Nangona ukubulisa okuqhelekileyo kunokuthetha ngokubanzi ngomntu, nangona ubuncinci bamazwi athetha. Into kukuba asisebenzisi kuphela iindlela zokuthetha, kodwa neendlela ezahlukeneyo zokunxibelelana ngomlomo. Oko kukuthi, iinjongo kunye nemizwa ingabonakaliswa ngaphandle kokusebenzisa intetho. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akulula ukufunda "ukufundwa kwabantu", kodwa kuyafaneleka ukuqala ukuqwalasela iindlela ezahlukeneyo zonxibelelwano.
Izixhobo zokunxibelelana ngomlomo
Ngokuqhelekileyo le ndlela yokusebenzisana ikwahlula ngeentlobo ezimbini: intetho ngomlomo nangobhaliweyo. Kodwa kukho inkulumo echazwe ngaphakathi ngaphakathi, esiyisebenzisayo xa sicinga ngeentetho zethu okanye ngengqondo ngokubhala umyalezo wesigidimi. Ukuhlanganiswa kwazo zonke iintlobo zezindlela zokunxibelelana ezinonxibelelwano-kunye neleta, kwaye kwingxoxo yomntu, sisebenzisa amagama athile axhomekeke. Ngoko bekuhlala kunjalo, kodwa kungekudala kuye kwaba nomdla wokuthabatha ukululaza intetho ebhaliweyo xa uthetha ngeenkonzo ze-Intanethi. Imithetho emininzi yemigaqo ilahliwe, ngaphandle kokuba ixabiso lenkcazelo yomyalezo ayiyi kuphazamiseka.
Kukho intetho ye-dactyl, ebhekisela kwiindlela zokuthetha, kodwa nayo inezixhobo zokunxibelelana ngokungathethi. I-alphabet yomunwe isetyenziswe ngabantu abangakwazi ukusebenzisana nabanye ngomlomo.
Enye ingongoma ebalulekileyo kwincoko yile ngxelo, ngaphandle kokuba umntu akanako ukuqiniseka ukuba ulwazi lwakhe luchanekile ngolu hlobo. Ukuqonda oku, ukulawula imibuzo ingasetyenziselwa, njengoko ootitshala bekwenza. Kwakhona, iindlela zonxibelelwano ezingabonakaliyo abantu abahlala besisebenzisa ngokungazi kakuhle nazo zingabonisa ukuba ukuphumelela kwefuthe lomlomo. Enyanisweni, abanye banokukwazi ukuzilawula ngokuzimeleyo, benganikeli isimo sabo sengqondo kwizinto ezenzekayo, kodwa baninzi abanalo olunjalo, ngoko ukunyamezela kunye nokuzibonakalisa kungazisa ulwazi olunomdla olumalunga nomnye umntu.
Iintlobo kunye ne-etiquettes yokunxibelelana okungengomlomo
Ukusebenzisana kwalo hlobo luzo zonke iindlela zokuthetha zonxibelelwano. Ezi zinto ziphambili zibonakaliso, ubuso kunye ne-pantomime.
- Imisindo yenye yezona ndlela endala zokutshintshisisa ulwazi, zakhiwe nokuba ulwimi lusekelwe ekuhambeni kwentloko nezandla. Kodwa nangaphandle kokusetyenziswa kwayo, i-gesticulation ingatsho kakhulu. Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukuthobela ingqwalasela yayo, ephakamileyo, ngaphezulu kokukhathazeka malunga nesihloko sencoko. Kodwa esi sibonakaliso asiyiyo yonke indawo kubameli beentlanga ezahlukeneyo. Ngaloo ndlela, ukusetyenziswa komsebenzi waseMexico ngokugqithiseleyo, kulandelwa amaTaliyane, baninzi emva kweFrentshi, kwaye, iindawo ezigcinwe kakhulu yi-Finns.
- I-Mimicry iyintlangano yesisu somzimba, esichazela malunga nesimo sengqondo somnxibelelwano. Ngokweziphumo zophando umntu uthumela malunga ne-10-15% yazo zonke iinkcukacha, kunye nenani leenkcazo zamagama akhe angaphezulu kwamawaka angama-20. Ingqwalasela ephambili kufuneka ihlawulwe emlonyeni nasemaseleni, kubalulekile ukuba kubonakale. Umzamo wokubalekela ekuqhagamshelaneni okubonakalayo ungabonwa njengetinga lokuthetha amanga okanye isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kumntu onxibelelana naye. Ukhangelelwano olukhawulezayo luphawu lomdla omkhulu, ukungathembeki okanye umngeni. Kufuneka siqonde ukuba esi sibonakaliso sithonywe ubuzwe. Abemi beemimandla esezantsi bajonge kaninzi kwabanye, kwaye abantu baseAsia, umzekelo, amaJapane baqwalasela lo mboniso wokungabi nabulungisa, bezama ukugxila kwintamo. Kwakhona kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zokuthintana kwamehlo: ishishini (ukulungiswa kwinqanaba lebunzi), intlalontle (umgama phakathi komlomo kunye namehlo) kunye nesondlo (ukusuka kwintsimbi ukuya kwinqanaba lesifuba).
- I-Pantomimika ibandakanya ukuhamba, ukunyuka, ukunyameka kunye nokuhamba ngokubanzi komzimba wonke. Igalelo linokukuxelela ngemoya, impilo kunye nomntu womntu. Ngokomzekelo, isitayela sokuhamba esicacileyo sithetha ngokuvuya, kwaye kunzima-malunga nobudlova okanye isimo somsindo. Izithuba ziphethe umthwalo ophezulu wolwazi, kukho malunga newaka. Ukuxhatshazwa kwesimo somzimba kuya kuthetha ngesimo esingaphantsi malunga nabanye
zikhoyo. Wonke umntu uyazi malunga nesithuba sokuvuleka, esihambelana nokulungele ukusebenzisana, kodwa akusiyo yonke into ekhumbula ukuba i-postile evaliweyo ayibonakali nje ukungakholwa okanye ukungavumelani komnxibelelwano, kodwa naye kumthintela ukuba angamkeli malunga neyesithathu yolwazi olungenayo.
Kananjalo ekusebenzisaneni okungengowomlomo, ukuthintela kubalulekile (ukuxhaphaza, ukuhlawula ehlombe), isiqulatho sezwi kunye nesingqikithi sokuthetha, intetho, ikhefu, ukufakwa kokuhleka, ukuphefumula kwesithethi. Ukuphela kwazo zonke izihlandlo kukuvumela ukuba ufumane ingcamango yendalo kunye neminye imikhwa yomntu emva kwemizuzu emininzi yokunxibelelana.