Kukholelwa ukuba ukulahleka, ukwahlukana okanye ukwahlukana nomntu onalobudlelwane obude - oku kukutshatyalaza kakhulu. Ukususela ixesha elide lichithe ndawonye, isi sibini siba sisinye, kwaye indoda kunye nobomi bakhe inxalenye yowesifazane ngokwakhe. Kunzima ukwahlula inxalenye yakho kumnye umntu. Kukho uluvo lokuba isiqingatha sithuba esichithwa kunye sisetyenziswe kumava. Kodwa musa ukunika ithuba lokuba iimvakalelo zangaphambili zonakalise! Funda ukushiya ngasemva. Lo msebenzi onzima kuwe, kwaye kude kube yinto oyenzayo, iingcango zenye ubomi ziya kuvalwa. Ukungavumelani kwimeko kungumzabalazo ongenalusizo owonakalisayo nobuhlungu kumphefumlo.
Ndingakuvumela njani ukuhamba komntu othandekayo?
- Kufuneka udibane kwaye uxoxe ngezinto zonke ngokuzithoba, khetha nje ixesha elifanelekileyo kwincoko. Ukuba umntu ushiya enye, unqwenela inhlanhla kwaye uthethe.
- Zama ukucinga okungakumbi malunga nokuhlukana. Ukuphazamiseka, hamba ngakumbi, hamba eholide, qhagamshelana nabahlobo kwaye ungahlali kunye neengcamango zakho zodwa.
- Cinga kakuhle ngobuhlobo bakho. Yintoni ababenayo ngaphezulu-emihle okanye engendawo? Mhlawumbi ukuhlukana kwakho kungcono kuphela.
- Zama ukuxelela umntu ngeentlungu zakho, kwaye uchithe ixesha elincinane.
- Ukunyaniseka nawe. Wena ngokwakho awufuni ukumvumela ukuba ahambe. Hlala ukhumbule inkumbulo yakho yothando, engasayikho. Uloyike intlungu, ungabikho nto kwaye uqale kwakhona. Khawucinge ukuba akuyi kuba buhlungu. Ukuba ufumene oku, uza kunqoba yonke into.
- Yenza into. Umsebenzi uza kukunceda, kuzo zonke iimeko. Ngeke ube nexesha losizi. Ukuba awusebenzi, ke uncike ngakumbi ekufundeni, ubhalisele iikhosi, ufunde ulwimi - thabatha lonke ixesha elingasigxina.
- Ukuzibandakanya kwimidlalo, kunceda ngokukhawuleza ukujamelana noxinzelelo. Unako ukukhulula i-steam, yonke inzondo eqokelelwe emphefumlweni. Iimvakalelo ezimbi ziqokelelwa ngumntu ngaphakathi.
- Unokuvumela kuphela ukuhamba kwindoda yangaphambili xa uqaphela ukuba akuyiyo ikusasa lakho ukuba libe kunye. Kuze uqonde oku - musa ukuhamba. Imvakalelo yakho iya kudlula ngexesha, into ephambili - ungayinikezeli xa usuqedile yonke into. Qiniseka ukuba yonke into yenziwe ngokufanelekileyo. Uyakuziva ulunge, kuba uvumela umntu ukuba ahambe-siyayeka ukuba sihambe.
- Ngexesha lakho lokukhulula, cinga indlela ubomi bakho buguquka ngayo. Ngoku udweba imifanekiso kwiingcamango, nokuba kunzima kangakanani ngaphandle komntu othandekayo, kwaye utshintshe isalathiso. Kukunceda ngakumbi ukwenza lo msebenzi emva kokuvuswa nangaphambi kokulala.
- Yamkela lakho elidlulileyo, musa ukukhanyela into kwaye ungazitshi. Kodwa yishiye emva kwinqanaba elidlulileyo. Awukwazi ukuqhubela phambili ukuba ukhangele phambili.
- Sebenzisa isithethe sokuthetha. Gubungela amehlo kwaye ucinge ngendlela owakuthandayo ngayo ngaphambili emnyango wakho, mvumele endlwini yakhe, athethe ngengqondo naye. Mxelele oko ufunayo, ekunikeni ukuba uyaphula. Mfuna kakuhle, kwaye mkhokele. Thatha umoya ovulekileyo, uvule amehlo akho. Ngoku uhamba ngendlela yakho ukuya kwikamva.
Indlela yokukhulula umyeni oshonile?
- Amaxesha amaninzi amava anxulumene neemvakalelo zetyala. Masithi ungayithobeli ingqalelo kumntu oshonile okanye into eyamcaphukisa. Ngoku uhlala ukhumbule oku, uhlushwa yesazela kunye nokuguquka. Kukho nawuphi na, intlungu ayiyona indlela engcono yokuhlengwa. Ukukhulula isohlwayo lakho ngezenzo ezilungileyo, kunceda umntu.
- Vula ingcamango. "Ukungenakwenzeka" sele kwenzekile. Awuyi kutshintsha nayiphi na iinyembezi. Uya kwanezela nje iingxaki kwiintsapho zakho ukuba unciphise impilo yakho nengqondo. Zigcine ngesandla ngenxa
inkumbulo yomfi. - Ukuba unqulo, zama ukuthuthukiswa yinkolo. Thandazela umfi, ukuba kunzima kuwe - kuthetha nombingeleli. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuzola ufune ukuthetha ngaphandle.
- Zama ukuqinisekisile ukuba ngokuqinisekileyo umfi uya kubuhlungu xa ebona iinyembezi neentlungu.
- Shiya intloko yakho ukusebenza.
Indlela yokuyeka umntu othandayo, akubalulekanga kumntu owayengumyeni okanye umntu oya kuqonda xa uzama iindlela ezibhaliweyo - wonke umntu unendlela yakhe. Musa ukubambelela kwiimvakalelo ezidlulileyo kuba inyaniso ilula: uyayithanda-vumela ukuba uyenayo-uya kubuya.