Akukho mntu uyakwazi ukuvuyela ngokokuhlwa kwanjengabazali bezingane ezincinci. Emva koko, njengoko bethetha ngelinye ihlaya-abantwana abalalayo abahlekanga kuphela, kodwa ekugqibeleni! Kodwa kukuhlwa komzali ngamnye ukuba umsebenzi obunzima kakhulu ulindele - ukubeka umntwana ukuba alale. Kwaye ngaphambi kokuba "ekugqibeleni" kuza, imirhumo eliwaka iya kufuneka yenziwe. Yiletha amanzi kumanzi, uvale amakhethini, vula ubusuku obumnyama, ungenise ebhodweni, uvule amakhethini, uphinde uphinde uphinde uphuze amanzi kwaye ngokunjalo kwi-ad infinitum. Akumangalisi ukuba emva kweendlela ezinjalo, omama abangamahlwempu kunye nootata abambelele entloko ngombandela wokufundisa umntwana ukuba alale ngokwabo. Akunzima ukwenza oku, kodwa ukuba unomonde, into enokwenzeka.
Indlela yokufundisa umntwana ukuba alele ngokwakhe?
Ukubukela indlela abantwana abangenangqondo abalala ngayo, umntu omdala akanakwenzeka ukuba aqonde izizathu zinyaniso zokungalali. Kwaye baninzi kunzulu ekuqondeni abantwana. Abantwana babona ubuthongo kungekhona njengokuphumla okude kulindelwe, kodwa ngokuyinhloko njengokwahlukana nabathandekayo kunye nokungasebenzi. Kwenzeka njani, vala amehlo akho, vumela konke okuthakazelisayo kwaye uhlale ungenzi lutho ngexesha elithile? Kwintloko encinane yomntwana, izinto ezinjalo zibonakala ziphazamisayo. Oku kuguba kwindawo yokubonakalisa okwenene nemiphumo ekhethekileyo.
Nangona kunjalo, nangona le ngxaki ingakhathaleleki yonke intsapho, inokusombulula ngokulula. Into ephambili kukuba ube nomonde kwaye ufunde ukuzilawula. Kodwa malunga nezinto zonke.
Ingxaki yokuqala ejongene noomama abancinci kukuba umntwana ulele kuphela ebele. Kwaye kukho umbuzo wemibuzo - kwaye kutheni kwinqanaba lokuqala lokuphuhliswa kwengane kunye nokuphuhliswa kwengqondo yakhe yondla kuye into engenayo? Ewe, unako, emva kokusondla, zama ukubeka umntwana kwisibhedlele kwaye ujabule ukukhala kwakhe phakathi kobusuku, xa efumene ukuba umama akakho. Khumbula ukuba akukukhathazeki kuphela xa umntwana elele kufuphi kwaye uziva ufudumele. Kwaye imivumba yakho iyona mgcini wophuhliso oluhambelanayo. Ukugxotha umntwana usuke kuwe, usengozini yokufumana ubundlobongela kunye nobuntu obunomdla. Ngoko ke, ukuba ucinge ngendlela yokufundisa umntwana ukuba alale ngokuzimela, kukulungele ukucinga xa uya kuba neenyanga ezi-7-8.
Ingxaki yesibini kunye neyona nkoliso yehlabathi yonina oomama yixesha apho umntwana elele khona ezandleni zakhe kuphela. Eli nqanaba lifumana phantse zonke iintsapho. Kodwa unako ukusinda ngokukhawuleza. Ngaba kanye - siya kukuxelela kamva.
Ingxaki yesithathu yi-scandals yendabuko rhoqo, ehlanganiswe ngumntwana oneminyaka engama-2-3 ubudala, olala kuphela nonina okanye engafuni ukuhlala kude bonke abemi bendlu balele.
Sombulula zonke iingxaki ezintathu ngokusebenzisa indlela efanayo. Igama lakhe ngu-Estvil.
Indlela yokufundisa umntwana ukuba alele ebhedeni?
Inkqubo ekhethekileyo, eyadalwa iminyaka emininzi edlulileyo, ihlolwe ngabazali abaninzi. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba wenze isigqibo malunga nayo, qiniseka ukuba ngexesha lokuqeqesha umntwana ukuba alele, akukho zikhulukazi abanomfesane esiseduze okanye ezinye izizathu ezinokuphazamisa lo msebenzi.
Ngoko, umntanakho wenza ntoni xa ufuna ukumbeka? Ewe, ubeka ingqalelo yakho yonke indlela. Uzenza sengathi uyagula, uyamemeza, ufunge kwaye angabangela ukuhlanza. Musa ukwesaba. Nangona kukho ukucaphukisa ngaphakathi kwakho, ungabonakali kwaye uhlale uphelile ngaphandle. Buyisela kwakhona umntwana kwaye umbuyisele kwisikhumba. Abanye abazali bashiya abantwana bekhala kwaye bengasayi kubaza-bafanele bakhathele baze balele. Musa ukwenza okunye na! Buyela kwintsana oyifunayo! Kodwa kungekhona ngoko ukuzolalisa, umenze angazilili okanye azibuyise kwakhona ezandleni zakhe aze amkhwelise kwiimeko zobushushu. Uze ngenxa yesinye isizathu - ukubonisa umntwana ukuba awuzange umshiye kwaye umthanda. Ngeliphi ixesha elifanelekileyo kukufanele ukutyelela ii-nursery? Impendulo yalo mbuzo yindlela ye-Estvil, ibalwe ngeveki, apho elowo oluphuma kumntwana lupende ngemitha:
1 ngosuku. Ukubeka umntwana ukuba alale, shiya kwigumbi kwaye okokuqala ukubuyela emva kwimizuzu emibini, okwesibini neyesithathu kwiminithi emi-3, uze uze emva kwemizuzu emi-5 de ukulala komntwana.
Umhla wesi-2 - ubuyele emva kwemizuzu emithathu (1 ixesha), imizuzu emi-5 (amaxesha amabini), imizuzu engu-7 onke amanye amaxesha.
Usuku 3 - 5 imizuzu (1 ixesha), imizuzu engama-7 (2 amaxesha), imizuzu eyi-9 onke amanye amaxesha.
Iintsuku ezi-4 - imizuzu engama-7 (1 ixesha), imizuzu eyi-9 (amaxesha amabini), imizuzu eyi-11 onke amaxesha.
Usuku 5 - 9 imizuzu (1 ixesha), imizuzu eyi-11 (2 amaxesha), imizuzu engama-13 onke amanye amaxesha.
Usuku 6 - 11 imizuzu (1 ixesha), imizuzu engama-13 (2 amaxesha), imizuzu eyi-15 onke amanye amaxesha.
Usuku 7 - 13 imizuzu (1 ixesha), imizuzu eyi-15 (amaxesha amabini), imizuzu eyi-17 onke amanye amaxesha.
Sebenzisa le sikimu nanini na imini.
Umntwana uqala nini ukulala nale ndlela? Njengomthetho, abaninzi abazali bazama le cwangciso, ukufundela umntwana embhedeni kwakunokwenzeka ngomhla we-4-5. Into eyona nto inzima kule ndlela ayiyi kuphula kunye nokugijima kumntwana okhalayo. Kufuneka ufumane umonde omncinci kwaye uqaphele ukuba zonke izenzo zakho zenzelwe kuphela. Ukubuyela kumntwana, musa ukuvula ukukhanya, ungayithathi eengalo zakho kwaye ungazami ukuyixhoma. Masive kuphela ilizwi lakho. Mxelele ukuba ungamlahli, ukuba nawe ulale kwaye zonke izingane zimele zilale. Qiniseka ukuba undixelele ukuba uyamthanda kangakanani umntwana wakho. Ukuba ulawula ukuqokelela intando yakho kwisibindi uze ulandele indlela ngokucacileyo, kwiintsuku ezimbalwa iziphumo ziya kudlulela okulindelekileyo. Kwaye ke ingxaki yokufundisa umntwana ukuba alele ngokuzimela aziyi kuphinda ikuthinte.