Iingcinga zabasetyhini zithethwa ngokungafaniyo, kodwa kuyaziwa ukuba amadoda anengqiqo ayithandi. Ngendlela, indoda enezilumko kunye nomfazi onobuqili akayiyo yonke into efanayo. Ukuba kumntu lo lukhulu lwolwazi kwimimandla eyahlukahlukeneyo kunye nokukwazi ukuwasebenzisa, ke ingqondo yowesifazane ihlala kwenye: akadingi ulwazi olulinganayo nendoda - akubalulekile. Uya kubonwa njengengqiqo, kuquka namadoda, ukuba ubonakalisa ubulumko behlabathi kunye nobuqhetseba.
Ngokuphathelele umfazi ongeyengqiqo, ukholelwa ukuba kulula ukuhlula.
Yiyiphi ibhinqa ithathwa njengengqondo?
Imiqondiso ephambili yowesifazane oyisiphukuphuku ilandelayo:
- "unciphisa inyaniso yesibeleko" ngomntu, engakhathalele ukuba abantu bayayabela njani kuyo;
- Uhlala eqonda iimpazamo zakhe;
- bahlala bephikisana nendoda, bexhaphaza, bebonisa ukufaneleka kwabo.
"Abaphandi beengcinga zentombi" bafumana iimpawu ezili-10 ezicacileyo zowesifazane oyisiphukuphuku:
- Unyaniseke kakhulu kunye nabasetyhini kunye namadoda, kwaye uyaziphatha ngokunyanisekileyo nawaphi na amanga.
- Kubalulekile ukuba aziva kakuhle kwaye aphumelele ingxabano, nokuba ufanele atshabalalise ubudlelwane kunye nomchasi wakhe.
- Akathandi ukuzithoba nabantu, ecinga ukuba uyisidenge, akwazi ukuvelisa.
- Umfazi oyisidenge uhlawula ingqalelo kwizinto ezincinci, engaqapheli iingxaki ezinzulu, isisombululo esibaluleke kakhulu.
- Nangona kukho umntu oqhelekileyo endlwini, uzama ukwenza konke ngokwakhe, kuquka oko umntu angakwenza kwaye akwenze, kwaye athathe zonke izigqibo ngokuzimeleyo, ngaphandle kokuqwalasela imbono yeqabane lakhe.
- Akakholelwa ukuba iingxaki zobomi bakhe zivela kwizenzo zakhe nangengcamango, ekholelwa ukuba "unesimo esinjalo."
- Umfazi oyisiphukuphuku ngummeli wesigxina sowesifazana ozisa abahlobo bakhe ngeengxaki zakhe zonke, uxoxe nabo ngokuziphatha kwakhe kwintsapho, kwaye usebenzisa ezi ngcebiso.
- Akafuni ukusebenzisana kunye noogxa bakhe ukuba "bahlambe amathambo" oomphathi wakhe, ukutyhilela abadibaniselwano ngezinye iinkcukacha ukuba, kwiimeko ezithile, unokuziphendulela, ngaphandle kokucinga ngemiphumo.
- Iimpawu zowesifazane ongenangqondo zibonisa ukuba yena ngokwakhe ucinga iingxaki yena ngokwakhe kunye neengxakini malunga nokungakwazi ukuzisombulula.
- Ayilungele ukuphazamisa nokukhangela isisombululo kwingxaki esasiza kusenza ukuba siphume kwiimeko ezinzima ngaphandle kokulimaza amaqabane ekuxabaneni.
Ukuziqhelanisa kubonisa ukuba umfazi makangabalulekanga, njengobulumko, kwaye oku kubaluleke kakhulu kumfazi.