U mtsalane

Ukutsalana kwengqondo kuyingcamango ekhangelelwa ngumntu omnye komnye, indawo eya kuyo. Ngamazwi alula, oku kuvelwano phakathi kwabantu. Nangona kubonakala ngathi le mvakalelo ivela ngokuzimeleyo, kukho imithetho ethile yokukhanga, eye isetyenziswe iingcali ezisuka kwintengiso yokuthengisa, ukuthengisa, ingqondo kunye nabanye abaninzi. Ingcamango yokukhangeka ayisayi kuthathwa njengexesha elimncinci kwengqondo - lisetyenziselwa yonke indawo.

Izindlela zengqondo zokukhangela

Ukuze kubangele isimo esifanelekileyo somntu, kwanele ukusebenzisa nje ubuchule bokukhanga. Abo bajwayelene nencwadi kaDale Carnegie Indlela yokuphumelela abahlobo kunye nefuthe Abantu baya kubona ezininzi iindlela eziqhelekileyo. Khawuqwalasele oku:

1. "Igama lakho." Akukho sandi ehlabathini livakalisa umntu njengomnandi njengoko egama lakhe, ngoko ngokuqhelekileyo ubiza igama lomntu ngegama. Ingaba ungumthengi okanye umqeshwa wenkampani, okanye umntu ovela kubamelwane bakho - wonk 'ubani uya kuvuya xa uthe wathanda kwaye ubhekisele kubo ngegama.
2. Umgama. Kukho umgama esingabavumela abantu ukuba basondele-abantu abasondeleyo bangakwazi ukuma emva koko, kodwa ukuba umhlobo omtsha uziphatha ngokufanayo, kuya kubangela ukucaphuka. Kubalulekile ukuyiqonda le mimida, ukuba uzive kwaye ungayi kuwela i-facet yendawo esondeleyo.
3. "Ulungiso lwendawo". Iingcali zengqondo zithi kukulungele ukuba kube kwicala lomnye nomnye, ukuba unamanqanaba afanayo - oku kuya kususa intshutshiso engadingekile. Kodwa umphathi kunye nabangaphantsi bahlala bebhekene nomnye.
4. I-Mirror yoMphefumlo. Yiba nobungane, umomotheka, uvule, jonga kwamehlo akho, kodwa ungenawo uxinzelelo.
5. "Amazwi amnandi." Ngaba uncomela kumlingane, uxhasane nokukhetha kwakhe, uyavumelana nezigqibo zakhe.
6. "Umphulaphuli onomonde." Ukuba umnxibelelwano wakho ufuna ukuthetha ngaphandle, makhe akwenze, aqhubeke aze amkhange ukuze aqonde ukuba uyamqonda kakuhle.
7. "Imizobo". Kukho iincwadi ezipheleleyo ezikufundisayo ukuba ufunde izibonakaliso kunye nesimo sombuso ngokuchanekileyo, wabelane ngazo zonke ezi ngcamango ezingabonakaliyo kwizinto ezintle nezonakele, kwaye ufundise indlela yokukhuphela ngokuzenzekelayo iimpawu ezilungileyo, ngaloo ndlela uvuselela imfesane. Kwinqanaba lokuqala, kwanele nje ukukopisha impawu, kodwa kungenakuqonda.
8. "Ubomi bomntu siqu". Yiba nomdla ebomini bomntu, khumbula igama ngalinye nakwiintlanganiso ezalandelayo, unomdla kwiimeko zomntakwabo okanye ukuba inja yakhe ifumaneke. Esi simo sengqondo asinakukwenza kodwa senze isimo.

Iindlela ezinjalo zokukhanga ziza kukuvumela ukuba uzuze ulwalamano oluhle kunye neqela, abathengi, umphathi, kodwa kunye nabantu ofuna ukufumana abahlobo.

Iintlobo zokukhanga

Amanqanaba okukhanga ahlukeneyo, ukusuka ekungenakunzulu ukuya kunzulu. Makhe siqwalasele okokuqala:

1. U velwano. Olu mtsalane lwenzeka ekuqaleni kwezonxibelelwano kwaye lufake umtsalane ngokomzimba, iimpawu zentlalo, iimpawu zoluntu, kunye nezinye izinto. Le mpendulo yempembelelo kwi "mask" eyenziwa ngumntu.
2. Uthando. Loo mvakalelo unesondo sokuxhaswa ngokwesini, unxulumene nolonwabo, kodwa udlula ngokukhawuleza (ukuya kwiminyaka emi-2). Oku kuphutha ngothando ekuqaleni. Oku kukusabela kwindlela abaziphatha ngayo, ukungahambi kakuhle komntu kunye nokuhle. Ngelo thuba umntu ubheka okusemgangathweni, emva koko ukudumazeka kulandelwa rhoqo, i. Uthando luvakalelwa yinto efanelekileyo, kungekhona umntu wangempela.
3. Uthando. Kuvela ngesiseko somsebenzi ohlangeneyo, okwandisa ukukhanga emehlweni.

Lawa amanqanaba angenangqondo, kodwa kumanqanaba anzulu omnye unokukwazi ukujonga iimvakalelo ezifana nothando nokuxhomekeka kumntu.