lwentsingiselo, kuba umntu uzama ukuphambanisa imisipha, kunye nomntu ukuthukuthela umlingani, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kuba nabesifazane abaphuphayo abanamandla. Makhe sicinge ngeengcaciso ezahlukeneyo zalo mgaqo kwaye sikhethe izenzo ezenza ukuba kunikwe injongo.
Indlela yokuziphatha ngokuqinileyo?
Ukuba nesimo esomeleleyo kuthetha ukuba nomoya oqinileyo, kungekhona ukwesaba. Ukucima umgangatho lo unokufunda ngokuhlalutya zonke iziganeko "kwiishelulo", ukugqamisa iinkqubo kunye neengxaki, kwaye ukuqonda ngaphandle kwemizwa enzima nzima. Kufuneka ufunde ukulawula ukubonakaliswa kwemizwelo enobudlova, awukwazi "ukuwubetha", kodwa kufuneka ufunde ukuqonda imeko leyo, ngokunyanisekileyo. Iinkqubo ezahlukeneyo ezisekelwe ekuphumuleni okuphefumlelweyo ziye zaphuhliswa kule njongo.
Indlela yokomelela nokuhlakanipha?
Xa unomoya ophucukileyo, ubulumko buza kufika ngokukhawuleza, kuba, xa ufunde ukuqonda ngokuzinzileyo imeko ezihlukeneyo, uya kuba nako ukuziva kwaye ufunde ukuzuza, ukufumana amava obomi obutsha. Iziganeko eziqhelekileyo ongakwazi ukujamelana nazo, ufunde kuzo, ulwazi oluncedo kunye nolwazi olufanelekileyo, uya kuba nobulumko. Njengomthetho, ubulumko ngudade ovuthwayo, kuphela abantu abanenkathazo yokufunda bafunda ubulumko bokuphila kwangaphambili.
Indlela yokuba ngumfazi oqinileyo onamandla?
Ukuze ube ngumfazi oqinileyo ngamandla, kubalulekile ukuba ufunde indlela yokulawula ukuhamba kwamandla, kungekhona ukuphelisa ngemvakalelo engenanto. Ubungakanani bombane wamandla bubuthakathaka obunomzimba kumntu, ixesha elide liphawula ukuba olunye uhlobo lomelele, elinye lusebuthakathaka. Xa uzuze amandla athile, kuyimfuneko ukufunda indlela yokwenza nokulawula ukuhamba phakathi kwakho. Njengomthetho, ngokokuqala ngangoko unokuziva unamandla angalawulwayo ngomsindo oqinileyo, khumbula eli lizwe uze ufunde ukungena (kodwa ngaphandle komsindo) kwaye ulisebenzise kwisikhokelo esibalulekileyo.
Indlela yokuba yintombazana enamandla?
Ukufuna ukuba intombazana enamandla, kufuneka uhlakulele indlela yakho eqinile kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo. Amantombazana anamandla - bona, njengoluhlobo olusemgangathweni kuluntu, bayakwazi ukugqoka kakuhle, bathetha ngokuchanekileyo,
Indlela yokuba ngumlingani oqinileyo?
Ukuba ngumntu oqinileyo kunokuba lula, kwaneyona nto iqhubekayo inobuthathaka. Ukuthukuthela umlinge omele ufunde ukucacisa ngokucacileyo iminqweno yakho, ubeke iinjongo ezithile uze uhambe kuzo, ngaphandle kokugoba phantsi kwe-press of circumstances.