Akuyena wonke umntu onenhlanhla ukuba abe nosapho oluxolweni kunye nabazali abanothando. Kwiintsapho zanamhlanje ukuxabana sele ziqhelekile. Kwabanye abantu, ingxabano yindlela ethile yokuhlala kunye, indlela yokuxazulula iingxaki, kodwa umntwana akayiqondi le nto, ukholelwa ukuba isizathu asikho kuye kwaye sibi. Uziva ekhuselekile kwaye engenakunceda, engaziphi na icala eliza kuthatha. Ukuba umntwana okhulayo angachaza ngandlela-thile ukukhusela, inkwenkwe iyaxhala xa abazali bekhala, kwaye akunandaba kuye okanye omnye komnye. Abantwana kaninzi banemibuzo malunga nendlela yokudibanisa abazali babo nakwezinye iimeko apho bayakwazi ukubeka indawo yentsapho.
Iimbangela zeengxabano - kutheni abazali bahlala bethi:
- Ukungamhloneli umlingane, izenzo kunye namazwi awonakalisa isidima somntu, ukuhlambalaza, ngokuqhelekileyo kuba esinye sezizathu zokuba abazali bexabana. Iimvumba zivakalayo kwiqela apho kungekho ntembelo, xa elinye iqabane lizama ukulandela elinye, ukulawula izenzo zakhe, likhwele ngaphandle kwesizathu.
- Ukungabikho komtshato kuyona sizathu sokuba abazali bahlale befunga. Ngokuqhelekileyo ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, uthando lukhona, kodwa ke luya kupheleka. Umyeni uyeka ukunyamekela kwaye unake umfazi wakhe, umfazi uyeka ukuzithoba nomyeni wakhe, uzibukele.
- Abazali bexhatshazo, kuba inyaniso kwintsapho ayilindelekanga. Abaninzi banemibono yabo yokuhlala kunye kunye xa kuthelekisana nenyani, kuvela ingxabano. Isizathu sokungqubana okunjalo sinokungabikho kokunyamekela, ukunyamekela, ukulala ngesondo, njl njl.
- Iimfuno ezingaphezulu kwamaqabane, kunye naxa abafazi baneengcamango ezahlukileyo ngamalungelo kunye neembopheleleko zabanye, bafaka isandla ekuphumeni kokungazinzi kunye nokukhungatheka.
- Iingxwaba ziyakhula xa usapho luyintlungu kunye nokuzilibazisa. Usuku emva komhla, enye inye ayiyiyo imvakalelo ebalulekileyo, ulwahluke, ukuvakalelwa kwintsha. Xa abatshatileyo bechitha iiholide zabo ngokwahlukileyo, kubangelwa ukuba bahlasele i-scandals phakathi kwabo.
Yintoni endiyenzayo xa abazali bam bexabana?
- Ukuba abazali baxabana, into yokuqala yokuyenza kukuba kusekwe imbambano yokungahambisani. Ukuba kuyingozi - utywala, ukhohlisayo, okanye ubona ukuba iimvakalelo zabazali ziye zacima, ngoko kungcono uhlale kude, abazali baya kuziqonda, kwaye kufuneka uthabathe isigqibo sabo kuphela.
- Fumana i-compromise. Emva kokugqiba imbangela yengxaki, zama ukufumana isisombululo ngokwakho, ulungelelanisa abazali bobabini.
- Thetha ngokwahlukileyo nomzali ngamnye. Zama ukwenza ukuba ibonakale ngokwemvelo, umzekelo, kwisidlo sasekuseni, xa ubaba ehamba, cela umama wakho ukuba kutheni abazali bexabana, eso sizathu, kunye noko baya kukwenza ngokulandelayo. Udinga uphando ukuze uqale incoko. Xa umama wakho ephendula le mibuzo, xelele indlela ovakalelwa ngayo malunga nokuxabana, ukuba unengcamango embi. Udinga ukuvusa uvelwano lwakhe nokuqonda ukuba ukuxabana kwabo kakubi kukuchaphazela kakubi.
- Xa umama akwazi ukubheka ingxabano esuka kwinqanaba elithile kwaye uyaqonda ukuba wenza okungalunganga, ukuxoka, ukuqulunqa ibali, ukuba upapa ufuna ukuyenza, kodwa indlela engazi ngayo. Ucele owokuqala ukuba acele ukuxolelwa.
- Phinda oku kunye noyihlo.
- Ungabi sisidenge. Musa ukulandela icebiso loluhlu: qalisa ukuwa, ukusela, ukutshaya. Musa ukuxabana nabazali bakho, kunjalo
akuyona indlela engcono kakhulu yokuyixolelanisa. Ngoko ke uqhubeka wandisa ingxabano kwaye uzenzele iingxaki ezongezelelweyo. Kufuneka uqinisekise, kunokubangela ubunzima obongezelelweyo kubazali. - Ukuba unina akayi kuxolelana, uthenge iintyatyambo uze umbonele, uthi nguyise owathengileyo, kodwa wakunxusa ukuba ungatsho ukuba i-bouquet yayivela kuye. Ukuba uyihlo ukhubekile, uthenge i-cologne, ayithandayo kwaye uthi unina wathenga i-perfume, kodwa wabuza ukuba ubanike kuwe. Into ephambili kwaye musa ukuvuma ngokugqithiseleyo ukuba ngulo nto oyimisayo.
Musa ukuthoba izandla zakho kwaye ungaphambuki, mhlawumbi uza kuseka indlela yakho, indlela yokuxolelana ngayo nabazali. Uxolo lwakho nosapho!