Umyalelo kwindlu okanye ukungabikho kwayo kuchaphazela kakhulu isimo sengqondo kuwo wonke amalungu omndeni kunye nomoya ngaphakathi. Umkhwa womnye wentsapho ukuphosa izinto zawo, ukubeka iingxakini malunga nokugcina ucoceko kwabanye abantu, kunokuba sisiseko sokuxabana nokunganeliseki. Kuye kwagqithiswa ixesha elide ukuba uninzi lwabahlaseli bomzali luhambelana ngqo nenyaniso yokuba umntwana akafuni ukususa izinto zokudlala okanye izinto zakhe, azihlakaze, njl njl. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abazali abayazi indlela yokwenza into enjalo, ukuthukisa kunye neentloni zabantwana, ukwesabisa, ukusongela izijeziso, kodwa umphumo wezenzo ezinjalo zifutshane kakhulu-unokufumana umntwana ukuba aphume egumbini, kodwa akufanele uhlale unethemba lokugcina umyalelo osisigxina. Emva kwakho konke, abantwana (njengabantwana abaselula) abayidingi umyalelo, abaqapheli umyalezo.
Makhe sicinge ngeendlela ezifanelekileyo zokufundisa umntwana ukuba alungise:
- Okokuqala, musa ukulibala ngomzekelo wakho. Akukho migaqo iya kwenza abantwana babe ngabahle xa bebona izihlobo ezingalunganga rhoqo imihla. Abazali akufanele bacinge ngendlela yokufumana umntwana ukuba ahlambulule amathoyizi, kodwa malunga nendlela yokuyifundisa ukuba ilungile, ukulungisa umgangatho obalulekileyo kunye nesidingo.
- Nceda abantwana kwaye ubafundise. Oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka wenze konke ngokwakho, vele ujoyine inkqubo. Unokwabelana ngemisebenzi: umzekelo, usula uthuli kwiithala eziphezulu, apho abantwana abangafikeli khona, ngelixa bebeka amathoyizi abo, iincwadi kunye nezinto zabo zomntu kwiindawo zabo.
- Chaza kubantwana ukuba kutheni kubalulekile ukuhlambulula. Batshele ngeengozi zothuli, indlela yokugcina izinto ngokufanelekileyo, uchaza ukuba ii-toys ezihlakazekile zingahle zilahleke okanye ziphulwe xa umntu ephosakele ngenyameko kubo. Abantwana bafanele baqonde ukuba ukucocwa akusiyo into okanye isijeziso, kodwa kuyimfuneko.
- Enye yezona ndlela zibaluleke kakhulu, indlela yokufundela umntwana ukuchaneka, kukudala iimeko zokulungisa lula. Oku kuthetha ukuba ekamelweni labantwana kungcono ukusebenzisa ifenitshala kunye nezinto ezingenakudinga ukunakekelwa okunzima.
- Nceda abantwana bafumane indawo yezinto. Kanye nomntwana sinqume ukuba yintoni na apho kufanele ukulala khona, khetha amashalofu kwiikhabhinethi kwintlobo nganye yezinto, qalisa ibhokisi yeetayipi, iilinen, njl njl.
- Musa ukucoca isijeziso. Ukunyanzeliswa, ukuhlambalaza kunye nobudlova kunokubangela ukuba kuqhankqalazo kunye nokunyaniseka.
Ukuyeka ukugqibelela nokucinga rhoqo malunga nendlela yokufundisa umntwana ukuba ahlambulule amathoyizi. Musa ukuguqula ukuphazamiseka kwintlekele. Khumbula ukuba ngamanye amaxesha, nayiphi na umntwana, nakwiintsapho ezilungelelanisiweyo kunye nabantwana abachanekileyo, uhlala engcolileyo, kwaye akusona isizathu sokuxabana okanye izigwenxa.