Ubuntwana, abantu abadala bafunda umntwana wabo ukuncedisa indlu, baziphucule baze bafunde kakuhle. Omnye unikezwa lula, ezinye zihamba ngamanyathelo amancinci, kodwa ekugqibeleni zilungelelanisa izilindele zabazali. Kukho uluhlu lwabantwana abalungile kuyo yonke into, kodwa ngenxa yezizathu ezingaziwa abafuni ukusebenzisa ixesha kunye nenzuzo. Kucacile ukuba ngabanye kuthi ngamanye amaxesha sifuna ukuba sivila kakhulu kwaye sichithe ixesha kwiqheqa. Kodwa xa umntwana ehlala eshiya umsebenzi kwaye engafuni ukufunda izifundo , abazali baqala "ukubetha iintsimbi".
Ukukhangela ingcinezelo
Yonke into inokuqala kwaye ubuvila beemvumba zakho sele zathatha ingcambu ngesizathu. Ekuqaleni abantwana bayakhuthaza kwaye banceda abantu abadala. Ngoko ngaphambi kokuba ukhaliphe kwaye ujezise umntwana wakho, zama ukuqonda imbangela yolu hlobo.
- Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana abafuni ukwenza nantoni ngenxa yokungabi nalutho. Ukuba umntwana kufuneka enze into nje ngenxa yokuba kufuneka yenziwe, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuba neentloni. Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana babheka abazali babo kwaye abavumelanga ukuba bamkele indlela yokuziphatha xa kufuneka benze oko bafanele bakwenze. Umsebenzi wakho kukuthi unomdla kunye nenkqubo uqobo kwaye ukhuthaze ukuba usebenze. Ukuba ufuna ukuba ngumphathi omkhulu kwaye uhlale esihlalweni sesikhumba - funda ukucinga nokusebenza, ukuba ufuna idoli - fumana ezinye iityshi ngendlela.
- Ukwesaba ukungaphumeleli. Nangona abantu abadala kunye nabantu abaphumelele kakhulu basebenzisa ibinzana elithi "ukuba liyasebenza," "Andiqinisekanga, kodwa ndiya kuzama." Ngaloo ndlela, silungiselela umhlaba ukusilela kwangaphambili, ukuze kamva sikwazi ukubhekisela kwinto yokuba yonke into yayibhalwe ekuqaleni. Abantwana benza okufanayo. Bafuna iindlela zokubuyela kuzo, ukuze bangacasuli. Kodwa bakhetha iifomu ezahlukeneyo: ubuvila njengokhuseleko kwimpilo embi, ukukhathala. Umntwana uvakalelwa kukuba umsebenzi othile uthatha amandla akhe, kwaye kuvela isifo sobuvila. Endlwini apho abazali behlala behlala kwisigqi sokugqithisa umthwalo kwaye banikezele imisebenzi emininzi kumntwana, ookugqibela uya kuba uvila ngaphandle kwekhefu. Kodwa kulo mzekelo, ubuvila buzuza ubuninzi bokunganakwa kunye nokudandatheka.
- Kukho imeko echaseneyo, xa umama kunye nogogo bazama kakhulu. Isiphumo asiyi kudala ukuza. Ukuba umntwana usuhlala kule migaqo iminyaka emininzi, uze uyibuyise ngokukhawuleza ayisebenzi. Uya kufuneka uchithe ixesha elide ukuze usebenzise enye imodeli yokuziphatha. Njengomthetho, ingxaki iqhubekela phambili ekuqaleni kwesikolo.
- Uhlobo oluyingozi lokuziphatha kwabazali xa umntwana ezama ukwenza umntu omdala ngaphambi kwesikhathi. Ukungabikho kwemidlalo kunye nokunyakaza ebomini beemvuthu kubangela ukuphendula ngokukhusela ngendlela yobunene.
Sinokuyilombulula njani ingxaki?
Ngokumangalisayo, kodwa into yokuqala kufuneka kusebenze ngokwakho. Musa ukunyamekela umntwana osemgangathweni kwaye umnike ithuba lokuzibonakalisa. Ungawuqedanga ishishini liqaliswe nguye ekugqibeleni. Umntwana kufuneka afundiswe ukuba yonke into aqale ngayo kufuneka agqibe kwaye abe noxanduva lwale nto.
Musa ukulayisha umntwana wakho ngaso sonke ixesha. Xa umthwalo ungapheli ukuphumla okupheleleyo, umzimba usebenza ngale ndlela: uyagula kwaye ke unike ithuba lokuphumla. Masisebenzise ubuncinane olunye usuku ngeveki kangangoko umntwana afuna.
Ngaba uye wacinga ukuba umntwana ukhululekile kakhulu ukuba uvila? Uyakwazi oku kwaye uyisebenzise njengesihlangu: ezijikelezileyo ziya kwamkela oku njengoko kunikezelweyo, kwaye ukugwetywa kufuneke kunganyanzelwanga. Kwaye kwenzeka ukuba kulula ukuzenza ngathi uvila kunokuya esikolweni kwaye usombulule iingxaki kunye noontanga okanye ukulungisa isiphumo.
Umsebenzi womzali ukuqonda apho iilenze zikhula khona kwaye zifunde indlela yokujonga iindlela zokusombulula ingxaki. Kumele ube luncedo kwaye rhoqo uncede umntwana wakho anqobe ukungabi nantoni yokwenza nantoni na, khuthaza impumelelo yakhe kuyo yonke indlela kwaye ikhuthaze.