Akunabo bonke ubuhle abanokuziqhayisa ngolwalamano oluhle kunye nomtshato omangalisayo, kuba oku kufuna into engaphezulu kwedatha engokwemvelo. Yintoni eyona nto ifunekayo ukunqoba intliziyo yendoda? Makhe sibone.
Iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokuphumelela uthando lomntu
Xa sicinga ngendlela yokuphumelela uthando lomntu, sifuna ukufumana indlela evumela ukuba nayiphi na ilungu lezesondo ezinamandla ukukhokelela ezinyaweni zethu ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa, ngelishwa, akukho iresiphi yendalo yonke, kwimeko nganye ethile kuya kufuneka ukuba ufune indlela yakho yokukhohlisa . Enyanisweni, ezinye iimfihlelo zabasetyhini, indlela yokuphumelela intliziyo yomntu, sebenze phantse njalo, kodwa akubona bonke abayaziyo ngokufanelekileyo ukusebenzisa.
- Ngokomzekelo, ngamnye umfazi uyazi ukuba enye yeendlela eziqinisekileyo zokuphumelela ngokukhawuleza umntu, ukumnqoba ngokubonakala kwakhe. Kunene, kodwa amanye amantombazana akholelwa ukuba iziqhumiso ezingcono, zibhetele. Kodwa akukho mntu wayethanda ukungaqhelekanga ngokwaneleyo ukulahlekelwa yintloko. Abanye abameli bezesondo ezifanelekileyo bayazi umlinganiselo, kodwa bayakhohlwa ukugcina "umxholo". Indoda ingaboni ukuba utshintsho lwekhwele, ukuba lufana nomfanekiso, kodwa ukutshintshwa kwesayizi se-4 yesifuba nesibini esilungileyo ngenxa yokungaphumeleli, ngokuqinisekileyo akayi kwamkela ngokuzonwabisa. Ngoko ke, ukuba uzakhele umfanekiso, zibeke kuyo yonke ixesha ngelixa uhamba nomntu amthandayo. Enye into kukuba, ukuba ubuhle obuhle akulula, ukuba kufuneka ubole imali yokuthenga enye into, ngoko ke akufanele uqale? Ekugqibeleni, kubalulekile ukuba abafazi bajonge kakuhle, kwaye akuyiyo imbonakalo yokuhamba kweempahla ezidumileyo.
- I-Psychology inikezela impendulo kumbuzo wendlela yokuphumelela umntu, kufuneka uvumele ukuba azive ebaluleke kakhulu, umzekelo, unokumcela ukuba ancede (cacisa) kwimeko apho aqondayo. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha amantombazana anqumla le ndlela, aphenduke kwiintsipho ezingenakunceda. Ukucatshukiswa okunjalo kunokwenzeka, kunokuzonwabisa. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akukho namnye kuthi uphelele, kwaye awukwazi ukuqonda umbuzo othile, kodwa kufuneka ube nobuncinane kwinto ethile. Ngaphandle koko, ukukhangwa ngumbonakalo omhle, umntu uyadumala ngokukhawuleza - ama-dummies awanamdla, kwaye abafazi ngokwabo abakhawulezi ukukhetha indoda enezinga eliphantsi lobunzima ebomini babo.
- Akwanele ukunqoba umntu, kufuneka ukwazi, kwaye ungamgcina njani, abaninzi abafazi bayaqiniseka ukuba bayazi kakuhle oko ifuna iqabane elilifunayo. Abasivila ukupheka ukutya okudliwayo, isidlo kunye nezidlo zabo abathembekileyo, becela amaxesha angama-10 ngosuku, nokuba bayadla. Inkathalo iboniswa ngomnqweno wokugqoka umthande wabo, kwaye ngokufuthi uyambiza, ukulawula yonke inyathelo. Abanye abantu bacinga ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngolu hlobo, kodwa ukuba ukhangelele imeko ukusuka kwindawo yokujonga ngayo i- psychology yobudlelwane , kuyacaca ukuba ngale ndlela awuyi kuphumelela umntu, ngenxa yokunyaniseka kwakho kugxininisa kuphela ukungabi nkululeko kwaye unciphise inkululeko yakhe. Kwaye akukho mntu uya kukunyamezela ukuba wayebhekwa njengento engenamsebenzi, kwaye, ngaphezu koko, udibene kwindawo yakhe yokuhlala ngokukhawuleza. Ngako oko, ukhathaleleka kukumodareyitha, ungayiguquli ekugcinweni, emva kwakho konke, indoda yakho ikhulile ikhulile kwaye iyakuthathela oko kukutya kunye nokokugqoka.
- Ukulala kwintliziyo yomntu akudingeki ukuba ube nguprofesa wezeMathematika, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba ufumane ubulumko bowesifazane. Kufuneka uqonde ngokucacileyo ukuba xa uthetha (kunye nawaphi umzuzu ukuphulaphula kuphela), indlela yokuziphatha nommeli othile wesini esomeleleyo. Ngokomzekelo, umfana okhululekileyo emva kwexesha elithile lomhlobo, mhlawumbi, uya kukhubeka xa ungamvumeli ebomini bakho. Kodwa ukuba ucinga ukuba ungayinqoba njani intliziyo yomntu otshatileyo, ngoko ke, iingxaki zakho ziyinto engenamsebenzi, eyakho yanele. Kwaye ke,
malunga nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kunye nokumncumo, naye, akufuneki ukulibala - ubuso obukhanyayo bangela nayiphi na ibhinqa enhle ngakumbi.
Yaye isiluleko esiphezulu kubo bonke abafuna ukwazi ukuphumeza indoda, enoba betshatile, baqhawule okanye abazange bafumane iminqweno yomtshato, akufanele bathathe igama elithi "ukunqoba" ngokoqobo. Akuyimfuneko ukwenza izenzo ezithathwa njengexesha elidlulileyo lamadoda (ukufumana iNyanga ukusuka esibhakabhakeni, ukuyizalisa ngezipho, ukuguqula abachasi), ungazicima uhla lokugqibela lobuntombi, ehlabathini lethu lobufazi kukho inkohlakalo enkulu. Kulungile ube nguwe, ukukhuseleka okuncinci, okumnandi kunye nobumnene, bonisa ukuba kufuneka ufikelele kwaye uphumelele-ngaphambi kokuba ithuba lokuncintisana nomvuzo oyintloko awuyi kumela mntu.