Nangona bokuba phantse bonke abesifazana bahamba ngokukhipha isisu ngamabomu, abaninzi banokukhathazeka ngombuzo wokuba kunokwenzeka njani ukuba ukhulelwe emva kokukhipha isisu, kwaye kungekudala oku kwenzeka ntoni. Izizathu zentsalo enjalo ziyimvelo, abanye abafuni ukuphinda inkqubo, ngelixa abanye, ngokuchaseneyo, baceba ukuba nabantwana kwikamva kwaye banenkxalabo malunga nemiphumo enokwenzeka.
Kule nqaku, siza kuthetha xa ungakhulelwa emva kokukhipha isisu, nokuba ngaba kunokwenzeka.
Amathuba okukhulelwa emva kokukhipha isisu
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukukhipha isisu kuyinkqubo enobungozi, enobungozi obuhlukeneyo bomsebenzi wokuzala, kuquka ukungabikho komntwana. Nangona kunjalo, amathuba okuba nemiphumo emibi kunye nokungakwazi ukufumana abantwana kwikamva ngokuxhomekeke kwizinto ezinjalo:
- indlela yokwenza inkqubo;
- imiqathango apho ukukhulelwa kwaphazamiseka khona;
- ubugcisa begqirha;
- izifo ezidibeneyo kunye nempilo jikelele yowesifazane.
Ukukhulelwa emva kweentlobo ezahlukeneyo zokukhipha isisu
Ngokunene, into ebandezelekileyo isisu sokukhipha isisu , esenziwa ngokukhangela isisu esiswini kunye nombungu. Nangona kunjalo, nangemva kokukhupha isisu, unokukhulelwa ngokukhawuleza (kwiiveki ezimbini). Oku kwenzeka kwimeko apho inkqubo ihamba ngaphandle kweengxaki, umsebenzi wokuzala kwakhona uqala.
Kodwa oogqirha abanqweneli kakhulu ukungeniswa kwimeko enjalo ngezizathu ezininzi:
- Okokuqala, ukuba ibhinqa liyakhulelwa emva kwenyanga emva kokukhipha isisu, ayitsho ukuba umzimba wakhe ubuyiselwe ngokupheleleyo emva koxinzelelo lwexinzelelo.
- Okwesibini, ukukhulelwa okulandelayo kungaba yingxaki kakhulu, kuba kukho uluhlu olupheleleyo lwezilwanyana ezinokuhlangabezana nazo ukuba umfazi ukhulelwe ngokukhawuleza emva kokukhipha isisu.
Ngako oko, izazi zonyango zikholelwa ukuba ixesha elincinci xa unokukhulelwa emva kokukhipha isisu akufanele kube ngaphantsi kweenyanga ezintathu. Amathuba okukhulelwa emva kokuphazamiseka kwezonyango ayancitshiswa, kodwa kuphela xa ukukhipha isisu kungekho miphumo.