Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uqaphele ukuba umnxibelelwano wakho uziphatha nawe ngendlela efanayo ngaphandle kobukho bakho, kwaye nangona unokuthi unokuqiniseka ukuba unobungqineli obujongene namabini amabini, kwenzeka ukuba ebomini bafikeleleke kunye nabanolwazi abanezakhono. Ngokucwina kwenkululeko kunye nokwaneliseka, uya kumnika yonke into onayo, kwaye emva kokuba uhamba naye, uya kubona ukuba uye waba lixhoba lochwepheshe.
Kukho amaqhinga amaninzi indlela yokuchonga umlinge womntu. Musa ukuwahoxisa ngenxa yakho.
Siqinisekisa ukuziphatha "kwangaphambili" kunye "emva"
Ukuba unomhlangano obalulekileyo, qinisekisa ukunyaniseka kwe-interlocutor yakho. Yiza imizuzu eyi-15 ngaphambi kwakhe, fumana indawo yokukhusela apho ungayi kuphawula kwaye ujonge. Inqaku lokuqala indlela yokuchonga uhlobo lomntu womntu kukugcina umvuzo:
- ukukhululeka kunye nokulawula - injongo yomntu ukuza ngexesha lomhlangano, akaphazanyiswa yinkqubo ejikelezayo, uyakwazi ukuthatha uxanduva kwizenzo zakhe nezithembiso zakhe;
- umfaniswano, kodwa umntu uphendulela lonke ixesha - aba bantu banamhlanje banakekela isithunzi sabo, esibonisa ukungabikho kwengqondo yabo;
- epholileyo, engakhathazekiyo, intloko iyancipha - umntu, mhlawumbi, uye wabonakalisa into ethile, okanye uvakalelwa kakubi;
- i-gait ebukhali, i-shudders rhoqo esuka kwingxolo encinci - loo mntu ufuna ukuxhaswa kwiimbono zabanye, ugxininisekile kwaye kakhulu.
Xa isifundo sakho sisendaweni, sebenzisa isinyathelo sesibini, indlela onokumisela ngayo umlinge womntu - ukuxhaphaza ngesandla:
- ocebileyo - nokuba umntu ukhathele, okanye ukuba uninzi kwiintlanganiso, kwaye udibanisa izandla kwindawo yokugqibela, ingqalelo yakho iyanyanzelwanga kwaye ayifumani njengento ebalulekileyo;
- iphula iminwe kwaye igaye esandleni
- lo uphawu lokulwa, umntu ubonisa ukungabi nantembelo kuwe; - Isandla sesibini sikubeka ehlombe lakho - nokuba ngumlawuli okanye umntu phambi kokuba ahlolisise wena, njengokuba wenza njalo (nakunoma kunjalo, ukunxibelelana kuya kuba mnandi);
- Uxubusha isundu sakho ngezandla zombini - ulindele ukuba kukho isicelo okanye umyalezo obalulekileyo.
Nazi zimbini iingongoma onokuzibonela phambili ukuphuhliswa kobudlelwane. Emva koko, kufuneka uqhathanise ukuziphatha komntu entle ngento oye wazibona ngayo ngexesha lokuqwalasela kwangaphambili.