Ukuxabana nomyeni wakhe kuqhelekileyo kwaye akukho nto engavamile kuyo, kodwa ke wonke umntu unemikhono nemibono yakhe ngezinto ezithile ezingenakuhambelana. Kodwa ukuba ingxabano nomyeni wayo ibe yisesigxina, ke le ntsimbi ephazamisayo, engayikunyanzelwa. Kubalulekile ukuqonda izizathu zokuxabana nomyeni wakho kwaye ufumane indlela yokuziphepha.
Kutheni sihlala sifunga nomyeni wam?
Ukuze uphendule umbuzo wendlela yokuyeka ukuphikisana nomyeni wakho okanye, ubuncinci, kungekho rhoqo, kufuneka uqonde ukuba kutheni le mpikiswano iqhubeka. Ngenxa yoko, emva kokunye ukuxabana, endaweni yokukhala kumhlobo wam "Ndixabana nomyeni wam," bhetele ucinge ukuba kutheni le nto yenzeka kwaye yintoni isizathu sokuba enye ingxabano yakho. Nazi izizathu eziqhelekileyo zengxabano zentsapho.
- Ukungafuni ukuzithoba komyeni wakho kwaye ngenxa yoko, umzamo wokwandisa kwiintlawulo zabanye abantu, abo babonakala bebuthathaka kuye kwaye abanako ukuxhathisa.
- Izithethe zentsapho-mhlawumbi kwintsapho yakhe, ubudlelwane bwakhiwe ngale ndlela kwaye indoda yakho ayikwazi ukuba yintoni enye into, engazange ixelelwe ngayo.
- Ukususwa kwezikhalazo ezitholwe emsebenzini, endleleni eya ekhaya umntu wokuqala. Umzekelo, umphathi wakhe akakwazi ukuthetha yonke into ecinga ngaye, kodwa unokumemeza.
- Ukuxinezeleka, ukukhathala, kunye nokugula kunokubangela ukukhubeka. Nangona umntu ozolileyo uqala ukucaphukisa ngenxa yezinto ezintle, ukuba uvakalelwa.
- Ingxabano inokuthi iyenzeka ngenxa yokuba kwindlela eya kwinjongo efunwayo kukho imingcipheko. Ngokomzekelo, umntu ukhathele esihogweni, akafuni isidlo sakusihlwa, kuphela ukuba afike embhedeni, kwaye uqala kuye into efunekayo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo siphikisana nomyeni wakhe, sifanele senze ntoni?
Kunengqiqo ukucinga ukuba xa uthi "sisoloko siphikisana nomyeni wam, andiyazi into endiyenzayo", ngoko awuyi kuthanda ukuphumelela kwimpikiswano, ukuba ungakanani ukuqonda ukuba ungaphikisani nomyeni wakho - emva kwakho konke, ukuxabana okungekho nto kubangele ukufumana intsapho yolonwabo . Ukwenza oku, akufuneki kuphela ukucacisa izizathu zokuziphatha komyeni wakho, kodwa ufumane izigqibo ezifanelekileyo.
- Ngoko ke, ukuba uyazi malunga nezifo ezingapheliyo zomyeni wakho okanye usibone i-malaise yakhe, musa ukuqala ukutshiza kwindlebe yakhe, into ecela. Kungcono unakekele impilo yakhe, fumana iyeza okanye udibane nodokotela.
- Ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngexesha leengxabano, abatshatileyo bayakhohlwa malunga nomxholo wencoko, ukusuka kwicala kungabonakala ngathi bafumanisa ukuba ngubani na onobulumko kwaye afunde ngakumbi. Funda ukuzibamba ngezihlandlo ezinjalo, uyeke ukuphazamiseka okungaqondakaliyo, abasayi kunceda ukuxazulula le ngxaki. Kungcono ukuthatha ikhefu, jonga imeko kwimiba emibini kwaye ukhethe amagama ukuze ufikelele kwisivumelwano esivumelana kokubili.
- Zama ukuqonda ukuba kutheni umyeni wakho ecinga ukuba sikwazi ukuphakamisa izwi lakho, sifunde ngexabiso lakhe losapho. Buza malunga noko kukumkhathazayo ngoku - amadoda akakwazi ukufumana amandla ukuxelela izizathu zabo zokungazinzi, ngokuqinisekileyo bafuna imibuzo ekhokelayo. Kodwa usafuna ukuthetha.
- Sebenza ngokuzithemba kwakho, funda ukuzithobela, umbonise ukuba akayi kufezekisa nantoni na ngokumemeza: "Ewe, wandibizela, yintoni na? Ufeze ntoni? ". Kungekudala uza kuphawula ukuba kungekhona onke amazwi enkqonkqo yindoda yakho ebenokukukhwaza, ngoku ifikelela ekujoliswe kuyo.
- Uncedo lokuphakamisa ukuzithemba kunye nomyeni, makakholelwe kuye ngokwakhe-umntu onelaneleyo akafuneki ukuzibhokoxa kwiindleko zomnye umntu. Dumisani umyeni wakho (kuphela ngaphandle kokuncenga), ube ngumhlobo wakhe, ohlala ehlala ehlala njalo kwaye uya kuxhasa. Mxelele-nantoni na eyenzekayo kuye emnyango wezindlu, izindlu zakhe zihlala zilinde kwaye zithandwa.
- Mkhuthaze ukuba aqale ukudlala ezemidlalo - makamthathe isicaphuko kungekhona ngokumemeza, kodwa ngokukhupha ipeyari.
- Emva kokunye ukuxabana nomyeni wakhe, musa ukugijimela kuye ukuze uxolelane, njengokungathi nawe ubeka ityala kuyo yonke into, masize aphile yonke into eyenzekayo, qaphela ukuba iphoso lakhe kwimpikiswano ikhona. Yaye xa i-passion ishiya, ungabuyela kwingxoxo engathandekiyo.