Ukuba awuzange uphumule ngamanzi kwaye ngokukhawuleza ube nephupha, apho uhlamba khona, inokuyenza ingqiqo. Eyona nto ingcono kakhulu, ukuba xa uphupha uzibona ngokwakho emanzini ahlazileyo, acacileyo kunye acocekileyo. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo amaphupha alo hlobo afanekisela impumelelo emsebenzini, kwimicimbi yabantu, kunye nokuphila kakuhle kwezemali, mhlawumbi kungekudala ulindela ibhande elimhlophe emsebenzini kunye nokwanda kwimivuzo.
Kuthiwa ukuba uphupha ngokubhukuda emlanjeni ongcolileyo - ufuzisela ukutshabalalisa kwixesha elizayo ixesha elinzima ebomini. Umntu unokujamelana nokungaphumeleli kwaye mhlawumbi iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zezifo, kodwa xa ubona iphupha elinjalo, ungakhathazeki, kwaye bhetele uzilungiselele kusengaphambili ukuxazulula iingxaki ezisondelayo uze uzame ukwenza konke ukuze umzimba ungadli ngokugula.
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Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba ubukhulu bomlambo apho umntu agibela ephupheni kubalulekile, kuba luphawu lokungabalulekanga nje kuphela, kodwa namandla omntu wesini. Abantu abaphuphayo ukuba bayabhukuda emfuleni omkhulu, ngokubhekiselele kwincwadi yephupha likaFreud, bahluke kwiingcamango zangaphambili zomsindo. Kwakhona luphawu lothando olukhulu. Abantu abaninzi bazibuza into yokuba iphupha lokubhukuda ngaphesheya komlambo - uphawu olugqibeleleyo lokuba kungekudala yonke iminqweno yakho iya kuba yinyani.
Abantu abaphuphayo ukuba banamanzi emlanjeni abanako ukwesaba, kuba iphupha lolo hlobo lufanekisela ukuba unabo bahlobo abangenakuze balahle kwaye baya kuhlala behlangula. Ukuba umntu uhlamba emlanjeni - oku kukuphawu lokuphumelela kwangaphambili. Kungenxa yoko, ukuba uthetha emlanjeni ugqoke ngokupheleleyo, uthembisa imali eninzi. Kufanelekile ukuthobela ingqalelo xa uphupha emlanjeni uphupha iimpahla kunye neengubo zithatyathwa enye, ngokufanelekileyo kungakhokelela kwimiphumo engathandekiyo. Iphupha oyifakayo emlanjeni luphawu lokuqala komgca omhlophe ebomini.