Ubutsha buyinto yokuguquka ebomini bomntu. Ngeli thuba, ukubunjwa kobuntu kwenzeka, ulwalamano kunye nokwehlabathi luyekezela, imigaqo yokuphila eyisiseko kunye neentlobo zengqungquthela zenziwa. Ukungazithobeli ukuzithemba kwabantwana abaselula banokubangela ukunganeliseki, ukungabi nantlonelo, ukuzama ukufumana ingqalelo kunye nothando ngokugqithiseleyo, ngezinye iindlela iindlela eziyingozi. Kule nqaku siza kuthetha ngeempawu zokwakha ukuzithemba kwabantwana abaselula, indlela yokuyilungisa ngayo, ngokukodwa indlela yokuphakamisa intlonipho yintombazana.
Ukulungiswa kokuzithemba kwabaselula
Ukuba umntwana wakho ovuyokileyo kunye novuyo wayevale ngaphakathi kuye, okanye intombi eyayisoloko ikhuthele kwaye ixhamle, ngokukhawuleza yaqala ukukhusela iinkampani, yaxotha kwaye ibuhlungu, mhlawumbi yinto yonke yokunyaniseka kwentsha. Ukuzithemba okuphantsi kunokuphinda kubonakaliswe ngenye indlela: ukugqithisa ngokugqithiseleyo, ukunyaniseka, ukuzithemba, ukuguqulwa kwendlela yokugqoka nokuziphatha, njl njl. Kukho nawuphi na, ukuzithemba okuphantsi kuyisithintelo ekuzaleni ngokupheleleyo umntu. Iintsholongwane ezinokuzithemba okuphantsi kakhulu zichaphazeleka kalula ngempembelelo embi, oko kuthetha ukuba basengozini. Umsebenzi wabazali kukunceda umntwana abhekane neengxaki zengqondo aze aphile ubomi obonwabileyo.
Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuba ufuna ukukunceda njani umntwana wakho, ungadluli. Ukugqithisa ngokweqile, inzondelelo enkulu kunye nodumo oluyishukela aluyi kunceda, kodwa ngokuchaseneyo, luyingozi kakhulu. Iintsholongwane zivakalelwa kakhulu, ngoko ke akufuneki ukuba zihambe kakhulu. Kubaluleke ngakumbi ukunyamekela iindlela zakho zokugxekwa. Zama ukuqinisekisa ukuba izitatimenti ezimbi azibhekiseli kubuntu bentsha, kodwa ekuziphatheni kwakhe, izenzo okanye iimpazamo, oko kukuthi, into echanekileyo. Ungatsho ukuthi "andiyivuyo nawe", bhetele bhetele: "Andiyivuyo ngezenzo zakho." Awukwazi ukucacisa ubuntu bomntu uze ulithumele "kukubi" okanye "kukuhle", kuxhomekeke kwizenzo zakhe nokuziphatha kwakhe.
Ukwandisa ukuzithemba kwabantwana abaselula abakwenzekiyo ngaphandle kokuhlonela. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, qhagamshelana nomntwana, unomdla kwimbono yakhe kwaye uhlale uqwalasela. Musa ukuyihoxisa ingcebiso yomntwana oselula, baphulaphule. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukwenza oku kwimiba echaphazela umntwana ngokwakhe. Ndikholelwe, ukungalindelekanga kweengcebiso zakhe kwaye unomdla okwenzakalisa kakhulu kwaye umcaphukisa umntwana wakho. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukugcina "imida yobumfihlo". Yishiye loo ntsimi "intsimi yomntu", kwaye ingengona nje kuphela, kodwa ngokomoya. Awukwazi ukulawula ngokungqongqo ubomi bakho nabantwana bakho-abahlobo, izinto zokuzilibazisa, ukunyuka kunye nezinto zokuzonwabisa, isitayela sakho kunye neminqweno yomculo, ukufotowa, ukudweba, njl. umntwana unelungelo (kwaye kufuneka) akhethe ngokwakhe.
Ngoko, siye sachonga iimeko ezintathu zokubaluleka kokuzihlola ngokwaneleyo:
- Ukugxeka okwakhiwa kunye nodumo olufanelekileyo.
- Ukuhlonipha nokuqwalasela.
- Indawo yomntu.
Iingcebiso ezifanelekileyo zabazali
- thandani umntwana kungekhona ngokuziphatha, ukuvavanya okanye ukuphumelela ekudaleni okanye kwimidlalo, kodwa oko kukuthi;
- Nika umntwana ukuba aqonde ukuba ukholwa kuye kwaye ulungele ukuqonda nokumxhasa kunoma yintoni na imeko;
- banomdla kubantwana bakho. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kufuneka uyenze oku kusuka ekuzalweni kwana, kwaye kungekhona xa efika ebusheni. Utshintsho oluthile ekuphatheni kwabazali - ukungahloneli ngokupheleleyo ukunyuka kwenyameko kuya kubangela ukuba umntwana athukuthele ngaphezu kovuyo;
- Chaza imigaqo yerejista kunye namalungelo omntwana kwaye uwagcine kakuhle;
- fumana iimfuno eziqhelekileyo kwaye uzame ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nentombazana, kodwa musa ukuyinyanzela, kodwa yenza oko ukuze kukuhle kumntwana nomntwana;
- Ukuthembela yinto ebalulekileyo ebusini phakathi kwentsapho. Umntwana kufuneka azi ukuba nangayiphi na ingxaki kunye nexhala anokuza kuwe. Umntwana osemncinci akufanele akwesabe ukuphendula kwakho kunye nokuhlambalaza. Kuphela ke uya kuba ngowokuqala ukwazi ngeengxaki zakhe kwaye unokukwazi ukunceda ngexesha.
Ukuba ubona ukuba ingxaki isondele kakhulu, kwaye ucinga ukuba awuyi kukwazi ukujamelana nawe ngokwakho, kuthetha nomntwana kwaye uqhagamshelane nengcali yeengqondo - kunye uya kukwazi ukusombulula nayiphi na ubunzima.