Ukuba ukhangele ukuthandwa novelwano lwabahlobo bakho nabalingane nabo-qiniseka ukuba uya kuphumelela! Nangona kubonakala ngathi ulahle, ubuhle, ubuhlakani okanye ukuphumla, into ebaluleke kakhulu kukukholelwa kuwe. Naliphi na intombazana inokuba yikhungo sokukhanga xa elandela imithetho elula.
Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba uthethe ngendlela yokuthandwa ngabantu bakho nabahlobo bakho esikolweni, jonga-oko akufanele ukwenze nangayiphi na imeko:
- ukunyamekela abo babalingana nabo;
- Ukuhlaziswa, ukufanelwa ngumhlobo womntu;
- xelisa imilinganiselo yamantombazana athandwayo, ukukopisha indlela abaziphatha ngayo;
- ukudibana kunye nabafana nje ukuba bathatyatheke kwaye banokwakuqwalaselwa.
Ukuba abahlobo bakho bebona ukuba uhamba nabo kunye nofezekisa iminqweno yabo emncinci, banokuthetha nabo, kodwa abayi kuba ngabahlobo bokwenene. Ukuba uqala ukunikela isigwebo sakho kunye nekratshi, awuyi kufumana ukuthandwa okwenene esikolweni okanye kwinkampani, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uzama kangakanani.
Yaye njani ukuba yintombazana ethandwa kakhulu?
Ukuqala - ukujonga ukubonakala kwakho nendlela yokuziphatha. Ukuba intombazana ibonakala ilungileyo, uyaziqinisekisa. Zithengele izinto ezixabisekileyo kunye ezihle kunye neziqhumiso - akunjalo. Izambatho ezibiza nge-insanely zihlala zibuhlungu ngenxa yokunyameka kwendlela okanye i-curly curve, kwaye akukho mveliso eyenza ukufihla iinwele ezingcolileyo kunye nokubukeka kwintliziyo. Ngoko ke, ukuthenga ingubo elandelayo, kuyimfuneko ukhethe oko uya khona. Oku kufuneka kukuhlukanise kwisihlwele, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo kufuneka ukhangele ngokwemvelo. Emva kwakho konke, abahlobo bakho abayithandi abo baboniswe. Ewe, kwaye ukuthula kunye neebhore, nayo, ayihlonwanga ngokukhethekileyo. Yaye uyasetyenziswa njani ukuziphatha? Mhlawumbi uchithe ixesha elilodwa, ungayinaki abafundi? Okanye udibanisa kwaye ubahlasele ngonya? Okanye ukhathazeka ngokukhawuleza kunye nokuhleka?
Khumbula ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba uyathandwa kowesikolo kunye kunye nabahlobo, intombazana engaboni ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa ethanda ukuthanda. Kwaye oku kuyimfuneko ukunxibelelana ngokuchanekileyo, ukubonisa umdla kunye nobutyebi, ukuba ube nesimo sesithunzi. Enyanisweni, kukho abantu abaklasini abangenakhathazeka ngenxa yokuziphatha okubi okanye ukunyaniseka, kwaye abafuni ukuba ngabahlobo nabo. Kwaye musa! Kungcono ukufumana abo basondele ngeembono zabo kunye nomlingiswa. Bayakwazi ukufunda kwisikolo esifanayo, kwaye banokuthi bathathe inxaxheba kwiklabhu yezokhenketho okanye kwi-studio yecaterari, babe ngamaqonga amaqonga ekuzaliseni izinja okanye abaqhubi beentshukumo zolutsha. Musa ukubheka indlela yokuba uthandeke kwisibingelelo esisodwa, ekubeni esikolweni ungabonakalisa kuyo nayiphi na icala - nakuzo zifundo, nakwimpilo yoluntu, kunye nokudala.
Indlela yokuba ithandwa phakathi kwala madoda?
Njengawo wonke umntu, abafana banjengamantombazana avuya kunye nentlalontle. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba uyadinga lonke ixesha lokukhulula ukuthetha nabo ngaphandle kwekhefu.
Umntu onentlalontle akazithethi yena ngokwakhe, naye uphulaphula ngokunyameko. Yiba nomdla kwindlela abafana benza ngayo izinto, baxoxe ngezihloko ezisondele kubo. Kungenokwenzeka ukuba, uyayazi encinci ngebhola, i-carburettors kunye neithuthuthu, kodwa akuyimfuneko. Emva kwakho konke, ungazicela ukuba baxelele ngokubanzi iinkcukacha. Okanye funda enye okanye amabini amanqaku kwi-intanethi uze uxhase incoko ngokubuza imibuzo. Wonke umntu uyavuya xa abanomdla kuye okanye umdlalo wakhe.
Yindlela enokuyenza ngayo ngokukhawuleza phakathi kwamadoda - baphulaphule, bavumele ukuba bathethe ngokwabo. Ngaloo ndlela akudingekile ukuba unganqikaza okanye, ngokuchasene noko, kufuneka ubekwe kwaye uziphathe ngokungcolileyo. Ngoko awuzukufumana ukuthandwa, kodwa udumo lwenkwenkwezi enomdla kakhulu esikolweni, odibana nayo yonke into engakhethiyo kwaye ecinga kuphela yena, othandekayo, kunye nabafana.
Yimvelo kwaye ikhululeke. Zama ukuqiniseka ukuba uthathwa njengentombazana enomdla, enomdla ukuchitha ixesha. Qonda - yintoni enhle kuwe, yintoni embi, into encedo kunye noko kungenjalo. Ungazami ukufana nomntu, yiba yinto enye intombazana eya kufuna ukuyixelisa!