Ukuba uya kuthandana nenkwenkwezi ewayo: "Ndifuna ukutshata ngempumelelo ngothando" (kwaye ungeze "kwaye ngokukhawuleza"), kwaye ubusuku obungenazintlanzi uphinda kwakhona la magama njengemantra - mhlawumbi yinto engokwemvelo kuyo yonke intombazana inqwenela lixesha ... vumela uhambe. Kodwa kukho iindaba ezilungileyo-oku kukunyathelo lokugqibela elikhankanywe kweli nqaku. Ilandelwa ngokuchaneka kokuchaneka komnqweno, kunye namanyathelo enokhenkethi anika ithemba lokuba umtshato awusona iphupha elide, kodwa into ebonakalayo. Ngoko, bathandekayo bokomso, makhe sibone indlela yokwandisa amathuba akho entsapho.
Inyathelo 1. Senza isifiso esifanelekileyo
Okokuqala, cinga: kutheni amantombazana efuna ukutshata. Ngenxa yokuba "ngenxa yendoda abavakalelwa kukuba, njengabasetyhini, bayakhuselwa, bathandwa (ubuncinane emehlweni abo), kuyimfuneko.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kwenzeka ukuba intombazana ifuna kwaye ikhawuleze ukutshata, kuba "kuyimfuneko." Cinga nje: "ngokwenene ufuna ukutshata" kunye nento edibeneyo? Ukuba isizathu sokuba uluntu lukhawuleza, ngoko kufuneka ulinde utshintsho kwizinto eziphambili.
Ngoku zibuze: luhlobo luni lomntu ofuna ukuyifumana. "Ukuba yintoni kuphela" impendulo engalunganga. Uthi awuyikuzixabisa, kwaye ukulungisa ukuzithemba kuyisinyathelo esibalulekileyo endleleni eya emtshatweni. Khumbula: awuyedwa, ungumfazi okhululekileyo. Ingubo yomtshato, iintyatyambo kunye novuyo - le lakho lizayo.
Inyathelo 2. Kholelwa kuwe
Iengqondo, oku kunokuba nzima, ngakumbi ukuba usandul 'intlungu. Nangona kunjalo, kukho iindlela ezisebenzayo ezinceda kakhulu ukwandisa ukuzithemba kwabasetyhini:
- ubhalisele ukubonisana nomgcini we-stylist. Yilungiselele utshintsho lomfanekiso wamakhadi: onguchwepheshe ongcono akufanele athathe isifaniselo sezinto sele zikhona kwi-wardrobe yakho. Ungalibali ukuxelela umenzi wakho ngomfanekiso malunga neenjongo zakho, ukuze i-wardrobe idibane nomgomo wakho;
- zizenzele. Ibhinqa elithandana naye liphuma kumanzi, litsala amadoda. Ukuba akukho ithuba lokuba "enkulu", siphuze itiye kwiinkonzo ezibiza kakhulu "kwiziganeko ezikhethekileyo", gqoka iingubo zangaphantsi ezintle, zizithenge iziqhumiso ezintsha okanye iintyatyambo.
Inyathelo lesi-3
Kukho iinkqubo ezininzi kunye neengqungquthela, ezithembisa ukuhlala kwindawo yokuqala kwindlu yendoda yakho. Kodwa iqhinga liyingozi. Siphakamisa ukusebenzisa iindlela "ezingenasici":
- thabatha iphepha kwaye uchaze umyeni wakho wexesha elizayo kwingcaciso encinci;
- isiluleko esaziwayo kwintombazana efuna ukutshata: bathengise i-slippers yamadoda. Umntu akanako ukuzithintela izicathulo; makakhethile umntu okhethiweyo ukuba alinde endlwini yakhe ingubo yokugqoka, umzekelo, i-toothbrush;
- Iimfihlelo ze-feng shui ziya kunceda ukunceda isibini esithile endlwini. Igumbi lokulala kunye nentshona-ntshona-ntshona yendlu yindawo yothando. Amakristali, imizobo eboyiweyo, iifenki zentlanzi ezidibeneyo-ezi zinto zikhonza ngokuqhelekileyo ukubulawa kwebhinqa "Ndifuna ukutshata."
Inyathelo 4. Siphumela ekukhanyeni
Ukutshata, kufuneka ube apho kukho amadoda. Yaye ungabi nje ngentambo yomntu, kubalulekile ukuba amanye amadoda ahlangane nawe rhoqo. Ngoko inxalenye yabo kwixesha elizayo iguqulwa yaba ngabaqhubi. Ibhinqa elijikelezwe ngqalelo liba umbane kumadoda.
Icebo: ngokukhawuleza uhlalutye amadoda ashade kunye namadoda omama angenasiphelo (njengoko kungekho silingwa sokubafundisa kwakhona).
Isinyathelo 5. Ukukhulula umnqweno wakho
Ukuba umnqweno wokutshata awuguqulwa ube yi-paranoia, kubalulekile ukumvumela ukuba ahambe. Akuthethi ukushiya izicwangciso zakho, vula kwaye ujabule. Umgca wokuhamba "ndithathe" unokutsala indoda, kodwa "ungithathe umtshato" sele kusenakwenzeka.
Umfazi onesizungu uthabathe umntu agijime, akhululeke-azalise umnqweno wokuwunqoba. Ngoko, xa ufumana ulwalamano, uya kunandipha inkampani yomntu othandekayo, kungekhona ukunyaniseka: "Ndifuna ukutshata, ndenzeni."