Ukhohlakeleli ligama elingenayo i-decoding. Phantse onke amabhinqa ubuncinane kanye kanye ebomini bakhe, kodwa wafumana ukungcatshwa kwendoda yakhe ethandekayo.
Ubudlelwane phakathi kwesini nesifundo esiyinkimbinkimbi nesininzi. Imfihlelo yokuwa emthandweni, ubude baloo mvakalelo kunye nokuphela kwayo kwanamhlanje alungaziwa kwaye akafundanga. Kule nxu lumano ukuba kunzima ukuyiqinisekisa okanye ukuphikisa inkcazo "ukuba umntu utshintshile, ngoko akasakuthandi."
Kule nqaku siza kuzama ukuphendula umbuzo othi "Kutheni amadoda atshintsha abafazi?"
Kutheni umntu otshatileyo ekopela umfazi?
Amadoda athetha ukunyanzela amaxesha amaninzi amaxhoba obundlobongela obushushu kwiindawo zabo zomfazi. Ukuba akavumi ukuba uyamkeleka kwintsapho yakhe, uya kukhangela amantombazana e-side-chapels ukuze aphinde azive "ehashe."
Amadoda athetha ukuba ukunyaniseka kwakungekho ekuthandeni kwakhe, kuba kule ngxelo ehlazo, utywala, iziyobisi kunye nabasetyhini babecala ukuba babandakanyeke, abasithi babeziphosa entanyeni. Akukho ndleko yokukholelwa, akukho lililo elinye! Indoda, ekubeni ngumntu omdala owaziwayo, ngaphambi kokuba enze nayiphi na into eyenziwa ngayo, acinga ngemiphumo eya kuyenzeka, ngoko kholelwa ukuba isiganeko "kwakukuthanda kwamathuba" kungekhona.
Kutheni umyeni utshintsha umfazi wakhe - izizathu
Kukho izizathu ezininzi ezenza umntu ahambe ngendlela enokungahloniphi.
- Umfazi wam walahlekelwa ngumyeni wakhe wangaphambili. Akukho mfihlelo yokuba umfazi emva komtshato udla ngokuqala ukubukela ubuncinane. Akunjalo ngenxa yokuba akafuni, kodwa ngenxa yokuba uninzi lweembopheleleko zentsapho kumagxa akhe kwaye akanalo ixesha kuye, kwaye amadoda akayikuqonda oku.
- Ndandiyithanda omnye umfazi. Oku akukwenzekayo nangenxa yokuba umfazi wakhe ulahlekelwa ngumtsalane wakhe, akafani nobudemon obuhle kunanini ngaphambili, kunzima kumntu ukuba adibanise nokuba phakathi kweentlobo zeentombi ezilungileyo kufuneka aphile ubomi bakhe bonke.
- Akukho zihloko eziqhelekileyo kwingxoxo. Xa umfana emva komtshato efumanisa ukuba akanayo into yokuthetha ngokukodwa kwisiqingatha sakhe sesibini, ukhangelele "udibaniso" oluluncedo kwicala, aze abuyele ekhaya.
- Ukunyamekela kobudlelwane obukhululekile. Amanye amadoda asemvelo akakwazi ukunyaniseka omnye. Ewe, kodwa ungene emtshatweni nomfazi othile kwaye umbiza ngokuba ngumfazi wakhe, kodwa akanakuphelelwa yithuba lokuba abe yedwa kunye nomfazi othile omhle.
- Ukusola ngokungathembeki komfazi wakhe. Umlingane ngezinye amaxesha unokungabaza ukuzinikela kwesiqingatha sakhe sesibini kwaye ngexesha elifanayo akafumani indlela engcono kunokuba aphinde aphinde aphinde aphinde aphinde aphinde aphinde aphinde aphinde aphinde aphinde aphinde aphinde aphinde athathe.
Kutheni umyeni ekopela umfazi okhulelweyo?
Njengoko akuyiyo into eyenzekayo, kodwa umnqweno wokufumana umntwana udla ngokuphindaphindiweyo kumantombazana kunokuba kumakhwenkwe kwaye kulo mzuzu uqala. Indoda, ivumela umfazi kunye nemigangatho yentlalo, ikhetha ukuthatha isinyathelo esinzulu njengoko ukuzalwa komntwana, ngamanye amaxesha, kungakulungelelwanga oku.
Abasetyhini, njengoko kwaziwa ngenxa yeenguqu ze-hormones kwisigxina ngexesha lokukhulelwa, ngamanye amaxesha ayinakubekezeleleka, ahlaziye, ahlala ehlaziywa. Indoda, engaziqondi nto ebangela ukuba lo mzi womfazi uthathe isigqibo sokuba akasamthandi kwaye kaninzi uzimisele ukumngcatsha.
Iingcali zengqondo zincoma kwiimeko ezinjalo, zibambe umthandayo ngeemigaqo malunga noko kuya kufuneka anyamezele kwiinyanga ezili-9 ezizayo. Unokumnika ukuba afunde uncwadi olukhethekileyo, ukuze aqiniseke ukuba yonke ikamva lakho "izenzo ezinqabileyo" zinokwenzululwazi.