I-syndrome yexhoba isoloko iqukumbela ebuntwaneni kwaye ayifumanekanga ngumntu ngokwakhe. Ngokukhawuleza uyaziyeka ekubeni unenhlanhla nonke: ukugxothwa emsebenzini, ukukhanjiswa ngabahlobo, ukushiywa ngabantu abathandekayo. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukujamelana nenyaniso: emva kokuvuma ukuba unesifo sexhoba, unokukunqoba.
I-Psychology: isifo sesifo
Abantu abanjalo banokuba ngabafazi kunye namadoda. Ekubonweni kokuqala, bahle kakhulu, abantu banomdla, kodwa ebomini abanalo inhlanhla: oogxa balahla yonke umsebenzi kubo, abahlobo benza nje oko bacela "iintsikelelo", abaphathi abawuthandi umsebenzi onzima. Ngelo xesha, abantu abanjalo abaqhaqhaqho, zama ukungahlali phantsi kwesihlwele, bathetha ngokuthula, bavumelane ngokulula kwimibambano, bethintelo, kwaye nokuba ngaba ingxabano ayenzekanga ngaphandle kwabo, bayakukhetha ukuxolisa.
Abantu banomuva ukuhluleka ukuzimela, baze baqale ukuyisebenzisa. Kukho isifo sexhoba ubudlelwane kunye noogxa, kunye "nabahlobo" kunye nomntu othandekayo.
Izizathu, njengomthetho, zihlala ebuntwaneni: "bengabantwana abangatshatanga" abangazange banakekelwe ngabazali, abahlala beyindoda yesibini emva komzalwana okanye udade abasebenzisa ukufumana inzuzo engaphantsi kunomntu. Bambonile ebuntwaneni njengengqondo kubo ngokwabo njengomntu onesibini, ngenxa yokuba banesigwebo: "Ndiyindoda yesibini, andifanelekanga." Naluphi na inkolelo, ubomi buya kuhlala kukunika ubungqina, kwimeko apho umntu engazi ngokungafuni ukuba nomntu onobubele novelwano kwaye uphenduke abo bakulungele ukuyisebenzisa.
Indlela yokulahla isifo sexhoba?
Ukuze unqobe i-syndrome yexhoba, udinga uncedo lomgqirha. Kodwa ukuba ugula kakhulu kule meko yemicimbi, hlawulela intando ibe yintonga uze uzame ukwenza ngokwakho:
- Ukuqwalasela impumelelo yakho, ubhale phantsi kwincwadi.
- Ukuqwalasela iimpawu zakho ezilungileyo, ubhale phantsi.
- Nsuku zonke uthi kuwe: "Ndingumntu obalaseleyo, ofanelekileyo konke okulungileyo, kwaye uluvo lwam lufanele luqwalaselwe."
- Musa ukwenza nantoni na ongayifuniyo-kodwa uncedo, ungathandi.
- Ukunciphisa iingcamango ezingalunganga ngawe, qaphela oko kukulungileyo kuwe.
Lawula ukucinga kwakho iintsuku ezili-15-20, kwaye iya kuba ngumkhwa. Kancinci, uya kutshintsha uhlobo lokuziphatha, kwaye awuyi kuphinda ube yixhoba. Le ngcaciso ayanele ngokwaneleyo ukufunda, kufuneka iqhutywe rhoqo. Ukuba awukwazi ukujongana nawe. Idilesi kwengqondo.