Ukuthetha kunye nokusebenzisana, abantu "bafundisisa". Sithetha ukuba siyazi umntu onjengeminwe yethu emihlanu, oko kuthetha ukuba lo mntu usifundele. Ukubikezela kusenza sibe sengozini, kwaye ukungaqiniseki kusinika amandla. Kubaluleke ngokukodwa ukungaqiniseki kwesithethi. Unako ukutshabalalisa, ukuhlawula, ukubangela ukunyaniseka kunye nezihlwele, ukuba unokukwenza into engalindelekanga kuye.
Ukukwazi ukungaqiniseki, ngendlela, kwindlela yokuchaphazeleka kwengqondo kumntu. Nangona kunjalo, ngoku siza kujongana neendlela zokuxhaphaza ngokucacileyo, ngokuqinisekileyo, ngaphandle kokulibala ukuba wongeze ngamnye kubo "ingcambu" yokungaqiniseki.
Iintlobo zempembelelo kubantu
Okokuqala, makhe sikhulume ngeendlela zokwenza ingqondo yengqondo kumntu, esingazibandakanya ngokuzibandakanya, singazi kakuhle, sisebenzise konke kwaye kaninzi.
- Isicelo singaphezu kokuxhaphazwa, ngakumbi xa ujongene nomntu ongenamandla. Ukuze ucele, ngoko ke, ukunyamezela ukuzaliseka komnqweno wakho. Kwiimfuno esizibizayo ukuze sikwanelise iimfuno zethu, iimfuno.
- Ukuphikisa - sebenzisa xa uqinisekile ukuba umnxibelelwano wakho akwazi ukuba nokwakha iingxabano ezinengqondo ekuhambeni. Isifanisi sokuchasana siyi-conviction. Injongo yaloo ndlela yempembelelo yengqondo kumntu kukudala okanye utshintshe uluvo okanye umbono we-addressee of persuasion ngendlela ekhokelwa nguye kwimisebenzi yakhe.
- Ukungayithobeli - le nkqubo ingasetyenziselwa ukuxhaphaza, kunye nokuzikhusela kwakho ekuchaseni i-psyche yakho. Ukungaziboni kuthetha ukunyanzelisa ngokuzithandela, ukungayithobeli ingqalelo.
- Ukupapasha okanye ukuzithuthukisa - yiloo nto sonke esiyisebenzayo. Ngale ndlela yempembelelo yengqondo kubantu, senza uluvo lwethu ezintloko zabo ngezandla zabo,
ukuzibandakanya nabantu abaphezulu, ukubonisa amandla, ubuchule, izakhono. - Iingcebiso zisebenza ngokuzwakalisa izandi. Le ndlela inesifo sengqondo, i-scammers, i-hypnologists. Ngokuncediswa ngcebiso, kukho umphumo kwi-psyche, apho ukucinga okugqithisileyo kuphele khona. Iingcweti zengcebiso zibanqabileyo bezitalato, abangenawo ixesha lokuthetha amagama ambalwa, njengoko sele ufumene ngaphandle kwamakhondlo, ilindi kunye nekhredithi.
Indlela yokukhetha indlela yokuphatha?
Iingcali kwiindlela zengqondo zokubhenela abantu ziyazi indlela yokujonga iingxaki zethu. Amava obomi, imfundo, ukukhuliswa, ukuzalwa-konke oku kufundwe kakuhle ngumbono wengcali.
Oku akufanele kukhunjulwe nje kuphela ukufumana amandla phezu kwengqondo yabanye abantu (njengabantu abathintelayo), kodwa kunye nokuzikhusela ekuhlaselweni kweengqondo ezingenanto entloko yakho.