Umbuzo wokuba kutheni abantu besoyika iimvakalelo zabo banokuqwalaselwa njengeengcamango. Emva koko, wonk 'ubani uyazi ukuba iimvakalelo ezinokubangela ubuhlungu buhlungu kakhulu - ukuba azibonakalwanga, zihlekisiwe, zingabonakali, zityholwa. Yingakho abantu abaninzi banqwenela ukutyhila imiphefumlo yabo kwabanye.
Kutheni abantu besaba iimvakalelo zabo?
Nangona kunjalo ukuba amadoda angabonwa njengesini esomeleleyo, banenkxalabo enkulu ekuvezeni iimvakalelo. Ukususela ebuntwaneni babo bafundiswa ukuba iimvakalelo zenzelwe intombazana, kwaye indoda kufuneka ingenakunyulwa kwaye ingqongqo - ayikho iinyembezi, ayikho imibutho, ayikho imbonakalo yothando. Kungenxa yoko ukuba umntu uyamoyika iimvakalelo zakhe, kunokuthi ithathwa njengesiqhelo. Ngoko wakhuliswa.
Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka njalo, ukuba loo mntu uzimisele ukuhlala kwimilo, inhloko, ukubala okubanda. Oku kudla ngokubonisa ukuba eshahleni unobungozi kakhulu, kwaye oku kukuphela kokuphendula kwakhe okukhuselayo, okukunceda ukujamelana nehlabathi elikufutshane naye. Konke okufanayo, sonke sinabantu, kwaye iimvakalelo zivela kulowo nalowo wethu.
Xa umntu esaba ukuvuma iimvakalelo?
Njengomthetho, amadoda onke afana ngqo nokusebenza kwezenzo, kwaye ukuba umntu uyayithanda, baya kukhangela into enothando. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha umntu akaqinisekanga ukuba iimpendulo zakhe ziyaphendulwa, kwaye uyesaba ukuqhubela phambili kwimisebenzi esebenzayo. Emva koko, akukho nto ibuhlungu kwaye ayibubi ngaphezu kokuva ngokubuyisana, ukugubha, ukunyaniseka.
Kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zabasetyhini - abanye bazikhukhumeza kwaye babanda, abanye bavulekile kwaye banobungane. Njengomthetho, ezi zilandelayo ziyakwazi ukuva ukuvuma - kungekhona ngenxa yokuba zithandana rhoqo. Kalula abayikrele ukuza, ukubandakanya kwingxoxo-ncoko, ukunxibelelana. Ukongezelela, loo ndoda ilindele ukuba loo ntokazi iya kuba neengqiqo ngokwaneleyo ukuphendula ngobumnene kwi-recognition, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni le mpendulo.