Umdlalo womnqweno, enye yezinto ezithandayo zentsha. Kule minyaka, ayiyikulahlekelwa yimpumelelo yayo kwaye nogogo bethu banokuqhayisa ukuba emva kokuba benze ezinye iziganeko zabo zabahlobo. Kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, umbuzo wemiba enokuthi yenziwe ngumntu, naye, akalahlekanga ukufaneleka kwawo. Kwaye amaninzi amantombazana, avumelana nalo mdlalo, aqala ukuphazamisa malunga nokuba ngubani ozoyixubusha umhlobo wabo. Masizame kwaye siza kucamngca kwesi sihloko kwaye sicinge ukuba yintoni yokwenza umntu acinge, kuxhomekeke kwizicwangciso zethu zomntu.
Umfana wayephikisana nomnqweno - into yokucinga?
Okokuqala, ekubeni intombazana ngokubanzi ivumelene nokudlala umdla, kuthetha ukuba unelindeleke kulindeleke kulona mfana. Olu hlobo lunebhinqa - asiyi kuthetha nabangenalo umdla kithi. Ngoko, isizathu esithile sokwenza isifiso kumntu kufuneka sibe luncedo kuthi. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umnqweno unokuba sisizathu esihle sokuphindezela umntu ongakuthandi kakhulu. Ukubeka nje, kukho ezininzi iinketho kunye neemeko. Ngoko ke, uluhlu lweminqweno ethile yomntu kufuneka lwenziwe kuxhomekeke kwisimo sengqondo sakho kuye nangenjongo yakho. Masizame ukuziqonda.
1. Ukuba umfana oyithandayo, kwaye awuyi kucinga ukuqhubeka nokuthetha ngokusondeleyo kunye naye, ukhetho lweminqweno luya kuba lulandelayo:
- Mcele ukuba akubhalele ileta egameni lakhe ngephepha elipheleleyo le-A4. Oku kuya kukuxelela ukuba unalo nethuba lolwalamano nalo mfana kunye nendlela ekuphatha ngayo. Nangona ulwalamano lwakho aluqhubeki phambili, uya kuba nommori omhle walo mzuzwana;
- Makukumemele ngosuku. Mhlawumbi kuya kuba yinyathelo elungileyo ukuba ube sisondele;
- mcele ukuba awanga. Olu khetho lukwabo abangenakuze balinganiseki;
- ucele isipho esisezantsi kwentliziyo. Kwakhona indlela efanelekileyo yokujonga indlela ekuphatha ngayo.
2. Yintoni onokuyicinga ngomfana onomhlobo osondeleyo kuwe?
- Ungasindisa umnqweno uze ungadingi uncedo lomntu (umzekelo, thabatha ukuba usuphelile okanye uncedise kwiimeko ezinzima);
- Ukuba uthanda umntu ovela kumhlobo wakho, nqwenela umhlobo ophikisanayo ukuthetha nalo mhlobo ngeendleko zakho, okanye ukumema ukuba ahambe nawe;
- ukuba awunaso isiqingatha sesibini, cela umntu ophikisana nomntu ukuba akuxelele;
- Unokuza nomnqweno wobuhle obuvela kwinqanaba elifudumele kunye nobungane. Umzekelo, ukunyanzelisa ukuba udle i-lemon ngaphandle kweshukela, ukuvuma uthando kumfazi osekudala, ukucula phakathi kwesikwere ingoma ethile yepop okanye ukuya kwisitolo kwiphini elingaphantsi;
- Enye inketho echaphazelekayo ngabahlobo ngumnqweno wokuthi umntu ophikisana nento into emangalisayo. Ngamanye amaxesha oku kusebenza kakuhle, kunikezelwa ukuba umhlobo uyazi kakuhle.
3. Yintoni umnqweno wokwenza umntu othanda intombi yakho? Kule meko, iingcamango kufuneka zihambe kuphela kwelinye icala. Umzekelo:
- uyavuma ukuphuma nale ntombi;
- Ukuba umhlobo uhleli kufuphi okanye kulindeleke loo mzuzwana, lo mfana kwimpikiswano kufanele amanga, okanye achithe ixesha kunye naye. Mhlawumbi, into evela kule nto iza kuvela.
4. Kukho amaxesha apho umntu ongaqhelekanga ongenandaba nawe ulahlekelwa ukubheja, okanye awukwazi kakuhle. Uhlobo luni lomnqweno onokucinga ngalo mfana?
- mcele ukuba abhale okanye athethe ngaye ngokwakhe;
- awukwazi ukukhathazeka kwaye nje ukwenza ukuba ube yinto emangalisayo. Ekugqibeleni, awulahlekelwa nantoni na;
- enye inketho enkulu - umnqweno wokuhlekisa.
Njengokwesikhala ebhaleni, ukuhlamba emthonjeni wendawo, ukuhamba esitalato kwisambatho somfazi, njl njl.
Ukucinga malunga naluphi uhlobo lomnqweno wokwenza umfana, zama ukuqala kwiminqweno yakho. Mhlawumbi unomngcipheko wemfihlo, oye wafihla ixesha elide kulo mntu. Kule meko, umnqweno wakho phantse ithuba elilodwa lokuphucula imeko. Yaye khumbula, into enokucinga ngayo akufanele ihlazise umntu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uyayiphatha njani, imidlalo leyo, kunye nayiphi na ingxabano idla ngohlobo lomdlalo kwaye ayikho into ekhethekileyo. Ukuba umnqweno wakho awuyiyo inzame yokusondela kumfana oselula, ukuguqulela kwiqela leentlanzi zangaphambili. Yaye ke ukucinga kwakho kukuncede!