Yonke intombazana ikwazi ukuphupha ephupheni, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ikhulelwe ngokwenene okanye ayiyikucwangcisa okwamanje. Ngaphantsi kangangoko iphupha elinjalo lingaphupha indoda. Umtoliki odumileyo wamaphupha, uSigmund Freud, unikezela izinto ezahlukeneyo, apho aphupha khona ukuba azibonele ukhulelwe:
- Kungekudala intombazana okanye umfazi uya kukhulelwa;
- Ukukhulelwa sele kuqalile, kodwa umama ozayo akayikukuqonda oku;
- Intombazana okanye ibhinqa eliye labona iphupha elinjalo, eqinisweni, lifuna ukukhulelwa;
- Kubomi bomntu ophupha iphupha elinjalo, kwixesha elizayo kuya kuba neenguqu ezibalulekileyo.
Kukho ezinye iincwadi zokuphupha, ezichaza ngokucacileyo oko kuthetha ukuthini ngokwakho kwiphupha elikhulelweyo. Ngokutsho kwencwadi yephupha likaMiller, ukuba loo ndoto ivakatyezwe ngumfazi okhulelwe, umntu unokulindela ukukhulelwa okulula, ukuzalwa kuza kudlula kakuhle, umntwana uya kuqina kwaye abe nempilo. Ngomfazi ongekho isikhundla sokuzibona ekhulelwe ephuphayo, kulungile ukuba ulinde ukuxabana kunye neengxabano kunye nomthandayo. Kodwa kwintombi leyo ingaba yintlanzi yehlazo elikhulu.
Ukuchazwa kwamaphupha anamhlanje
Incwadi yamaphupha yanamhlanje ibuye iguqulelwe yona, kutheni iphupha lokubona ukhulelwe. Kwintombazana ehlwempuzekileyo le nto ibonakalisa ubutyebi bexesha elide, kodwa isityebi, ngokuchaseneyo, iphupha elinjalo lingabonakalisa intshabalalo. Kwindoda ekhulelwe - ekubeni inzala yakhe iya kuphumelela, umntwana uya kuba namandla, kwaye umama omncinci uya kuphinda abuyele amandla akhe ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa kwintombi ekhulile - ekufeni ngokukhawuleza.
Kungakho nokuba umntu uyazibona ekhuphayo ephuphayo. Ukufumana umtshato, oko kungathetha umtshato wokuqala, ukuba umntu otshatileyo - ngokuchaseneyo, umtshato, u-. Ubomi bomntu bubutshintsha kakhulu. Kodwa ukuba umntu ubona ephupheni umfazi wakhe ukhulelwe, kuthetha ukuba uyamthanda kakhulu, nangona akayiqondi into.
Nangona iincwadi ezahlukeneyo zephupha zinokuthi zitshintshe iindlela ezahlukeneyo ozibona ukhulelwe ngazo, unokuzichaza kwaye uziqonde. Okokuqala, kufuneka uziphulaphule, uqaphele okokuva amava anokukuthukumeza ngokwenene. Umzekelo, ukuba awukwazi ukukhulelwa umntwana ixesha elide, kodwa kakhulu ukuhamba malunga nalo, iphupha ngokukhulelwa lingamane libonakalise umnqweno wakhe, ngelixa kungekho nto ithetha.