Ukuxhomekeka komzwelo kuyimfuneko ebuhlungu, imfuno yomnye umntu. Ngokuqhelekileyo le yeso sizathu sezenzo eziphindaphindiweyo ezijoliswe ekufumaneni inkxaso, induduzo evela komnye umntu. Ukuba kukho ukuxhomekeka komntu kumntu, ngoko ubuhlobo naye bufumana u-overvalue, ohamba kunye nokuxhatshazwa kunye nokuxhalaba xa kwenzeka ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuthetha nomntu othile.
Iimbangela zokuxhomekeke emzimbeni
Ngokuqhelekileyo le nto ibangelwa kukulimala kwangaphambili, iimvakalelo ezinzulu kunye nentlungu yengqondo. Oku kuyinyani ngokukhethekileyo kulabo abasebuntwaneni baselula bafumana ulunwabo, okunokwenzeka nakwintsapho enkulu, okanye ukungabi nothando lwabazali, okanye ukungabikho kwentlonipho kunye neengqalelo. Mhlawumbi le nto iyenjalo nalabo abangazange bamkele imvume efanelekileyo, okanye bahlaselwa rhoqo.
Ukuba umntwana ufumana ukuphelelwa kancinci kwento ethile, akanakho ukuqinisekiswa kwangaphakathi kunye nenkxaso - ngenxa yalomntu oqala ukuwujonga kwabanye abantu. Njengomthetho, ubudlelwane ngenxa yolu luhlala lukwakha kwiimeko ezifanayo ezimbi kunye nezobuhlungu.
Ukuxhomekeke kwintliziyo ebuhlotsheni
Ngokuqhelekileyo kwabasetyhini kukho into efana nokuxhomekeka kwindoda kumntu. Ukuba sithetha ngokuxhomekeka kobambiswano (okt, ukukhanga ngokukodwa omnye komnye kubo), akunakunzima kumntu, ngokungathi ukuxhomekeka kwakhe kusele eludongeni lokungaqondi. Ukuxhomekeke kwimizwelo kunokuzibonakalisa kokubini ukukhanyela ngokwakho, kunye nokujonga ngokugqithisileyo impembelelo yomnye umntu. Omnye umntu, kungekhona umntu wakhe, usekuqaleni, okuyiyona nto iphosakeleyo.
Enye inketho kukudibanisa nomnye. Ukuba endaweni yokuhlala ubomi bakho, umntu uphendukela kwiimfuno zabantu kunye nezinye iingcamango zabantu, oku kuyindlela echanekileyo yokuphazamiseka kwemihlaba. Kodwa umntu usebenzisa kuphela ukufihla naziphi na iingxaki ezisoyikayo ukuzijongana yedwa.
Ngokusoloko kubonakala ukuba ukuxhomekeke emzimbeni kukunyango olwenza ube nolonwabo ngakumbi kwaye ukhuselwe ngakumbi. Nangona kunjalo, eqinisweni, oku kuyindlela engafanelekanga, kwaye naluphi na ukuxhomekeka kuye kuhlala kuyingozi kumntu.
Indlela yokulahla ukuxhomekeke kwimizalwane?
Kwezinye iimeko, lolu hlobo lokuzithiba alusekho, kwaye uncedo olufunekayo lweengqondo luyadingeka. Izizathu zengxaki zinzulu kakhulu kunokuba zibonakala, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo akukho nto yokuxhomekeka kubangelwa yinto yokuxhomekeka, oko kukuthi iingxaki zangaphakathi zengxaki.
Nangona kunjalo, musa ukukhawuleza. Ukuxhomekeka kokuxhomekeke kwimiqathango ongayenzayo kwaye uzibambe, kwaye ukuba oko kungasebenzi, xhumana nomgqirha.
- Hlala ukhululekile kwaye uvale amehlo akho. Uxhomekeke njani kwisixhumanisi sakho kwisixhobo sakho somlingo? Ingaba ngumbane wokukhanya, intambo, intambo?
- Khawucinge nje ukuba udibanisa ngokukhawuleza le ngxaki. Uziva u-alamu encinane, kodwa-ke-uncedo.
- Qaphela ukuba yintoni kanye olahlekileyo ngenxa yolu (zombini izinto kunye nezibonelelo zengqondo).
- Khawucinge ukuba ufumana zonke izibonelelo ezingentla zivela kwenye indawo. Yintoni le mthombo? Fumana ubuncinane ezintathu.
- Fumana umfanekiso womntu ogcweleyo onayo yonke into oyifunayo, zibophezele wena-uxhumo olufanayo phambi kokuba uxhumeke
nawe ngenjongo yokuxhomekeka (intambo, i-boram, njl.). - Yamkela ukuba lo mfanekiso nguwe. Unayo yonke into oyifunayo. Jabulela.
- Khawucinge ngendlela onokusebenzisa ngayo inkululeko kunye namathuba akho.
- Ulwalamano olunjani kunye nomsebenzi wangaphambili we-attachment yakho luphuhlise emva koko?
- Cwangcisa ikusasa lakho ngaphandle kwakhe, qwalasela izinto ezininzi.
Emva koko, kufuneka uvule amehlo akho ngokupheleleyo umntu okhululekileyo. Unokuphinda ukuphinda usebenzise izihlandlo eziliqela.