Imigangatho ejikeleze umntu ukususela ekuzalweni kuya ekufeni, inokuchaphazela ubudlelwane bobuhlobo, ubuhlobo, umsebenzi. Ukulandela imigaqo ethile, njengobonakaliso bendawo engavumelekanga, yenza lula ukhetho olunzima oluvela phambi komntu. Imithetho iya kuthotyelwa, imigaqo ephula abantu abajamelana nokukholelwa-oku kubonakaliswa kokuhambisana.
Yintoni ehambelanayo?
Ukulungelelaniswa kukukhutshwa kwabantu ngabanye kwiindawo zonke emhlabeni. Ukuvunyelwa kweqela labantu kuphakamileyo kunombono womntu omnye. Ngokuvisisana, kukho izilumkiso ezininzi, ezibizwa ngokuba "izono" ezenza umntu amxwayise ngengozi yokuba ngokwawo. Izintandokazi, ukuba zivela kwiqela, zinobuhlobo obuqhelekileyo-inzuzo efikeleleke kubo bonke.
Ukubambisana kwiNgqondo
Ukubambisana kwengqondo kuyinto eyaziwayo njengengqiqo yobunye bentlalo. Ubume bendawo lubeka umxholo oqhelekileyo kwaye lufake iifowuni ezisisiseko. I-Psychology, iphakamisa ukucinga ngokuvumelana, njengesifo sezizukulwana. Amasiko axhasa imindeni, amaziko emfundo noluntu akubonakali nje ukubonakalisa ukuxhomekeka kwimiqathango yokuziphatha emiselweyo.
Ukubambisana kwiNkcubeko
Ukuhambelana nokuzibandakanya kwentlalo yindlela yokuxhomekeke kwimibono yabanye. Ukunyanzeliswa kwezinto ezixabisekileyo umntu aziqondayo kwaye uyazi ukuba ukuvunyelwa nguwonkewonke. Impembelelo ye-conformism ibonakala ngokukodwa kwiindawo zonqulo, apho abantwana abazalelwe bayamkela ukholo ngaphandle kokuqaphela indlela ebalulekileyo ngayo. Ukuhambelana nokuzibandakanya ezentlalo akukwazi ukuhlaziywa okanye ukuqiqa.
Ukubambisana kwifilosofi
Kwiimfundiso zefilosofi, intsimi yokuthobela ichazwe njengengenangqiqo. Ukungabikho kokholo kwiintsholongwane zakho nokudlala kuluntu, xa umntu ehlawula uluvo lomnye umntu (ngaphandle kokuqonda kakuhle intsingiselo yalo) yinto yokulungelelanisa. Into eyenziwa ngokuvumelana nayo inokuthi imigaqo ebekwe phantsi ayifumana impendulo efanelekileyo kwingqondo yomntu, oko kukuthi, umntu, oxhobileyo, uhlala engenalutho.
Ukuvumelana kunye nokungahambisani
Kweli hlabathi lanamhlanje, apho ukulingana okutshatyalazayo okuqhubekayo kukuphela kwendlela yokulawula i-chaos, ukufanisana kuboniswa ngokungafaniyo kumgangatho. Ukungqiniswanga yinto ebalulekileyo kwintsimi yeemigaqo, ezichasene nemigaqo yokuziphatha kunye nemimiselo eyamkelekileyo. Ukwaneliseka, apho kungekho kuxhotyiswa kwiimbono ezibekwe kuzalwa ngoku. Umntu oye waqonda ukuba "mna" akayidingi imvume yoluntu. Ukungqiniswanga yinto ephawulekayo, into echaseneyo yokuvumelanisa kunye nethuba lokukhula ngokomoya.
Izizathu zokuvumelana
Izidingo zomntu ngamnye, ezixhaswe ngumphakathi, iimfuno zayo ezifakwe phantsi, zinyanzelwanga, njengento engabonakaliyo kwaye yenziwe. Ukubambisana kunye nezimbangela zayo ziyakwazi ukufundisisa ngokucophelela. Ukukhululwa komntu omnye kwisinye esisodwa kukufumanisa ukuthungulula okukhokelela kwimpumelelo emitsha. Iyintoni imbangela yokuvumelana nentlalo phakathi kwabantu beentlanga ezahlukeneyo, iinkolo kunye nobudala? Ukuvela kwemilinganiselo yokuziphatha eqhubekayo kunye nemigaqo ecacileyo ilandelwa:
- ukugqithisa ukulinganisela kwamakhono akhe;
- ukwesaba uxanduva;
- Ingxaki eyinkimbinkimbi esingaziwayo;
- ukuxhomekeka kwamalungu eqela omnye komnye;
- ukuhambelana kweqela (inani elincinci labantu bahlanu);
- ukubonakaliswa koluntu kokuphakama kweqela.
Ukusebenzisana kwamalungu eqela kubalulekile, ukhetho, ukukhanyela, uvelwano okanye ukungathembeki okuvela kumntu okanye into ebonisa indlela yokuziphatha kwaye ithintela onke amalungu omphakathi ovalwe. Ukuthotyelwa kwezinto ezihambelanayo kukukhokelela ekuxhomekeke kwintlonipho, umntu ongaphandle kweqela elichaphazelayo akasakwazi ukwenza isigqibo ngokwakhe.
Ziziphi iingenelo kunye nokungonakali kokuvumelana?
Umntu ozelwe kuluntu uziva uxhamla naye, uxanduva oluthile lokuxhamla. I-pros and cons of the conformism, njengenqobo ngokwayo, utshintshe ngosuku olutsha. Imithetho yokuziphatha, imithetho ihlengahlengiswa kumntu wanamhlanje, phantsi koyiko kunye ne-phobias . Imbonakalo yendlela yokuthobela yangaphandle neyangaphakathi ayiqondwanga ngokupheleleyo, kodwa iinjongo zayo zihlala zifanayo:
- intsebenziswano kwiimeko ezinzima apho umntu onesizungu ongenamandla;
- ukunciphisa umthwalo owabelwana ngawo phakathi kwamalungu eqela;
- amandla okuguqulela ngokukhawuleza omntu kuluntu.
Ukulandela imigaqo, umntu ulungele umlingani aze athole izakhono ezisebenzayo. Ukukhanyela inzuzo ye-conformism ayinangqiqo ukuba umntu ucinge ngokukhawuleza kwimeko yangaphandle. Izimo eziyinkimbinkimbi ezivela ngaphandle kokwazi umntu, akusoloko zithobela amandla ayo, amandla abo. Inkxaso enikezelwa liqela ayixabisekanga, kuyimfuneko ekuxazululeni ingxaki ethile.
Ukungahambi kakuhle kwe-conformism yile:
- Ukulahleka kobuqu . Xa umntu ekwaziswa kwangaphambili malunga neemeko zokuba khona kwixesha elizayo, umntu ulahlekelwa ukuxhamla kunye neempawu zakhe zokuzikhethela. Iqela elinemithetho elungisiweyo kunye nemigangatho yobomi ayinikezeli ilungelo lokukhetha, lenziwa ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuba umntu angene kuluntu.
- Ukwehla kwesithunzi somntu . Amalungelo abantu abancinci, ngokukodwa kwiminyaka elishumi edlulileyo, abaxhalabeleli kuphela "iqhuba elimhlophe" kuluntu, kodwa nabo banokubhenela kwininzi. Ubandlululo olwakhiwa ngamakhulu eminyaka edlulileyo, luxhomekeke kwimpilo yanamhlanje kangangokuba akukho mntu uchaza inkcazo yakhe.
- Ukuphuhlisa phantsi inkqubela phambili . Ukuzinza kwengqondo engqondweni kukubi. Indoda enikwe ingcinga eqhubela phambili ayifumananga nantoni na yoluntu.
Isigqibo sesigqeba senziwa ngumgaqo-nkqubo, kwaye emva koko siyayigqugquzela, ngaloo ndlela sikomeleza kummeli ngamnye womntu umnqweno wokuphila ngokulandela imithetho emiselweyo. Ngoko uxinzelelo loluntu luzalazela into eyenza kamva ivelise kwaye ibizwa ngokuba "ubunzima bomntu obomvu". Uluntu apho abanye abameli beentlungu ezihambelanayo zilula ukulawula, ukubeka imbonakalo eyodwa yehlabathi kunye nemeko.
Iintlobo zokuvumelana
Ukwahlulelwa kokuhambelana kweendlela ezihambelanayo. Ukuqwalasela umzekelo wendlela yokubeka abantu kwimimandla inokuthi ivele ngokukhawuleza. Iindidi ze-conformism ziquka:
- ukungqinelana kwangaphakathi nangaphandle kuluntu;
- ubomi ngokubhekiselele kwimilinganiselo eqinile;
- Umbono wengongoma yeso sininzi yembono.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, into enjalo isetyenziswayo (umntu uyazi ukuba kuxhomekeka kwinqanaba), okanye ukungahambisani ncamango nemigaqo evunyelwe ngokubanzi). Ukuvumelanisa kwangaphandle nangaphakathi kubungozi kuyo yonke imbonakalo yayo. Ukuhambelana ngokusebenzayo kubonakalisa ekukhutshweni kwe "I" yayo, kwaye ngenxa yoko kubangela ukuba kuphuhliswe "inceku" enzima. Ifom ye-Passive iboniswa ngokungeniswa okungaqinisekanga kunye nokulahlekelwa ngokupheleleyo kobuntu bomntu.
Iziphumo zokuvumelana
Ukubambisana kunempembelelo enkulu ekubunzeni ngokupheleleyo ubuntu . Ingozi enkulu yokuhambisana (ukuhambelana kwangaphandle nangaphakathi) kumntu kukuba:
- ukwamkelwa kweenkolelo zobuxoki;
- ukwesaba okungenakukwazi ukugwetywa kwesininzi;
- Umbono ojongene nomhlaba wehlabathi udala amaxabiso amanga.
Akunanto yinto enxanelekileyo yokuhlaselwa kunye nokubonakaliswa kwe-maximalism ngokukhethekileyo kuphela kwisizukulwana esincinane, esingenalo ithonya eliqhubekayo kuluntu. Ingqungquthela yokuhambelana nomthetho ibandakanya uxinzelelo oluqhubekayo kumntu onokungabaza ukufaneleka kwemithetho ethile eyenziwe yiseli ethile yoluntu.
Ukubambisana - njani ukulahla?
Ingxaki ebalulekileyo yokuhambelana nokuziphatha kukuba kunzima ukulahla eso sininzi esinqwenelekayo, esincinci sokuthanda abantu. Umzabalazo wokulwa nokuxhomekeka kuluntu kunye neziseko zawo zokuziphatha ziqala ngolwazi olunzulu:
- inkcazelo yomntu njengomntu ozimeleyo;
- ukuqonda ngenkululeko yabo kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi;
- ukuqonda kwamalungelo abo njengomntu kunoma yimuphi uluntu.
Indoda ephantsi kwengcinezelo yokuziphatha ebantwini ixesha elide iya kuncedwa ukuba isebenze kunye nengcali yengqondo. Kuba abantu abanqatshelwe ngokwengqondo ukubeka ingcamango, ukulahla ukuvumelanisa okulula kunokuba kunikezele umntu othe tye, umntu wendalo. Umntu obuthathaka ngokwengqondo unomdla kakhulu kunokwakheka ngaphandle.