Njengobulumko bendoda, ukugcina ixesha akusoloko kungabikho kobutyebi bookumkani. Kodwa ke kwaba ngumkhwa ngamaninzi okanye kwintetho enokuthi intombazana, umzekelo, ngosuku kufuneka ihlale ihamba emva kwemizuzu eyi-15. Nangona kunjalo, lo mkhuba onobungozi wokulibala oko kuthetha ukugcina ixesha kuye kwaba yinto engenakulinganiswa yobomi kuphela kubafazi abathile, kodwa nangenxa yesondo esomeleleyo.
Injongo yegama lokugcina ixesha kukuzaliseka ngokucacileyo kwemiyalelo enikeziweyo, ukuchaneka ngokugqithiseleyo. Olu luphawu lwesimilo, oluhambelanayo ngokungagqibekanga kwimimiselo ethile kunye neemeko, kwaye konke oku kudibaniswa ngokungenakuqhathaniswa nexesha, kunye nekhono lokuba bobabini bafike ngexesha lokuqeshwa, njl., Kwaye banikele umsebenzi ofunekayo ngexesha.
Ukuba uhlala uyilibala malunga nokuba yixesha elingakanani ixesha laseJamani, lithetha ngawe njengomntu onengqondo, umntu ongenakuziphendulela, onokuthenjelwa, oku kubonisa ukungabi nako ukuqeqeshwa.
Ngendlela, malunga nokufika kwexesha lesiJalimane. IJamani lizwe elikhethekileyo kuzo zonke iinjongo zegama. Kwaye iyakubona ubuqu bokwenyani. AmaJamani aqwalasela ukulibaziseka ukuba ifomu elibi, ngokukodwa xa lichaphazela abafundi, ke oku kukulibaziseka kweemina kunye neentetho. Ukuba kwakufuneka uhlale kunye nexesha lakho lokungahambi ngexesha laseJamani, ngoko amaJamani aya kukudibanisa ukulibaziseka okulandelayo ngamazwi: "Namhlanje, njengesiqhelo, ngokwexesha lesiRashiya."
Xa umntu sele ephuzile, ucinga ukuba udala ukuba akayizi indlela yokubeka ingqwalasela ngokufanelekileyo kwaye akakwazi ukuqonda ukubaluleka kwabo babini ebomini naseziganekweni zakhe, kwaye ngenxa yoko, ngokwakhe. Emva koko, uyalibala malunga nexabiso le mpawu njengempawu zokugcina.
Akunjalo nje ukuba abaqeshi bakho okanye abantu abahluphekayo ngexesha lakho lokulibala liza kuthatha ukulibaziseka kwakho njengobonakaliso bokungabikho nokungahloneli. Uxanduva kunye nokugcina ixesha zidibeneyo. Ukungabikho komnye wabo kubangela ukulahlekelwa yintlonelo ebantwini ebalulekileyo kuwe (oogxa nabo, abaqhelana nabo, amaqabane, abahlobo), imali kunye nexesha.
Abantu abagcina ixesha bayazi indlela yokwabela ixesha labo, bazi ukuba bayayixabisa njani, oko kuthetha ukuba basenkosi epheleleyo yobomi babo. Ukuqwalasela ukugcina ixesha kubonisa ukuba uyamhlonela umntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uya kunye nawe ukutya isidlo sasemini okanye ukugqiba isivumelwano somsebenzi. Abanye abantu bahamba ngokukhawuleza kwintlanganiso ukuze babonise ukubaluleka nokubaluleka. Kodwa ngolu hlobo babonisa ukungabi nantlonelo kwabo bazilindeleyo, kwaye beba ixesha labanye abantu.
Cinga ngeendlela zokuncedisa kumbuzo wokuphuhlisa ukugcina ixesha:
- Ukuvakalelwa kwexesha. Ngoxa uphethe umlindi okanye isitophuwashi, ubale imizuzwana engama-60 ungakhangeli. Emva koko, jonga iziphumo. Emva koko zama ukujonga iminithi, kodwa ungabaleli imizuzwana uze ukhangele kwakhona umphumo wakho. Ukuba kukho ukumahluko phakathi kwexesha lakho lokuzimela kunye nelona lokwenene, kufuneka wenze lo msebenzi ngeveki ezimbini. Emva koko uza kubona umphumo ocacileyo.
- Iwashi yeAlam. Ukususela kwixesha apho ufuna ukuphuma, susa i-cola imizuzu 10-15. Hambisa iwashi yakho ye-alamu ngeli xesha kwaye ngoku unokuziva ukhululekile.
- Ibhokisi le-champagne. Ukuba ufumene ukuba ukugula kakubi akulungile, ngoko unokubeka umngcipheko kwaye uxubushe nabahlobo okanye abahlobo bakho abaqala ngomso, uya kuba ngumntu osisigxina. "Ibhokisi nge-champagne" kukulahlekelwa yintlawulo yakho xa ungagcinanga isithembiso sakho.
- Iiyure ezikhawulezileyo. Zama ukuguqula iintolo zogqirha lakho malunga nemizuzu eyi-10-15 ngaphambili. Emva kwithuba elithile uzasetyenziselwa "iiyure zokukhawuleza" kunye namathuba akho wokuba ufikeleleka angancitshiswa kakhulu.
- Itikiti kwidiza. Xa ucwangcisa nayiphi na intlanganiso, cinga ukuba uya esikhuphini-moya kwaye kufuneka ube ngexesha elimiselweyo kwindawo ebekwe kuyo, ngaphandle kokuba ithikithi lakho lendiza linokuphonswa kwibhokisi yokuvota. Akukho mntu uya kulinda.
Ngoko, njengoko kuvela, ukuba ngumntu wokugcina ixesha kumnandi kakhulu. Kubalulekile kakhulu ukufuna kwaye unokufunda ukuhlala ixesha ngexesha elicetywayo.