Ngoku ngoku kaninzi amantombazana aseburhulumenteni abhala "efuna umyeni ongumSilamsi", ecinga ukuba amaSulumane abe yinkampani enenzuzo kakhulu - ayenqabela ukusebenzisa utywala kunye nenkolo, kwaye intsapho yabo ingcwele. Kodwa ngaba kunjalo ngokwenene kwiintsapho zamaSilamsi? Ngokuqinisekileyo kukho ezinye ezikhethileyo apha.
Umyeni wamaSulumane, umfazi ongumKristu
Amantombazana amaninzi anomdla ukuba ingaba umfazi ongumKristu ukutshata nomSilamsi, nokuba umfazi wakhe akayi kutyunjwa ukuba amkele enye inkolo? Ngaphantsi kwemithetho yama-Islam, umKristu akanakulilahlela ukholo lwakhe, kodwa akakwazi ukuvelisa umntwana ebuKristwini-uya kufuneka abe ngumSilamsi. Kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba abazali baseMzulane bahlonishwa kakhulu, ngoko ke igama labo lihlala lilingana nomthetho. Yaye ukuba ngaba abazali bahlukunyezwa ngumtshakazi ongumKristu, loo mntu uya kuphelisa ubuhlobo kunokuphikisana nabazali bakhe.
Ukutshata ngenxa yamaMuslim - iimpawu zentsapho yamaSilamsi
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abasetyhini bacinga ngendlela yokutshata nomSilamsi, kwaye kungekhona indlela yokuhlala naye. Ukuze ukwazi ukuba ngumSilamsi, azikho iingxaki ezikhethekileyo-ukuba ngaba abafuywayo abafanelekanga, unokuzikhangela kwiholide okanye kwiiyunivesithi ezamkela abafundi bangaphandle, kunye ne-Intanethi. Kodwa ngaphambi kokushiya amadoda enkolo yakho, cinga ukuba ungayigcina yonke imithetho yomndeni wamaSilamsi. Kukho izinto ezilandelayo kwaye akusiyo yonke intokazi eya kwamkelekileyo. Ewe, yonke into ixhomekeka kubantu, kodwa ukulungela ixesha elinjalo kukuba:
- Ungakhathazeki malunga nombuzo wendlela intombazana okufanele iyenze ngayo nomntu ongumSilamsi, kuba umntu okhethiweyo ungumntu "ophakamileyo"? Musa ukukhawuleza ukugweba. Ngokuqhelekileyo amaSulumane, kude neentsapho zabo, bayalibale ngemithetho ethile kunye namasiko, kodwa xa bebuyela ekhaya, bahlala bekhumbula ngokukhawuleza. Ngako oko, qhelana nobazali bakhe, mbonelele "kwindawo yokuzalwa". Ukuba akukho nto yokulumkisa, kulungile. Kodwa ukuba ubona ukuzinikela okukhulu kwizithethe, lungela ukuba emva komtshato uza kuba unyanzelekile ukuba uzukise.
- Igama lomyeni kumfazi ngumthetho, akanalo ilungelo lokungathobeli. Nangona kunjalo, amadoda aphulaphule oko abafazi babo bacebisa, nangona ilizwi lokugcina lihlala kubo.
- Ukuthabatha umyeni nokukhokela indlu yinto esemqoka yomfazi. Imvume yokuya emsebenzini kufuneka ibuzwe kumyeni wayo, kwaye ngelo xesha akukho mntu uya kususa imisebenzi yasekhaya nomfazi.
- Abafazi baseMuslim kufuneka bakukholise iliso lomyeni, kwaye bangabanye abantu. Ngoko ke, zonke iingubo kunye nomzimba kuya kufuneka zifihle phantsi kweengubo kwaye zinciphise amehlo xa zidibana namanye amadoda. Lo mgaqo usebenza kubafazi baseSilamsi, kodwa nakumfazi ongumKristu, indoda ingayifuna, ngakumbi ukuba uhlala kuluntu lwaseMuslim.
- Kwakhona, umfazi makangamkeli umyeni wakhe kwindawo ekufutshane ngaphandle kokuya esikhathini, emva kokubeleka, ngexesha lokugula okanye i-hajj.
- Umfazi akanalo ilungelo lokushiya indlu ngaphandle kwemvume yomyeni wakhe. Ukongeza, kufuneka ufunde indlela yokuhamba ngesilumko kwaye ungangeni endlwini yomnye umntu ngaphandle kwemvume yomyeni wakhe.
- AmaSulumane anelungelo lokuzimela abafazi aba-4 ukuba banethuba lokubanika bonke kwaye bayaqiniseka ukuba baya kubaphatha ngokulinganayo. Nangona kunjalo, amadoda, qha ga mshelana nomfazi wabo wokuqala malunga nokuba akahambisani nomfazi wesibini. Kwaye, ndimele ndithi, ngoku isithembu asenzeki kangangoko nje ngaphambili,
kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo kukho izizathu zezi zinto - ngokomzekelo, ukungabikho komntwana, isifo esibi, njl njl. Kukho nawuphi na, eli lixesha elihle lokuchaza ngaphambi komtshato. - Qaphela ukuba amadoda aseMuslim anelungelo lokuhlwaya abafazi babo ngokungathobeli inkani. Kodwa isijeziso somzimba singumlinganiselo ogqithiseleyo, akufanele sishiye impawu emzimbeni, kwaye ukuba kunjalo, ke lona mfazi unelungelo lokufuna umtshato.
- Xa umtshato uqhawula umtshato, umKristu akanakwenzeka ukuba athole umntwana, kuba ngokwemithetho yamaSilamsi, ukuba umfazi akayena umSilamsi, abantwana bahlala noyise.
Mhlawumbi, le mithetho ibonakala iyinkimbinkimbi kwaye ingenakuqondakala kumfazi ongeyena ongumSilamsi. Kodwa kumntu ongumSilamsi ozukisa inkolo yakhe, uya kufumana umntu othembekileyo, othembekileyo, onyanisekileyo, onobubele, onobubele kunye neempawu eziphathekayo zokuziphatha, kwaye ungenalo utywala ngotywala, oza kukuthanda kunye nabantwana, ukuhlonela izihlobo zakho kwaye akuyi kukuthintela ukuhlonela ukuvuma.