Ekungcatsheni bathetha kakhulu kwaye kaninzi, le ngenye yale micimbi ebhinqileyo namadoda abanomdla kakhulu. Ayikho imfihlo yokuba ukukrexeza kowesifazane kunesidima ngakumbi kunowesifazane. Kuzo zonke iindlela ezichanekileyo ngenxa yokuba abantu baselithembu isithembu, ukuba ukuxoxisana akunxulumene neemvakalelo. Kodwa ukuba ibhinqa liya kwicala, ngoko ulwalamano lwanikezela ngokugqithiseleyo, kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuzilondoloza.
Izibalo zabasetyhini kunye nabesilisa
Kukho idatha ebanga ukuba malunga nentsapho yesithathu, omnye wabafazi ulwalamano lwangaphandle. Ngexesha elifanayo kwiminyaka yakutshanje, abafazi kulezi zikhombisi abayekanga emva kwamadoda, kwaye ngonyaka unyuke inani labo, ngelixa inani lamadoda aneziphoso zabo lisoloko liqhubeka.
Ukungcatsha kwabasetyhini, njengoko kubonakaliswa manani, kuyahlukana namadoda ukuba kwiimeko ezingama-50% zikhokelela ekugqibeleni ngokupheleleyo kwiintsebenziswano kunye neqabane, kwaye kuphela ama-5% amadoda ahamba kwikosikazi yeqabane elihlala phantsi. Makhe sicinge ngezizathu zohlu hlobo olunzulu kwiimpawu.
Iingqondo zesini sokukrexeza
Kukho uluvo lokuba akukho ntlonipho yowesifazane, kuba kunzima kunene ukuba isondo esilungileyo singene ebuhlotsheni obusondeleyo ngaphandle kwemvakalelo, becinga ngakumbi malunga nobudlelwane babo obunaphakade kunye nenhlalakahle yabo. Kususela ebuntwaneni bafaka indima yomgcini weentsapho, ezingenako ukukwazi ukubonisa intsapho leyo ingozi. Ngoku le ngongoma yembono iphela. Abagcini bekhaya ngoku bahlala becala abantu abaphulaphula iminqweno yabo kwaye bajwayele ukuwalandela.
Kodwa ukungcatsha kwamadoda kunye nabesifazane basoloko behluke ngokupheleleyo kwizizathu zabo kunye nesimo sengqondo sokuzimela kwabo. Kubomfazi, imibandela yokungabikho komtshato ingundoqo yokungcatsha, ngelixa abantu bephatha iintetho zabo ngeenkolelo ezincinane, kodwa bambalwa abanokuxolela ukutshutshiswa kweqabane labo.
Ngomntu, imbangela yokukhohlakeleyo ingaba ngumnqweno ongeyena mntu, kwaye akayi kuthetha ukuba akayithandi umfazi wakhe. Izizathu zokungathembeki kwabasetyhini zihlukeneyo kwaye zityhila iingxaki ezininzi kwiinkalo zesibini. Makhe sibone,
- ezinokutshintshisa ubulili obufanelekileyo ukujonga ubuhlobo obutsha:
- ukungabikho kwengqalelo kwiqabane lomlingane;
- Ukunganeliseki kunye neqabane (sithetha ngobabini obusondeleyo bomtshato, kunye neemeko eziphathekayo, ubukho bezinto eziqhelekileyo, njl);
- ukuzithemba, ingcamango yokungaxolisi kubantu;
- ukunyamezela kunye nomnqweno wokubalekela rhoqo;
- impindiselo kumlingane otshintshileyo, njl
Iimpawu zokungathembekanga kwabasetyhini
Amadoda ayingakhokheli ingqalelo kwizinto ezincinane, njengabasetyhini. Ngoko ke, ngamanye amaxesha abafazi abayicingi ukuba kuyimfuneko ukufihla ngokucokisekileyo ubudlelwane babo. Ungazibona njani ukukrexeza kwabasetyhini?
Into yokuqala enokukuphawula ukuba yinguqu ekubonakalayo. Ukuba le ntombazana ayizange ibukele ngokuzimeleyo, kwaye ngoku ayifuni imali yokwenza umquba, i-pedicure, njalo ekuseni isenza umzobo, ngokukhawuleza igxotha kwaye ayizame ukutsala ingqalelo yendoda yakhe, ngoko akenzanga yona.
Iyesibini imimiselo emitsha. Ukuba umhlobo ngokukhawuleza waqala ngokuqhelekileyo ukutyelela i-gym, ngokukhawuleza waba nesithakazelo kumculo weengoma okanye okokuqala ebeka umdlalo wakhe kwi-intanethi kwi-intanethi, nangona kungekho mntu udlala ekhaya, kuthetha ukuba umntu uhamba naye ochaphazela iimfuno zakhe.
Enye indlela, ungayibona njani ukukrexeza kwabasetyhini - izinto ezintsha. Izibhakabhaka ngaphandle kwesizathu esikhethekileyo, izinto ezintsha ezixabisekileyo, nangona ukwanda kwimivuzo kwakungekho intetho, iziqholo ezintsha, iziqhumiso kunye neengubo zangaphantsi-uphawu oluqinisekileyo.
Kwaye kukufanelekile ukuthetha ngeefowuni ezinokukrokra, imiyalezo kunye nokuhlangana rhoqo kunye nexesha elide kunye nabahlobo?
Kukho nawuphi na, utshintsho phakathi kobudlelwane luya kubonakala, kwaye, mhlawumbi, aluvumelekanga. Amaqabane, olu vavanyo lunokuba sisihlandlo sokucinga kunye nokusebenza kobudlelwane bakho okanye isizathu sokuthatha isinyathelo esinqumayo nokukhupha.