Sijwayele ukwahlula ubomi bethu kumigca emnyama neyemhlophe. Kodwa ukuba ixesha eliqhayisayo nelonwabileyo liphantse livuyiswe, ke akuyena wonke umntu onokujamelana neengxaki kunye neengxaki. Isimo sengqondo esilindele kuwe kufuneka sifundwe. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka nje ufunde ukucinga ngokufanelekileyo phantsi kweemeko. Siza kuthetha malunga nokwenza oku.
Indlela yokwenza i-optimist out of a pessimist?
Ingxaki yokungathembeki ngumntu ochitha iminyaka ebhetele yobomi bakhe ngokulindela amaxesha amaninzi. Umbhali wale nkcazo wayesondele kakhulu kwinyaniso. Ngelishwa, kwintlalo yanamhlanje kungokwesiko ukuzola ngovuyo kunye nempumelelo, ngelixa abaninzi bekulungele ukuxoxa ngeengxaki zabo ngeeyure. Izikhalazo ngobomi azikho nto kodwa ngumsebenzi wendlela yokukhusela yengqondo. Ukukhangela iingxaki ngumsebenzi wakhe oyintloko. Kwaye umahluko phakathi kwethemba kunye nesifo sokungathembeki kukuba umntu ocinga kakuhle uye wafunda ukukhohliswa kwezi ndlela kwaye athathe amacala amnandi kuyo nayiphi na ingxaki. Kutheni abo bangakuthi "ngumntu othembekileyo"? Shintsha ingqondo yakho kunye nesimo sakho sengqondo ebomini-oku kuyona ndlela efanelekileyo, indlela yokuba nethemba. Ezinye iingcebiso ezifanelekileyo ziya kunceda kulo:
- Akunzima kakhulu ukudala isimo sengqondo. Ukwenza oku, ubuncinane ukholwe kuwe kunye namandla akho. Musa ukuzibandakanya kwi-flagellation. Nangona oogxa beye bavuma ukuba bakubizele ingcali engenamsebenzi, khumbula ukuba bakwenza ngenxa yomona. Musa ukucinga ukuba awuyi kuzuza nantoni na. Isithembiso esilungileyo ngokwakho ukuba xa ungaphumeleli uzakuzama kwakhona.
- Ngaba ufuna ukuba nethemba? Ukuthetha nabantu abanomdla. Iimvakalelo ezingalunganga kunye neengxaki ezidityanisiweyo zithinteka kakhulu kunomoya omhle. Ngokukhawuleza ukuyeka ukuphulaphula abantu abahlala benganelisekanga, uya kufumana ukuba isimo sakho sengqondo siba ngcono ngemini.
- Musa ukuzihlukumeza ngomsebenzi kunye nezenzo ongazithandayo. Funda ukwenza zonke izinto ezibalulekileyo kwaye ezingathandeki kusasa. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umsebenzi wengqondo uya kukuvumela ukuba uhlangabezane ngokukhawuleza, kwaye kwenye - uya kuba nokuphumla okukhululekile kwosuku ngezinto ezizithandayo kwaye akusayi kuba nesizathu sokudakumba nokuxhalabisa.
- Ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokwenzeka, funda kwaye uzixelele iintetho ezahlukeneyo ezinethembayo. Qalisa kwaye usuphelise imini ngokuqinisekisiweyo. Ulibale ibinzana: "Andikwazi," "Andiqinisekanga," "Andikwazi ukwenza." Xelela: "Ndiyathanda ...", "Ndiya kuba ...", "Ndiya kwenza ...". Kwakhona i-motto yakho ingaba ngamazwi amahle abantu abaninzi:
"Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuxhuma kwidokodo, kufuneka uthathe amanyathelo ambalwa"
"Omnye akufanele athathe ingxaki enkulu: ukunyaniseka ukuwela iingxaki ngeentlanzi"
"Zingaphi iimeko ezazingenakwenzeka ngaphambi kokuba ziphunyezwe"
"Isiphumo akusona umcimbi wamathuba, kodwa umphumo wokukhetha; ikulindeleke, alinwe "
"Izinto ezinkulu kufuneka zenziwe, zingacingi ukuba zingapheliyo"
- Khumbula ukuba umntu othembekileyo, njengomgaqo, uhlala elala ngokwaneleyo, ukhokelela
indlela esebenzayo yobomi, kuyo yonke into ezama ukujonga izinto ezintle kwaye akalokothi aphelelwe amandla. Abantu abanjalo abanalo ixesha lokucinga ngezinto ezimbi. Nangona kukho ingxaki, thatha njengolu vavanyo olunye, kungekhona njengokuhlaselwa kunye nesiganeko sosizi.
Ukuba ungenayo ingxaki, ke ... usufile! Le ngxabano ayithandi kakhulu kwizinto ezintle, kodwa ibonisa ngokucacileyo ukuba iingxaki azikho isizathu sokubeka izandla. Ubomi bakho yiloo nto ucinga ngayo. Vumela ukuba ujabulele ubomi, kuba umntu uyonwabile kanye njengoko sele enqwenele ukuvuya.