Xa indoda ishiya intsapho, abafazi abaninzi baqala ukukhangela isizathu sokuphuka ngokwabo kwaye bazibandakanya kwi-self-flagellation. Ewe, ukuhlalutya ulwalamano lwakho, ukukhangela iimpazamo kuzo kwaye uzama ukuzilungisa, yinto efanelekileyo, eyona nto iya kuba yinto yokusetyenziswa. Ngako oko, ngaphambi kokucela umntu ukuba abuyele, embonise ngezithembiso, kufuneka ubeke ixesha kwaye ulinde iimvakalelo. Ngeli thuba kungcono ukuba ungabizi indoda, kungekhona ukujonga iintlanganiso kwaye ungazikhumbuzi. Mhlawumbi indoda iya kucinga ukuba imkhumbula umfazi wayo kwaye imthanda, kwaye ukuhoxiswa kwakhe kwexeshana ngumnqweno olula wokuphucula ubomi bemihla ngemihla, ukungaqondani okanye ukungqubuzana. Kodwa ukuba oko akukwenzeka, kufuneka uzame ukuyibuyisela.
Kuthekani ukuba indoda yashiya intsapho?
Okokuqala, makhe sithethe malunga noko akufanele ukwenze:
- Ucela umntu ukuba abuyele;
- bhani, bhala, nilile phambi kwakhe;
- Zama ukuphazamisa wena ngoncedo lweeveli ezintsha.
Njengoko kuya kuthatha ixesha emva kokuhlukana, kufuneka ucele umyeni wakho malunga nentlanganiso. Kubalulekile ukuba umfazi angamlungiseleli nje ngaphandle, kodwa unesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo sengqondo. Ukulondoloza ukuzola kunye nokuzithiba kukuba, kubalulekile, njengokuba udabuka kunye neinyembezi kunokusongela nabani na. Mhlawumbi, kuyimfuneko ukutshintsha umfanekiso: i-makeup entsha, i-hairdress, utshintsho lwe-wardrobe. Konke oku kunokubangela umdla womntu. Emva koko, makhe sithethe ngendlela yokubuyisela umyeni owashiya:
- Tshela umyeni wakho ngeemvakalelo zakho. Ngaphandle kobuzenzisi, i-finesse nokungaqiniseki.
- Ukuxolisa ngokuziphatha kwakho ukuba ingazange ihlangabezane neengcamango zomyeni ngomfazi omhle.
- Buza iqabane ukuba linike elinye ithuba lokugcina intsapho.
Umyeni wam waya kwinkosikazi yakhe - njani ukubuyela?
Ukuba indoda iya kwelinye ibhinqa, ngoko yinto engayithandiyo kwintsapho yakhe. Njengoko umkhuba ubonisa, amadoda akashiyi apho akhululekile khona. Mhlawumbi izikhalazo ezihlala zihlala njalo, ukuhlambalaza, ukuthukwa kwamshukumisela kuye. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akukho mntu ulungelelisela indoda kule meko. Kodwa, ukuba umfazi unemvakalelo enamandla, ngoko kufuneka uzame ukuyibuyisela nazo zonke iindlela ezikhoyo.
Buyisela umyeni oya kwelinye, unako, umenze umona , kuba umntu onomnini, kwaye ukubona ukuba umfazi owangaphambili ujikelezwe ngabathandekayo abangenakuyithandeka kuye. Kungenzeka ukuba uya kuthatha amanyathelo okubuyisela indawo yomfazi wakhe.
Zama ukuba ngumhlobo weqabane. Fumana umdla oqhelekileyo, usixhase. Kodwa akukho mzekelo awuphenduli kakubi kumhlobo wakhe omtsha. Indoda ayikwazi ukuxolela oku. Iintlanganiso nganye kufuneka zizaliswe ngokulula. Ungazami ukumenza azive
Indoda iya kwelinye - yintoni yokwenza?
Kubaluleke kakhulu ngeli xesha ukuba ungabi naso isibindi, pha kamisa ukuzithemba kwakho kwaye uqhubeke ujabulela ubomi. Zizinakekele, uphuhliso lwakho ngokomoya nangokwenyama, ukubonakala kwakho, abantwana. Dive kumsebenzi ukuphazamisa. Abahlobo abatsha, ukuqonda ezinye izakhono, ukuhamba-zonke ezo zinto ziya kuba nefuthe elibonakalayo kwimeko yokubonakala kunye nesimo sengqondo somfazi. Ukuba indoda ayikwazi ukubuyela, yifune kwaye imvumele ahambe. Khumbula njalo ukuba awuyi kunyanzela uthando.